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Title: Marriage
Post by: SmartyTru on October 10, 2011, 04:21:31 am
Would you marry mainly for money or love? :dontknow:
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Post by: tigerlilly01 on October 10, 2011, 05:06:37 am
Only for love.  Money doesn't make you happy but true love can keep you happy even when you have nothing but each other. 
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Post by: nsalin on October 10, 2011, 06:34:55 am
Only for love.  Money doesn't make you happy but true love can keep you happy even when you have nothing but each other. 

couldn't have said it better myself.

while finances are an important factor that can help make or break a marriage, i feel that if you marry for love you'll have a much more healthy and fulfilling relationship than if you were to marry for money. people that marry for money are really shallow.
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Post by: kingozzy on October 10, 2011, 07:19:49 am
Money cant buy you love, love can take you places money cant even buy
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Post by: noirlupe on October 10, 2011, 07:36:49 am
Love because money doesnt solve anything you really need to love the person you are hoping to spend the rest of your life with.
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Post by: dreamyxo on October 10, 2011, 08:16:00 am
Money.  What's love got to do with it?  I've had love now I need money.
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Post by: Valerie1979 on October 10, 2011, 08:20:51 am
Money.  What's love got to do with it?  I've had love now I need money.

this made me smile a little- but it's sad though ---  Marriage should be independent of money or job title, status, etc.  Marriage is a LIFE TIME committment and I could lose my job tomorrow, right? 

BUT I think many people probably still consider more of the other things in life (Money, etc) to be more valuable than true love.

Oh.... and you can't fake love ..... and you may or may not "grow" in love with someone when you get married for the wrong reasons
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Post by: patycake56 on October 10, 2011, 08:23:28 am
Love theres nothing in the world like it
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Post by: gazikas on October 10, 2011, 08:26:02 am
Absolutely LOVE.  Without it you have nothing!  Voice of experience . . .  unfortunately.  I married for love but 17 years later realized it was one sided.  I had half-million dollar home no debt to speak of and someone that was not mean but just truly didn't care.  And in your old age if your spouse doesn't even really care about you, where are you?  Love is what makes the difference.  It can make a bad marriage worth fighting for but without it there is nothing to even work with to fix.  Now I know and understand the difference in "true" love.  Having it now, I understand why so many think they have love.  I did.  Until you experience that love that is soul-mate like, I don't think you can even understand what it is.  I can say it is worth everything to be where I am now.  I need for nothing with this love.  Material objects are just stuff.
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Post by: diala84 on October 10, 2011, 10:03:37 am
For me it will be for love soon enough. =) We are happy and supportive that is all that matters. It is so easy for us to be together you couldn't pay me enough to be with someone I can't stand. 
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Post by: Tinachelune on October 10, 2011, 10:08:43 am
I think you have to have love, respect, honesty and good communication.  I think all those things go hand in hand. Yes, money too would be nice since most couples seem to fight over money issue.  However, communication on anything and everything is very important part in love and respect.  Me and my husband can and will talk about anything open and honestly and we won't hold it agains each other.  I think that makes us love each other more and more every day.   :angel11:
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Post by: SmartyTru on October 12, 2011, 05:30:18 am
Only for love.  Money doesn't make you happy but true love can keep you happy even when you have nothing but each other. 
Nice tiger I couldn't agree more :wave:
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Post by: inertia4 on October 12, 2011, 08:36:38 am
Marriage, well, I have been there and done that. I will never do it again. I would never have gotten married for money, only love, but it was a major mistake in my life. Live with someone, it is better and more cost effective.
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Post by: articx on October 12, 2011, 08:52:03 am
Neither. Marriage is unnecessary.
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Post by: eman27 on October 12, 2011, 08:53:41 am
I would marry for love because a person's money situation can change at the blink of a dime and once that happens it's pretty easy to break up with someone or divorce them.  On the other hand, If you truly love someone and you face difficult money issues, the love that you have for one another can help you to work through the dilemmas at hand. 
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Post by: gazikas on October 12, 2011, 08:54:49 am
Neither. Marriage is unnecessary.

True.  I know people that have more of a true love marriage than those with a marriage license.
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Post by: Boise40 on October 12, 2011, 09:13:51 am
I personally would only marry the person because of love and not their money. However, I don't think we need to get married to show our commitment to each other or to show that we truly love each other. We all get married for different reasons and its a *bleep* nightmare when the couple gets a divorce. So, at the end of the day I don't think I wanna get married at all.
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Post by: heartofphila on October 12, 2011, 09:20:48 am
Love, its a lot more fun, regardless of how much money you have.
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Post by: mynevaeh on October 12, 2011, 09:21:33 am
I would marry solely for LOVE  :heart: but I have yet to be asked and I have been waiting for 10 years, will he ever ask me?  :sad1: Or should I just give up!!
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Post by: lywb2168 on October 12, 2011, 09:23:55 am
Only for love.  Money doesn't make you happy but true love can keep you happy even when you have nothing but each other. 

couldn't have said it better myself.

while finances are an important factor that can help make or break a marriage, i feel that if you marry for love you'll have a much more healthy and fulfilling relationship than if you were to marry for money. people that marry for money are really shallow.

I agree 100 % with this statement. 
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Post by: dreamyxo on October 12, 2011, 09:42:03 am
I would marry solely for LOVE  :heart: but I have yet to be asked and I have been waiting for 10 years, will he ever ask me?  :sad1: Or should I just give up!!

