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Is there anyone on here who is going through some kind of cancer or knows anyone at the moment that is dealing with it? I have a close family member battling again after coming up to a 5 year remission. I have been unable to sleep now or many nights and I am at a loss for words. I don't know if I am ready to really talk about it but if anyone on here has something to say I would love to read it. Anything to keep my mind concentrated on something besides the bad thoughts. I have an overall positive outlook but there is always the "but" that creeps in too!
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Just remember God is in control. Let Him carry all your burdens......
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I have a really really good friend who is batteling stage 4 pancreatic cancer which traveled to her liver. She went through months of chemo and chemo ended on Dec 12th of last year. She just had a c-scan and the Drs told her that they no longer see the cancer in her liver YAY...I guess what i'm saying is to keep the faith and keep it positive and with lots of prayers I pray they both can beat this!!...I truly believ in the power of prayers, I see it working with my friend!! :thumbsup:
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What ever what you are going through god is still there with you, just keep the faith. :heart:
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I am very thankful that I am not.
Pray to God to help you with your words of comfort....
I wish you the best
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I have a friend who was barely diagnosed with cancer they say it's the most early stage and everything should be fine but it is a scary position
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Wow, this is a place to share jokes, thoughts of your everyday, word chains, etc...never thought this forum and it's warm replies by people would tear me up. I do believe and keep saying at the end of every thought that "there is always hope". No matter what the percentages or how many doctor's opinions you have it is never in our control. We are awaiting on blood work next March 1st to tell us how quick the breast cancer of the bone is spreading. From there we will know if chemo is to be sooner than later. I can barely sleep, eat and my mind is continuously somewhere else. My nerves are also shot and even though normally I am very patient and extremely calm, at this time my nerves are shot. I appreciate all your feed back and hope the best for those of you who who know someone at the very beginning of not so good news. As my thoughts are with those of you who know someone that is doing well after getting through these hard times. All very encouraging in there own way and to open up ones eyes that we are all here until the unknown.
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That six letter word (CANCER) can be so easily associated with that five letter word (DEATH) because of the tragedy that haves come along with it. Cancer has touched and claimed many lives of individuals in my family. I even have to keep regular check on my *bleep* because I have a few lumps, been there for some time now and I'm 30 been keeping watch on them since my early twenties and that's two kids and a pregnancy later (just found out I'm prego). But regardless of what situation or what may occur you only have ONE life! Make the most out of every opportunity. Enjoy your life doing what's right to the fullest!!! There are families that fall apart don't even speak and some even hate each other over petty things and too proud to forgive or even say I'm sorry. Life is precious though short and full of trouble we should value each moment. (though sometimes easier said than done) Regardless of your beliefs my belief is that God is able and He can give you peace in the midst of what you're doing through and He is a healer and I pray that His will be done in your life as it is in heaven. I don't know if you know the Lord's prayer but I like it and I also like the serenity prayer (it's not just for AA or NA lol). Sometimes we just need peace of mind when we are going through situations and I believe that God can give us the peace that we need.
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Is there anyone on here who is going through some kind of cancer or knows anyone at the moment that is dealing with it? I have a close family member battling again after coming up to a 5 year remission. I have been unable to sleep now or many nights and I am at a loss for words. I don't know if I am ready to really talk about it but if anyone on here has something to say I would love to read it. Anything to keep my mind concentrated on something besides the bad thoughts. I have an overall positive outlook but there is always the "but" that creeps in too!
This past January marks three years for me being cancer free. I thank God day and night for my being here with my two children Jessica now 23 and Jahkendrick now 17. It was three days before Jessica's 20th birthday that I had to tell her that I had breast cancer. I wanted to wait before I told her until after her birthday which is the 23 of December. I went to the hospital to a port put into my chest and had already decided to wait. Low and behold, they ended up keeping me over night so my roommate had to tell her that I was at the hospital. My daughter came to the hospital being very concerned to see what was wrong. So I had to tell her which was like I said three days before her 20th birthday and 5 days before Christmas. You talk about hard, I know your pain first hand. My being a single parent scared me more then than anything. What will happen to my children, what do I do now. You name it and I had the thought. Life as I knew it had changed forever.
