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Discussion Boards => Off-Topic => Topic started by: 2little on April 21, 2009, 01:44:53 pm
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Well my story is like this I settled but I found my soul mate or my soul mate found me what should I do?
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we'll i'm just lucky that i married someone which i could really tell that he's my soulmate. i have a picture taken with him on the back when i was in grade school, don't know him then and became classmates after that, and lovers when we got into college.
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My soulmate died.
And now I am left to go on without her.
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I found my soulmate and he is wonderful!!
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I found my soul mate we were high school sweethearts and he truly is the love of my life
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no. i have realized, the older that i get, that when you go out seeking love, you find trouble. a soul mate is someone that fate drives you to.
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I always find these kind of posts weird, since why would you ask forum-goers to help you out on some kind of problem you're having?
As for me, I really love the woman I'm with, and I'm happy with her. What else could you expect out of a "soulmate"?
So does that mean I found mine? How am I supposed to know?
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I married my soulmate!
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i settled :(
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i found my soulmate when i was 18 and that was 22 years ago. :wave:
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it took me two marriages but i found my soulmate. i love him so much and we have been thru alot together i truly believe he is my soulmate. its funny, his sister thinks theres no such thing but wants a relationship like we have. i am 8 yrs older than him but its not a problem to us. good luck to anyone looking for a soulmate. my best advice is to not look but just live and let happen.. :wave:
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Gafee2001: I know what I have to do abbout my soulmate and the person that I settled with.
Kamikam: Don't feel bad I settled too and this is my second husband but all that is going to change soon. Right now my soul mate is my boyfriend. Don't get me wrong I haven't took it to the next level (sex) just been talking
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I FOUND MY SOULMATE 26 YEARS AGO AND HAVE BEEN KEEPING ON AND ON EVERY SINCE EVEN THROUGH THE UPS &DOWNS.
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I always find these kind of posts weird, since why would you ask forum-goers to help you out on some kind of problem you're having?
As for me, I really love the woman I'm with, and I'm happy with her. What else could you expect out of a "soulmate"?
So does that mean I found mine? How am I supposed to know?
I agree. I love my husband and I'm happy with him. It doesn't mean that I couldn't be happy with someone else. Besides being happy is almost always a choice we ourselves make. If we aren't happy with our relationship we shouldn't go around blaming the others involved, if we want to be happy we find the things there are to be happy about and we choose to be happy. It isn't about settling, its about choices.
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I'm honestly not sure if I've found my soulmate or if I've settled. I'm happyish, and pretty comfortable, and we have long term plans, but who knows? Tomorrow, I could meet someone better and be gone. I don't plan on it, but it could happen.
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yea...not sure i believe in such things yet
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Well I can honestly 100% say I found my soul mate or should I say he found me. I will never ever forget the first day we met. I was actually dating another guy, and I told that guy I was dating at the time after Danny (my husband) walked into my living room, that that is the man I was going to marry. I new instantly. Danny just looked at me and smiled. Luckily me and my now ex broke up that same day. Although Danny and I didn't start dating till about two months after we met. I just didn't want to be with a man (my ex) if I knew I actually could have feeling the way I did for another man. It would not have been fair to him.
But I will say my husband Danny & I dated years before actually getting married. And I never second guess myself ever on my descission to be with him. He really has made my life so sweet, along with him and my kids my life is complete in every way shape and form.
So to answer your second question I would advice you to think about it really well since you are married. But you have to think of your happiness but do not neglect your spouses, don't cheat!! Just tell him/her straight foward. Like I mentioned above I knew the moment Danny walked in my living room something inside of me said thats the man for me. BUT I did not just jump right on to him. I let my ex down the best way possible and waited awhile before even getting with my husband.
Best of luck!!!
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I have found the guy that is right for me!! Everyone thinks they found there soulmate at the time there with a person but you never know it could never work out!!!
