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Title: Depression
Post by: ktheodos on September 04, 2014, 09:42:37 pm
Trying to be sensitive here, but any one have tips for dealing with it?
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: mill8277 on September 05, 2014, 02:23:02 pm
I wish I could erase it from your life as well as mine....I go on even when I don't want to, I did counseling and I talk to others about how I'm feeling.....I hope you feel better soon......don't give up, don't give up.....
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: bowrunner on September 05, 2014, 03:23:17 pm
I was depressed years ago but with a good doctor and some medication I worked my way out of it.
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: Penwoir on September 05, 2014, 03:37:07 pm
I did go through a good two years of depression when I was in my thirties. The reason is that I was in a very unhappy marriage and a stressful job. I probably could have coped with one or the other, but not both. I was also a little bit over weight which made me unhappy. The best thing that helped me was to get some exercise. I started playing a sport I really enjoyed - badminton. I'm really good at it and with the pride of winning, came a little self esteem. The exercise helped me lose a little bit of weight and I naturally found that I wanted to eat a little healthier. A few weeks and months later I was a lot more happy with life. I had left the dark place I was in behind and I started to look forward to my future. It all started, with just getting a little bit of exercise! Good luck, I've been there!
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: melissajh44 on September 06, 2014, 03:06:24 am
To people suffering from depression, know that you can always remember that you can get help and there is someone there that you can talk to.
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: sherryinutah on September 06, 2014, 03:11:55 am
I've traveled the depression route and it was worse at some times of my life than others.  I experienced severe suicidal post partum depression after delivering my first child.  That phase lasted 2 years and I can honestly say that I fasted and prayed to survive that time of my life.  The result was that I found a chiropractor who did muscle testing to determine how he could help me.  After seeing him for a couple of visits I was more stable, able to be employed, etc.

Now, I take a prescription medication called generic Lexapro.  It's for a general anxiety disorder and it also helps me with depression.  I understand B vitamins are also very helpful for stress, depression and mental health issues.

Hang in there and connect with a solution that works well for you.   :heart:
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: Timberlan127 on September 06, 2014, 04:29:44 am
Patience and support. Keep remembering that the person with depression has no control over it because it is an illness just like any other illness. Encourage them to get help and be there for them. It's so hard to deal with because we feel so powerless to help.
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: mrisha on September 06, 2014, 08:48:00 am
For depression, the best thing is to see a psychiatrist for help.  You can't do it on your own. Also to join a group if you think that will help.
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: teresa3200 on September 06, 2014, 09:11:29 am
It is not easy to deal with. I thought I as got older life would make it easier, but it hasn't.
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: ktheodos on September 06, 2014, 10:08:45 am
Thanks! I have known folks that gone through it, but now a family member is in the hospital for it, so I'm trying to get some insights...
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: silentescape on September 06, 2014, 10:22:09 am
I've found that music helps. Staying busy helps a lot too. The more time there is to think, the worse things get. That's just how it is for me, though. Depression is different for everyone.
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: ahmedrocks234 on September 06, 2014, 11:07:57 am
 Just be happy.
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: patycake56 on September 06, 2014, 04:05:35 pm
It has been 1 of the hardest things in my life to deal with
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: natashaspy on September 06, 2014, 05:53:32 pm
I wish there was something I could say to help you with it.  I suffer from it as well, and all I can do is try to push it aside and go on.  Some days it's a lot harder than others...
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: jorhea on September 06, 2014, 06:59:34 pm
My 15 year old daughter suffers from this. She was a cutter as well. She has been seeing a counselor for a few years and also sees a psychiatrist. She is on medication but we haven't found the right combination yet. We just changed again. I pray for relief for her, to be a happy teenage girl.
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: Dynamite2013 on September 06, 2014, 10:22:06 pm
I have always had depression ever since my ex-husband used to beat me. I have learned through the years that doing fun things and laughing a lot helps me not be depressed. plus I play many games on facebook that keep me from thinking about my past life. I also have a great husband who understands and we get along fine. It is almost our 25th anniversary and we celebrate may different ways. and when we disagree we pull out the water pistols and start squirting each other. Stress also causes depression in me anyway and that relieves it. I hope this helps you. I also stay away from programs that remind me of my past.
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: countrygirl12 on September 07, 2014, 04:48:59 am
To people suffering from depression, know that you can always remember that you can get help and there is someone there that you can talk to.