One appointment after another, test after test and the list goes on. Treatment started; a few months with chemo followed by radiation. Yes the dreaded hair loss was the hardest for me. But through all the sickness and pain I knew I had to be strong and even stronger for my children. My prayer was and still is for strength to get through each day. I battle daily with thoughts of all kind. I have to fight sometimes to not get depressed, then it seems to get even harder. Then I have to fight even harder still to find something to take my mind off of the situation.
Yes I believe in God with all of me. I sometimes wonder what will tomorrow bring but I have never and will never forget that is He who is in control. I constantly try to find something to do or read, in order to change the thoughts that I have. I find that being busy can be a big help.
I will check back here often for any updates and I will keep you and your loved one in my thoughts and prayers. Any thoughts that you may have or have had, just know that you are never alone.
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maxinmotion and syorker82 wow. i cannot begin to tell you how reading your words helped me in different ways. Each day is a struggle and I am trying to give my !00% but get frustrated when I have a moment to myself and can only hope it's enough. I have been reading up on the different medications and their side effects. Foods like fruits and vegetables that can be of some help. Obviously the best medicine is all in one's good spirits and the support of family and friends. I need to be involved as much as I can just to keep my mind busy and and as calm as possible. The medication to fight the cancer right now is unbearable and it's hard for me to watch what is going on. I won't stop giving my all but I fear as things will progress and I know that chemo is inevitable. Of course there is the possibility of death but there is always the chance at a miracle too. I go back and forth a lot. It is really all that I have. I am apparently healthy but I could leave this earth tomorrow for whatever reasons right. So why worry just because cancer has been given the name to someone I love and they could just continue on for years to come. It is all a mind game when yo really think about it, that I know...it never makes it easier though! I really appreciate all of your feedback though...hope this is helpful also to more than just me too :)
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Thank you TAZALISCIOUS, your thoughts are very helpful as no one has all of the answers. Especially when it comes to illness, something as serious as cancer. We have to reach out to others, read, walk, or what ever the moment calls for. Sometimes we just need some to listen because we know that cancer is and can be a very painful thing to deal with.
I like that you said "it is a mind game when you really think about it". That is exactly how I look at it as a mind game. As serious as cancer is we have to come up with new ways to deal with it. It is so different for every person that is affected by cancer or that know someone that has it; we have to come up with a way to handle it. Take my sister Norma for example, from the moment she was told that I had cancer she has never said the word CANCER, she calls it C-A. That is how she deals with the fact that her baby sister had cancer. That is the game she created to help her deal with it.
Yes it is a lot to deal with, you will have good days and bad days just don't lose hope. When you are having a bad moment get a pen and paper and write what you are feeling. Be sure to write the time and date. If possible ask your loved one some questions and include the answer in your notes.
That is one of the things that help me to get through tough days.
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Yes, my mother had treatment for her cancer last year along with a triple bypass. One thing good about this, is my whole family can now get checked out and get help if we need it.
Good luck to everyone.
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Cancer and a triple bypass. lgemini I hope that your mother is doing well. Love the positive vibe from your post too. It is always a good thing to get checked, even if the reminder comes from something like that. It gives the family peace of mind too and can build stronger bonds as well.
I never thought of writing down my feelings when I am not feeling so hot at the moment, maxinmotion. Nor to get feed back and write down some responses. My mind goes like a mouse running on a wheel and just never stops. Every night I find something new on the computer and take notes to keep updated. I have copy pasted so many things and printed them out too. I like to be as informed as possible, and on top of it all as much as I can. The latest has been with finding out the best foods to fight this breast cancer in the bone. At the same time I had to equally write down what foods to stay away from as now there is a weak gallbladder that has come into the mix. Until the surgery for that I am making sure to be aware of all good and bad foods for both for my mom.
Also there has been talks since the other for another treatment of radiation. As there is a lump in the armpit that is blocking the lymphnodes from travelling properly and giving severe pain to the arm and hand.
