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Title: SHOULD YOU BE MARRIED BFORE YOU HAVE A BABY??????
Post by: mlacewell on August 16, 2011, 08:54:41 pm
I JUST HAD MY 1ST  CHILD  AND I'M NOT YET  MARRIED. I HAVE A FEW PEOPLE WHO FEEL LIKE I SHOULD NOT HAVE KEPT MY  BABY AND  GOT MARRIED 1ST.. WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK??
Title: Re: SHOULD YOU BE MARRIED BFORE YOU HAVE A BABY??????
Post by: raven1114 on August 16, 2011, 09:22:24 pm
I JUST HAD MY 1ST  CHILD  AND I'M NOT YET  MARRIED. I HAVE A FEW PEOPLE WHO FEEL LIKE I SHOULD NOT HAVE KEPT MY  BABY AND  GOT MARRIED 1ST.. WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK??

i think you should tell them to mind their own business. while i do feel that the best environment for a child is two healthy, caring and committed parents raising it i don't feel that has to mean marriage. i also understand that this is not always possible.
Title: Re: SHOULD YOU BE MARRIED BFORE YOU HAVE A BABY??????
Post by: poulson on August 16, 2011, 10:18:02 pm
i  agree people need to mind there own business
Title: Re: SHOULD YOU BE MARRIED BFORE YOU HAVE A BABY??????
Post by: TaintedLust on August 16, 2011, 11:39:46 pm
I have an almost 2 year old and her father and I are not married. Someday we plan too but aren't rushing Into It. People's opinions vary but In the end It Is up to you and your significent other.
Title: Re: SHOULD YOU BE MARRIED BFORE YOU HAVE A BABY??????
Post by: scollontrade on August 17, 2011, 04:02:36 am
Has anyone asked the baby? I would bet that if you asked any child when it can answer properly they will tell you they would prefer two committed loving parents. :)
Title: Re: SHOULD YOU BE MARRIED BFORE YOU HAVE A BABY??????
Post by: dayezee on August 17, 2011, 05:09:26 am
I JUST HAD MY 1ST  CHILD  AND I'M NOT YET  MARRIED. I HAVE A FEW PEOPLE WHO FEEL LIKE I SHOULD NOT HAVE KEPT MY  BABY AND  GOT MARRIED 1ST.. WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK??

I think it's nobody's business but your own.  Being married doesn't automatically equate a happy family. 

As long as you take care of your baby and yourself, just hold your head up high and don't give the naysayers a moment's thought.
Title: Re: SHOULD YOU BE MARRIED BFORE YOU HAVE A BABY??????
Post by: anubabs on August 17, 2011, 08:51:08 am
People do need to mind their own business, because everyone's situation is different. I personally do not believe in abortion so if you'r pregnant, you keep it. According to the bible you should get married first before having children.
Title: Re: SHOULD YOU BE MARRIED BFORE YOU HAVE A BABY??????
Post by: ghunter on August 17, 2011, 09:42:49 am
Most of the reply is that people should mind their business, but I think you should be married before bring a child into this world if you are young.  By young I mean someone who is 18-25 years old, if you are in your thirties and feel that you will not be getting married and would like a child have one if you are financially able to take good care of that child, but a 18 years old have not began to live her own life and bring a child into this world alone is very hard and why?  If you don;t have too.  Enjoy your life while you can and if you decide you want children by all means do.
Title: Re: SHOULD YOU BE MARRIED BFORE YOU HAVE A BABY??????
Post by: dreamongirl on August 17, 2011, 09:52:42 am
i do not agree. babies aren't planned so you don't know if you really want to stay with that person forever. if you wanted to get married b4 the baby was born that would have been fine. who cares!
Title: Re: SHOULD YOU BE MARRIED BFORE YOU HAVE A BABY??????
Post by: masked_brown_guy on August 17, 2011, 10:40:23 am
Good for you, it does not matter if you should have, it already happened. What are you going to do to help out the situation?
Title: Re: SHOULD YOU BE MARRIED BFORE YOU HAVE A BABY??????
Post by: dreamyxo on August 17, 2011, 10:54:01 am
Yes you should.  Feel better now? 
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Post by: mdsepsakos on August 17, 2011, 11:13:57 am
I don't think you have to be married. Just in love.
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Post by: Azanne07 on August 17, 2011, 01:25:35 pm
My daughter was born before I was married. my son will be born before I am married. I will be married in June however so if i have more children in teh future i will be married.
Title: Re: SHOULD YOU BE MARRIED BFORE YOU HAVE A BABY??????
Post by: wittylance on August 17, 2011, 02:34:12 pm
My mom wasn't married when she had me, so it doesn't matter to me. But I guess it would be better for the child to have two parents.  I know my mom didn't marry my dad because he got four other women pregnant so everyones situation is different.  My mother didn't want to be with a cheater and catch some kind of sexual transmitted disease so she broke it off with him.  She stayed signal until 3 days before my 10th birthday.  She met someone and finally got married and they have been married now for 10 years this October.  So your situation depends on you.  My mom would not give me up and she doesn't believe in abortion so here I am.  So I love her for that, she gave me a chance at life with her and it has been a good life.  Don't be hard on yourself you do whats best for your baby and yourself and My hat goes off to all single people who are trying to raise children in this time of day.
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Post by: thetop31 on August 17, 2011, 03:22:00 pm
if you got a baby but you didn't get married, what about if the father runs away, you have to care of the baby by yourself.it will be a hard time for you except you just want to have a baby, not a husband.
Title: Re: SHOULD YOU BE MARRIED BFORE YOU HAVE A BABY??????
Post by: tashamjoy on August 18, 2011, 11:35:18 am
I have a hard time with marriage but i think it should be a commitment for the children it is a necessity children need a stable home with 2 parents but in america marriage does not always mean much with over half of marriages ending in divorce anyways i guess marriage doesnt matter but i think its a need for the children and people need to think of there children and not themselves with divorces but for you maybe marriage is not the answer i dont know
Title: Re: SHOULD YOU BE MARRIED BFORE YOU HAVE A BABY??????
Post by: letilebron on August 18, 2011, 12:03:45 pm
I think they are well out of place..I honestly think marriage is just paper work and another moneymaking buisness. Sorry if i offended anyone... I'm not saying i won't get married, I just think once you and your love one becomes one...you're married. me and my boyfriend have been together 10 years and we're not legally married and have 3 kids that we take care of together... It's just love! once you and your partner is comitted to loving and raising your baby together, that's all it takes... marriage will come at it's right time.