Actually, this is not true.  There is not always someone there that a person can talk to.  And not everyone can afford to go to the doctor. And doctor's don't always keep stuff a secret either.
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: countrygirl12 on September 07, 2014, 04:51:02 am
Patience and support. Keep remembering that the person with depression has no control over it because it is an illness just like any other illness. Encourage them to get help and be there for them. It's so hard to deal with because we feel so powerless to help.

I do know and believe depression is very real.  But I do not believe it is an illness or a disease.
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: pieswinger on September 08, 2014, 04:59:25 pm
 :bad: I get depressed all the time or when I think back of something that I remember or something that happened sometime I just try to forget it and listening to music will help
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: debidoo on September 08, 2014, 07:02:18 pm
Well, since my hubby of 34 years passed 1 1/2 years ago I have struggled with it on a daily basis.  I try to pray a lot because just personally for me, I believe that there is a plan for my life and I have to go on for my sons.  There are some herbal remedies but I have never gotten around to trying them.  Best of luck to you - I hope you find the answer to your struggles.
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: silentescape on September 20, 2014, 03:30:57 pm
Just be happy.
That is a really insensitive thing to say. You can't "just be happy" when you're depressed. Depression is an actual mental illness that is very serious and very difficult to deal with. It affects people emotionally, mentally, and physically. If it were that easy to "just be happy", no one would be battling depression in the first place.
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: tuyetmai on September 20, 2014, 06:58:55 pm
I don't know.  I'm on it for years now.  I hope there were a way out of it.
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: inertia4 on September 21, 2014, 05:03:02 am
I suffer from major depression. I see a therapist every week. It seems to help me. I won't take meds because I am afraid I will either become addicted or kill myself. So, therapy is my choice.
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: alaskakaren on September 21, 2014, 05:36:15 am
I would say try to keep busy.  I've just started going to therapy.  I try and not say im depressed...because it would only make it worse...but I probably am depressed.  good luck...its tough.
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: camellia0 on September 21, 2014, 05:42:06 pm
I believe counseling is the best way to deal with this. We all can't keep things bottled in and I believe it's good to talk to someone that is of no relation.
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: metagameface on September 21, 2014, 07:59:09 pm
A lot of people don't understand what depression is, and I think one of the best things for someone suffering it can do is to make sure the people in their life have a good idea of just what it is they're going through. People who care about you will want to support you, and this can only make them better at doing so.

To that end, I recommend sharing Allie Brosh's posts about her own depression with your loved ones.
(Part One) (http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.ca/2011/10/adventures-in-depression.html)
(Part Two) (http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.ca/2013/05/depression-part-two.html)

Depression affects people differently, and I'm not saying your experiences will have been exactly like hers, but speaking personally I found my experiences to have enough in common with hers that I found her writing and drawings to be extremely valuable (and also really funny, if in a dark sorta way). Part Two in particular is great for conveying the very important difference between being depressed and being sad, and I wish I could make everyone in the world read it.

They also helped me understand I wasn't alone in what I'm dealing with, and to think more clearly about my own depression by having something to compare it to.
Title: Re: Depression
Post by: tzs on September 21, 2014, 09:35:20 pm
Depression is one of the hardest things to explain to your friends.  I am going through this right now and one of my neighbors who became a close friend does not get why I just don't come over as much anymore.  Sometimes when it hits me hard,  I need some space and his interpretation of it is that I don't want to "hang out" with him and his girl anymore. I've tried to let him know what I'm going through but he comes back at me negatively, which I really do not need because it doesn't help.  What makes it worse is that our kids play and go to school together.  When I am depressed and I feel like I am being judged, I tend to keep to myself, which in turn keeps me away.  Depression really jacked up my life.