So the latest overall is breast cancer of the bones, suggestive gallbladder removal surgery, lymphedema in the arm and as a result to that another go at radiation. ( The last radiation was 5 years ago when the original cancer started). I really have to say 2013 is not starting off well at all!!!
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This is my fifth year of being cancer free, I had ovarian cancer. After surgery I had 6 months of chemo and because of my excellent surgeon, wonderful doctors, and of course God I was able to beat this. No tater what kind you have or what stage it is at you can't give up hope. Every day is a good day, and who knows, maybe that's the day someone will finally find the cure. Good luck, keep the faith, and I'll pray for you.
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Is there anyone on here who is going through some kind of cancer or knows anyone at the moment that is dealing with it? I have a close family member battling again after coming up to a 5 year remission. I have been unable to sleep now or many nights and I am at a loss for words. I don't know if I am ready to really talk about it but if anyone on here has something to say I would love to read it. Anything to keep my mind concentrated on something besides the bad thoughts. I have an overall positive outlook but there is always the "but" that creeps in too!
I have had close family and friends in the battle with cancer. These are some SUCCESS STORIES!
I happy to let you know that my MOM is Cancer FREE from Breast Cancer and has been for 32 YEARS!!
My SISTER-IN-LAW is Cancer FREE from Breast Cancer and an aneurysm for 25+ years!
I have friends who are Cancer Free from Breast Cancer also in time frames of3 to 18 years.
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I have never suffered that illness.....I can only imagine the stress and anxiety it will cause....
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Stay strong!! Im sending prayers!
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i dont at the moment have anyone going through cancer. BUT i have taken care of both a father and brother at home who passed from it. its understandable that you have a hard time sleeping. sometimes it can almost seem as hard on the caregiver as it is on the patient. all you can do is pray that things turn out well, do your best to be caring and understanding and try to make things as easy as possible on the one you love.
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I just got back from a weekend trip to Alabama, visit was great and the food was too. I know how it is to be so busy and always taking notes, I smiled when I read that. I am always reading and writing something, that is how I get through each day, staying busy. Think HOPE, Think Peace, Think Healing, and most of all Thank God for each day.
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jkhanson thank you for all the success stories. Hope is all there is in moments like this along with prayer of course and a lot of wonder. Hearing those kinds of years is encouraging to the mind though and it is very appreciated.
maxinmotion happy you had such a great time in Alabama...food is what makes a trip most of the times, lol ;) Your sentence ending with Think HOPE, etc...well thank you for that. I wrote it on a post it actually and will put it on a marker board tomorrow for my mom to see everyday. Thanks!
natashaspy sorry for your losses. It is true though that it can be just as hard though in different ways for the caregiver as for the patient. It is not an easy thing at all. And sometimes it's hard to stay focused, but at least you can lean on each other even if it's to shed some tears. Thank you for sharing your story.
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To prevent and cure cancer we must change our diet and lifestyle.
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To prevent and cure cancer we must change our diet and lifestyle.
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I am sorry as I doubt you wrote that with any mean thoughts behind it. I take offense to it. No matter what we do in our lives we all are at risk of whatever God throws are way. I know people who drink too much daily, smoke over a pack of cigarettes a day and are over 75 years old. Then others who follow God, workout, eat right, go to the doctor on a regular basis and have died most recently at 34 of cancer, 64 of a second heart attack after a triple by pass, 37 with no conclusion even after an autopsy and another one of 33 after a failed heart transplant. So I don't believe that cancer can be cured with Diet and lifestyle. A cousin of mine was the picture of health, exercise and natural remedies but was hit with breast cancer. It can happen to anyone. Young or old, whether it runs in the family or not (though it raises chances), by taking certain medications, etc... But like many bad things in life we don't have the control to prevent or cure (at the moment) this is one of those things. And it isn't as easy as diet and exercise. It's not easy to be diagnosed AT ALL nor to be the helping hand of someone who has been diagnosed with any kind of cancer. To have someone like you say it's that easy not to have it or cure it almost like with the snap of fingers is really hurtful. I am not changing the level of this topic in any way as it has been such a great post of help and encouragement. I just needed to get that off of my chest and hope you realize what you say has consequences, especially when it comes to an illness.