You need to move on.  If after 10 years if he doesn't know whether he is going to marry you or not he's not going to ask.  Don't waste another second of your precious time with them.  He's having his cake and eating it too.  What are you getting out of it?  Maybe breaking up will give him the push he needs to realize ether marry you or lose you, maybe not, but stop waiting around for him to ask you and get a concrete answer either way.  Why don't you ask him?
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Post by: ty31 on October 12, 2011, 11:49:23 am
IAM MARRIED AND I MARRIED MY WIFE FOR WHO SHE IS NOT FOR MONEY, SHAPE, SIZE OR HOW SHE COOKS. WHO SHE IS IN THE INSIDE IS A REALLY GOOD STRONG INDEPENDENT WOMEN AND I PRAISE HER FOR THAT.
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Post by: webmasterdn on October 12, 2011, 12:20:01 pm
Money, money, money MONNNNEEEEEYYYY ;D Just seal the deal, and you are rich for life. And if it's for love I would just rather have good times all the times and never commit. Basically if you can make profits out of something, you are wasting your times.
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Post by: tracya1981 on October 12, 2011, 12:25:23 pm
If you marry for money that could come back and bite you in the butt, especially in todays economy. There is nothing better than being in love in my opinion :heart: :heart: :heart:
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Post by: ghunter on October 12, 2011, 01:06:45 pm
I have been married for 35 years and we are really happy and still in love with each other very much.  But God forbid if my husband was gone and I was single again, I would have to marry for money this time, I don't think I will ever have the kind of love my husband and I have now, but marry for love please.
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Post by: keith74 on October 12, 2011, 01:18:30 pm
Today is my brothers wedding anniersary and they are very much in love with each other.  Ths is there 10 year anniversary.  My wife and I have been married for 10 or 11 years but we have been seperated off and on becasue she wants to be with here kids and I want to be where my family is as well.  I am 37 and my wife is 76 so our interests are changed and her family doesn't really care for me anyways. But when I get things in order here I will go back up to Kansas City to be with my wife, besides she moved into an appartment up there and they won't let me move in so that is why I moved back to Gainesville I can' afford the rent in the city she gets section 8 help.  I really didn't have a choice.
Title: Re: Marriage
Post by: SmartyTru on October 13, 2011, 08:31:31 am
Only for love.  Money doesn't make you happy but true love can keep you happy even when you have nothing but each other. 

couldn't have said it better myself.

while finances are an important factor that can help make or break a marriage, i feel that if you marry for love you'll have a much more healthy and fulfilling relationship than if you were to marry for money. people that marry for money are really shallow.
I totally agree money is nice don't get me wrong but If I'm unhappy it ain't gonna do a thing for me lol.
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Post by: shawnthewoman on October 13, 2011, 09:20:05 am
Marraige is highly over-rated.  Just say NO!
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Post by: ajann1983 on October 13, 2011, 11:48:23 am
i would marry for love. a person's financial situation can change without notice so if you married for money then you will be heading towards divorce when the well runs dry.
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Post by: annettefayeroach on October 13, 2011, 04:07:54 pm
Will not marry again for anything. Once bitten twice shy
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Post by: ptfunds on October 13, 2011, 04:17:33 pm
Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis is quoted as saying “The first time you marry for love, the second for money, and the third for companionship.” (American first lady (1961-63)
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Post by: Tresbn00 on October 13, 2011, 05:25:21 pm
I married for love and do not regret that decision.  Money comes with expectations and prostituting one's self for the belief that happiness comes with money is ridiculous.  If you want money...make it yourself.  But truly examine if money is what will ultimately make you happy.  I have found that time spent with my family (wife, two kids, two dogs) produces the most happiness and money comes second.  Sure I would like to take more time with my family but you don't appreciate something when it is given to you.
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Post by: raven1114 on October 13, 2011, 08:20:02 pm
well i wouldn't marry someone i didn't love but truth be told i'd hope he had some money also because while it's great and all love doesn't pay the bills.
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Post by: Tinachelune on October 14, 2011, 02:18:08 pm
I have been married for 35 years and we are really happy and still in love with each other very much.  But God forbid if my husband was gone and I was single again, I would have to marry for money this time, I don't think I will ever have the kind of love my husband and I have now, but marry for love please.

WOW, 35 years. My hat goes off to you.  You don't see that very often anymore in today's society. people don't seem to stay together long anymore.  BRAVO!
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Post by: mimimarlene on October 14, 2011, 03:05:19 pm
1st time for love ...hopefully that works out, if not, better look for a mate that will make you laugh!
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Post by: fusioncashid on October 14, 2011, 03:40:18 pm
I would marry someone only for love. I dont think it will be worth it for money. Money can only go so far.
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Post by: SmartyTru on October 17, 2011, 09:12:27 am
Money.  What's love got to do with it?  I've had love now I need money.

this made me smile a little- but it's sad though ---  Marriage should be independent of money or job title, status, etc.  Marriage is a LIFE TIME committment and I could lose my job tomorrow, right? 

BUT I think many people probably still consider more of the other things in life (Money, etc) to be more valuable than true love.

Oh.... and you can't fake love ..... and you may or may not "grow" in love with someone when you get married for the wrong reasons
Great reply Valerie1979 ty :wave:
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Post by: pfrancis001 on October 17, 2011, 09:20:40 am
If I get married it would be for love. 
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Post by: mirely on October 17, 2011, 10:36:56 am
i would marry for a lil of both.. im really hesitant about the whole love topic ive been in 3 realationships and i really cant say i was with them for love because 2 were unfaithfull and the 3rd lies to much its sad to say it was just pure covenience!! :-[ :-[