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Just looking for some real advice please. I don't know what other details to provide but if you have had to deal with this i want to hear from you Thanks :thumbsup:
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Try one of these. Should stop the ditching problem.
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Many parents have had or will have this problem, so your not alone in this. What i did was I went to the school and spoke to my kids teachers and the school principal about this issue. I excorted my kid to school and picked my kid up when school was done. I took all his games away and added extra time onto his loss of games for each class he skipped. The teachers and principal would call me and notify me if my kid skipped class. Right now he hasn't skipped any classes for about 8 months now. I think the loss of games did it and tacking on that extra time of game loss for each class skipped.
Good luck to you I hope my suggestions help.
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My parents had a similar problem and the best thing to do is to talk to him or her find out where the problem is because it has been proven that the school system has seriously deteriorate and the serious lack of educators to teach people have increased so it is important to a.) find out the problem and B.) get more involved in the school and try to make a difference in the curriculum and help your child want to learn
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Take them to a local homeless shelter and walk around asking the individuals there whether or not they graduated high school.
Help them with the work or find someone who can help them. They're probably not skipping class just for the hell of it. They probably aren't confident in their abilities inside the classroom.
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Try one of these. Should stop the ditching problem.
Hahahahhahahahha!! awesome lol... that should do it lol
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Many parents have had or will have this problem, so your not alone in this. What i did was I went to the school and spoke to my kids teachers and the school principal about this issue. I excorted my kid to school and picked my kid up when school was done. I took all his games away and added extra time onto his loss of games for each class he skipped. The teachers and principal would call me and notify me if my kid skipped class. Right now he hasn't skipped any classes for about 8 months now. I think the loss of games did it and tacking on that extra time of game loss for each class skipped.
Good luck to you I hope my suggestions help.
Well my kids is in high school now so its a lot of classes and the problem was happening in the periods in between so i would have to sit in class to make sure she is there. Which i am willing to do at this point she is "trying" harder to stay in class and i haven't had any calls lately but i wanted to hear from someone who9 has had the same problem. Thanks for your input :)
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Take them to a local homeless shelter and walk around asking the individuals there whether or not they graduated high school.
Help them with the work or find someone who can help them. They're probably not skipping class just for the hell of it. They probably aren't confident in their abilities inside the classroom.
I did this and she did say that she didn't get some of the work but her reason for skipping class was that she would walk to slow to class b-cuz she was talking to her friends so it was just her being irresponsible. Thanks for your input. :wave:
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My parents had a similar problem and the best thing to do is to talk to him or her find out where the problem is because it has been proven that the school system has seriously deteriorate and the serious lack of educators to teach people have increased so it is important to a.) find out the problem and B.) get more involved in the school and try to make a difference in the curriculum and help your child want to learn
I totally agree i am involved in her school i go to every meeting,open house,and talk to her counselor frequently as does she. I am hoping it was just a phase and she is over it.
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It's just a phase I did it and then I stopped but I stopped when my parents stopped making a huge deal about it.
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anytime the child is justifying - they are lying - anytime you are justifying your lying - people lie to themselves because they have fear - lack confidence - or just bored (failure to take responsibility) - usually what you see in your child is what they see in you - tell them how you feel and let them live their life - parents responsibility is to encourage - not to make decisions for the child and not to try and live one's own life through the child - take responsibility for your live and your child will take responsibility for theirs - IMHO >> In My Humble Opinion - The MUSEUM, Zazzle, deviantART, ArtFire, FineArtAmerica
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Sit him or her down and have a one-on-one conversation without being too aggressive to the point where the child tunes everything you say out. Do not do all the talking in the conversation and not allow the child to get a word in. Children like to be heard when they speak. Some grown-ups have a tendency to talk over children because they feel like they know everything, but sometimes children can teach grown-ups a few things if they are allowed to speak. Ask the child why they do not like going to the particular class(es)? There is always a reason for everything. I think once the reason for ditching the class(es) is addressed, then the child may change their ways and start back attending the class(es) regularly.