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My prayers to you. We have two people in our church who are battling cancer--one is a rare form and has spread. One can only hope for a miracle. The other person has a breast cancer that was caught very early and she has a very good chance of full recovery. It is truly a horrible and frightening disease. But I agree with others, miracles occur every day.
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Some people say that skin cancer isn't the same as the others but it can be just as frightening. June will be two years since I first saw the area on me. We were taking my girls to camp for four weeks and my bra strap on the left shoulder blade was bothering me. I went to my doctor within a week, and didn't say anything to the girls. He quickly got me an appointment with a dermatologist and then they sent me to an oncologist after they did the byopsie. The oncologist told me after they did the surgery that if I had put off going to my doctor even a month after seeing it that it could have been a lot worse then it was. As it is they had to take a pretty good hunk out of the left shoulder. It was the love of my family and the support of the people at my temple that gave the four of us the strength. My mom has had one of the lesser skin cancers but when we told her what I had was the worse of them she was floored. She and my dad did come here to take care of the girls while they did the outpatient surgery since I had to be at the hospital at six and wasn't expected out until about four that afternoon and there was not way I was going to just let them sit at home and worry. They both went to school where at least their mind was occupied.
Just keep the faith that everything will be alright and be upbeat for your relative. The oncologist told us that negativity was the worse thing cause it would drag me down and I didn't need that. God Bless! 8)
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:thumbsup: I am 1 year cancer free this March. It has been quite the journey and continues to be one. I lost my left b... but had a replacement done during the 8 hour surgery. This meant lifting my stomeach muscles and moving alot of things to collect my body fat and form a new B>> . Putting everything back and having a "tummy tuck" was more then I expected. I thought is I had everything done at the same time I could fack myself out of having any loss, this soon caught up to me as depresssion slept in. But know I have a beautiful new belly button. and each day is better. They expect a 2 year recover. I am always battling thoughts and turning to prayers and affermations and meditation.
My sister in law has gone through a stage 3 cancer had her left B. removed and then had a hestorectomy and in April will have her right B. taken. Her family carries the cancer gene and all her girls have been tested. Her daughter who is 30 has the gene so they will keep a close eye on her.
My sister in law is a rock and jokes and lives life to the fullest. I am so proud of her.
Every year we get involved in the walk for cancer that is a 12 hr night walk and it is so beautiful. Everyone their has been touched some how by cancer and the support is endless.
I have met friends whose family has deserted them and friends become so over whelmed they are not around to help. This is hard to hear as this is when family and friends are needed most.
Find a prayer chain, strenghts in numbers and ask for healing. :angel12:
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From my understanding, my father passed away from brain cancer after my second birthday in 1960. He was 31. My best friend lost her life to breast cancer (second reoccurrence) in February 2006; she was 48. In 2007, I sat with a woman who had colon cancer and lost her fight in September 2007. She was also 31. The advances made today to cancer a person can live a long time. :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:
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Yes, I have a friend battling with cancer and they just come off a 10 year remission. We also lost her brother to cancer here recently. We have got to remember that God is in control. Sometimes it is a hard topic to discuss but I find it easier to talk about with those who are close to you and understand. There are so many different medicines today to help. I am praying that God will strengthen and help you through this difficult time.
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Hi TAZALISCIOUS, I think about you often in reference to what you are going through. I always pray that you have continued strength. And as thoughts come to my mind about myself I sometimes get caught up in the memories of when. When that happened, or when the doctor said, then I tell myself that I can't give up and I want give in. There will always be a when. People don't know what you are going through until you tell them. So in your posting or daily conversations with people, be it relatives or others. Always speak what you feel, sometimes when we speak we minister to ourselves through our own words.
Because cancer is such a deadly thing it often leaves people at a lost for words. The minute we here that a family member has cancer, fear rushes in and paralyzes everyone that is close to that person. No matter how much it hurt don't stop communicating. Communicate by any means necessary.
When I spoke of fear, I remembered someone saying that fear is False Evidence Appearing Real.