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I think people who say just settled, are people who didn't marry for love, but married for the comfort of not having to be alone. Which is unfair to the other spouse, because you are not going to give them 100% commitment. You'll always be looking out for something better, instead of bettering your own marriage and finding ways to connect with your current spouse. I think some people are just addicted to the "honeymoon phase", and not actually getting to know their partner, and grow with them. It's a wonderful thing when you love your spouse, and you go through so many different experiences with them. They become your family and your best friend. They do things that irritate you, but you can't think of them not in your life. People who depend on others to make them feel happy, are people who need to work on themselves. Happiness comes from within.
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I thought I found my soul mate but he is hung up on his ex gf. I don't want to settle yet because I know my soul mate is out there.
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I found him and stupidly let him go and I regret it every day of my life. I'm with someone else now but he's not the love of my life like this other guy was so I guess you could say I'm settling.
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I found my soulmate but he was married once before and now he doesnt want to ever get married again :BangHead:
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I think I missed my soulmate while I was spending time with someone that I had to beg him to let me be around him. I did that for three years.
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I thought I had found my soul mate. He asked me to move with him overseas and I panicked didn't go. I was sure if he loved me enough the would stay. HE DIDN'T. A few yrs later I met someone new and I thought he would make a wonderful husband and father. He is no perfect and neither am I but I don't think I married my soul mate. I am not so sure my ex was my soul mate either. A lot of things change and happen when your married with 3 kids. Maybe I settled but at the same time I think I was just ready to get married and I was stubborn so I got married. I will NEVER CHEAT and NEVER FAIL MY FAMILY. I may not be 100% happy but I don't want to be alone and try to find some one "good enough" for me and my kids. I don't think anyone is better for children than their real parents.
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Still searching far and wide
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I found my soul mate. I lost him last year to illness. Never take for grated what you have while you have him. I never would settle except for my soul mate. When I was looking, I always seem to pick jerks. I tripped over my soul mate when I wasn't look. ;)
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I believe that my husband is the one I will grow old with. As for soul mate...not sure I completely believe in that concept, because so many marry and become widowed and meet another...and who is to say whether the first or the second is the true soul mate? I do believe that something guided me to him...because I decided to skip law school and stay on at the college and work on a Master's degree instead and met him a few months into that program. I don't know why I didn't go to law school...something told me I wasn't ready to leave. And I found my husband. Whether it was fate or dumb luck...who knows? I am blissfully happy with the way things turned out, because I honestly couldn't imagine my life without him...I love him. Call it what you want. :heart:
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I found mine. :]
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I found my soul mate. He isnt perfect but I dont want him to be. His imperfections are why I married him at 17! -Sylver B.
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Yes, I have found my soulmate and like others he is not perfect , but he perfect for me :heart:
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I did and we lost touch. Got married to someone else, not a soul mate, so I just settled. :peace:
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I truly believe that i married my soulmate! I love my husband so much and even though we have been through a LOT of crap though out our marriage i could never picture my life without him. Its funny cuz the first time we met he was kinda a jerk-lol then he crashed a party i had and we just hit it off. I was 17 when we met--18 when we got married (hes 5 yrs older) and we have been married for 13 yrs!!
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SETTLED, had a baby and decided its best for my child to have his father around, im still hoping to find my soul mate someday, so that i can be truely happy
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10 years ago, I found my soul mate. I never settled because I didn't want to find myself in your present situation. I do not think you can leave your present mate without hurting hurting him. Good luck.
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I found my soul mate. I would never just settle. Everyone out there has a soul mate.
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I found my soulmate, and for those of you who are doubting such a thing as a soulmate i truly think you just settled because a soulmate is someone that you cannot see yourself without. That if something were to happen to you or them how could you go on without them. If something were to happen to my husband then i don't know what i would do. we are meant to be together and i deffinately think that the fates put us together, neither of us was looking for any kind of relationship when we found each other and now we have been together for 7 almost 8 years and married for 4 of them ;D