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A kid that keeps on ditching and getting caught an't very bright or really doesn't care.Bottom line needs to stay in school until he figures out how to ditch without getting caught I never got caught but then again I didn't turn out very bright either. HA HA. But tell him from a pro of ditching,hanging out,having fun,being cool,is all great but down the road he'll need that education for a good[great] paying job so he can have fun and the toys to do it with.I never had the toys wish I did like the other guys did but I did have fun and still having fun but without the good stuff. A pro on ditching and having fun from the sixties [great years] and usually broke. :BangHead: :BangHead: And it sounds like you got problems wish you luck
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:sad1:There's a reason for this.. Maybe a bully is bothering him, and is afraid to tell you about,.Sometimes the child is sooo bright, that his school class bores him/her, because they are so far advanced, and they can't stand it. Maybe they feel funny about they clothes they wear, because someone teases them. Ask him about these things. If the class bores him,, he is just too bright, and needs to advance to a higher grade, where he is stimulated.
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Sorry for the problems you are experiencing. I never had that problem because my child never knew when I would drop in at her school. Her teachers and I were partners when it came to what my child was doing or not doing in school.
Open up communication with child to determine why he/she is ditching school. And please listen instead of doing all the talking. It could be the school, teachers, peers that's causing the problem and or stress with classes.
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Sorry for the problems you are experiencing. I never had that problem because my child never knew when I would drop in at her school. Her teachers and I were partners when it came to what my child was doing or not doing in school.
Open up communication with child to determine why he/she is ditching school. And please listen instead of doing all the talking. It could be the school, teachers, peers that's causing the problem and or stress with classes.
Thanks i have always been very active in my kids schools and this year i slacked a lil so that could be it. She had a not so good friend too. She has now been attending school daily tg. :wave: :thumbsup:
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I say taking away all privileges until they shape up. And if they keep ditching, keep taking away stuff, like personal items, allowance. Take their door off its hinges.
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Constantly check up on him, let him know that now he or she has broken your circle of trust, then ground the child. If they can't go to class, they cant' go anywhere else, when we ground our children now adays, we need to do a little more, since they own almost every gadget out there, be sure to take away the things they enjoy, ipod, game systems, televisions. you need to put your foot down and be persistent, if you let them get away, or talk you out of something, they will know they can take an inch when they want, put it down and mean it.
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Seriously what I would do is to call the police department or sheriff's department and see if they have a program where young people could see first hand what could happen to someone if they lose control of their life and break the rules and laws. I don't know how much you are involved in the child'e life ... maybe they need more involvement by you or someone else. Try to find out what is causing the problem and let them know how important an education is ... even more so in this world today than ever before.
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beat em lol
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I was the child that ditched class, especially my senior year when i had a car. The car is what got me places and helped me ditch class. My parents never once asked me how i was doing in school or acted like they cared.. so maybe you should talk to your child and ask them the problem and try to find out solutions to the problem. Ex.. if it seems to be the car,.. take it away.
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Mm when playing the role of a parent or guardian, it's far too easy to forget to look
at the situation from the kid's view.
Chances are likely he has a deep rooted reason for skipping out of classes that goes
beyond just "hanging with friends" or whatever he ends up doing instead of the class.
I would say try to talk to him without the threats and usual parental stance.
Let him know that you honestly want to help him and resolve the problem.
Chances are also high, depending on his age, that he knows school is important for
later in life, and that he's not happy with the decision either.
Maybe it's a class he can have changed? Maybe there's conflict with the teacher
or other students? Maybe he's overstressed from the subject being taught?
Having been a drop out myself, years and years ago, I can usually relate to the kids
that go through these motions. But it's in trying to get the kid to open up,
so the parent can effectively help them, that becomes a bigger hurdle to jump.
Kids are becoming more complex with each generation, and thus face problems and issues
that we as adults now, didn't have to face when we were their age.
Good luck with him, hopefully things will work out and he can get back
on track with his education. :)