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My mom is in stage 2 lung cancer, but they caught it early enough to work with. I wish my mom and the doctors well.
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Both my parents passed from Cancer....
I have only had skin cancer so far... praying that is all I aquire.
Cancer is a horrible disease.
Good wishes your way...
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My Little Step Brother Past Away About 25 Years Ago When He Was 9 or 10. My Prayers Go Out To Everyone That Deals With It. I Help Out With An Organization That Deals With Cancer And It Makes Me Feel Good That I Can Do That For Someone :wave:
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i had my son with hotch dease andmy husband with lung cancer. they went through a lot
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There are so many posts here with warm wishes, encouragement and stories. People that are suffering with some type of cancer, or people who are sharing their stories of loved ones or friends they know of or that have left us. I go back and read every single post by all of you, let me make that clear. I have always found it important to support in any way this terrible disease. Over the years as I have grown and heard many stories along the way it has only made me support more. Now I am reading about it everyday to learn more as it seems there is always different news from the doctors with each appointment. I have started selling breast cancer items to help pay for the expenses of all the tests and to donate %20 to breast cancer and another %20 to lymphedema.
Just a few days ago she was on the waiting list to get radiation for the non cancerous lump under her armpit causing the lymphedema to her arm. She was given a date for surgery to have her gallbladder removed as it is full of stones. She has been given more calcium pills as she is not at a strong enough level to receive the bone treatments. The tumor in her hip is still very fragile but not at the point of a hip replacement yet. Also she just had her left lung emptied as it had 1 1/2 litres of liquid in it that was making it extremely difficult for her to breath. It has been a long 12 days and so much has happened. Now with Friday's past appointment with the oncologist we have come to a decision. There has been so much activity in her body, we are 2 weeks away from another bone scan and it takes about 1 week for the results of the liquid in her lungs to come back. It is not worth waiting for. It just feels like the pills are not working or haven't had the time to work , but time is not on our side here. So next week there will be some heart tests to go through. Then we will know which treatment of Chemotherapy her body will be able to go through. The one the doctor has suggested if all is well with her heart would have her lose all of her hair. Amongst many other possible side effects that is the most visible. I know it is just hair and if she would want I would shave my head if it would help but it still makes me cry. I think why her, it's not fair and wonder if the chemo will even help. Then I think of all the people out there going through the same thing or worse, people not lucky enough to have lived long enough to get treatment and more. My thoughts and my mind just seems to ramble these days. I cry and then I am strong and then I cry and find myself strong again. I won't leave her side through any of this and I will do all I can to ease any pain and help in any way that I can. I will write when I can to update as I truly find it a source of release. I very much appreciate the stories you share and again the support, I hope you still keep it coming!
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We are in a day, and age, where medical science has made tremendous advances. My wife had cancer five years ago. She discovered a small lump in her breast and realized that she needed to see her physician. Ten years ago she wouldn't have realized this because the information about cancer wasn't as publicized as it was now and five years ago. We researched the top five doctors in Colorado, interviewed each one and had the review her records. Three of these doctors wanted to perform a mastectomy immediately. The other two doctors, more progressive, took her cas before a group of twenty doctors and it was decided that chemotherapy and a lumpectomy could let my wife retain her *bleep*. I can only imagine what advances have been brought up to today.
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i hate cancer lost alot of loved ones to it! :crybaby2:
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We (my brother and I) helped my mom take care of my grandmother who had cancer. It was a difficult situation but it made us stronger people. Prayer helped us but I guess not everyone is into that but we just made the most of every day and tried not to worry.
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It is hard dealing with cancer even after three years of being cancer free. Life gives so many struggles and thoughts of all kind that keep popping up to try to still your joy. Hang tight and continue to write, talk, sing, doodle or what ever it takes to change the thoughts that try to put you in a bad mood. It is hard to deal with all of the stress associated with this disease just don't give up or give in.
One thing that is a great help and picker upper, find some fast upbeat music every once in a while and let it "do what it do". We have to try any and every thing to be strong. Every peaceful moment you find within yourself is one that you will be able to share. Stay strong!!!