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Title: Would you knowingly date a sex offender?
Post by: camellia0 on September 20, 2014, 03:12:51 pm
I have a friend who is divorced and his ex is dating one. disgusting!!
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Post by: sgluckadoo on September 20, 2014, 03:15:14 pm
I personally would not, but I guess, to each his own!
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Post by: silentescape on September 20, 2014, 03:22:06 pm
I guess it depends on the situation. I know someone that is legally a sex offender because of a minor that showed up at his house while he was drunk and she seduced him because she had a crush on him for a long time. He wasn't able to do anything about the situation because of the alcohol. I guess if it were another situation like that, it would be a bit different than if something was done intentionally.
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Post by: Nancy5 on September 20, 2014, 03:25:30 pm
I know I would not, but everyone is different.
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Post by: aggie49 on September 20, 2014, 03:52:28 pm
i sure would not being a survior of rape years ago i have to say it makes me sick to think you would subject any one to that kind of person i think when you got to rape a child women or anyone else when there are persons out there that will give it to you free or for money it just makes me sick
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Post by: ladavia89 on September 20, 2014, 04:04:01 pm
Why are they a sex offender?

You could end up being a registered sex offender for having consensual sex with someone a couple years younger than you. Public urination will get you on the list in some states. That is much difference than those on the list for rape or any crimes against children

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Post by: reiddb on September 20, 2014, 05:05:41 pm
That would be one hard thing...I suppose it depends....was it an 18 yr. old with a 16 yr old??  That could be a sex offender.....
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Post by: crisstar on September 20, 2014, 06:08:44 pm
Sex offender is a very broad term. It would help to know exactly what the person was convicted of doing. In general, I don't date felons regardless of the conviction.
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Post by: tzs on September 23, 2014, 06:04:22 am
Heck no! Wouldn't be able to trust...
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Post by: Penwoir on September 23, 2014, 06:08:06 am
You know, people are gonna do what people are gonna do! I would never knowingly date a sex offender. In fact, if I knew a close friend of mine was dating a sex offender, I would have to say something out of respect to our friendship. I wouldn't be offensive or finger pointing, but I would suggest that it might not be healthy and to be vigilant with regard to their future. I wouldn't stop being their friend, but as any good friend, I would have say how I really feel.
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Post by: lywb2168 on September 23, 2014, 06:23:52 am
Why are they a sex offender?

You could end up being a registered sex offender for having consensual sex with someone a couple years younger than you. Public urination will get you on the list in some states. That is much difference than those on the list for rape or any crimes against children

Took the words out of my mouth, it depends on the reason why that person is a sex offender, my friend has a daughter that is dating a guy that is on the list because his girlfriend was 16 he was 18, in Florida, and he was labeled as a sex offender for having had consensual sex with his girlfriend, the girls parents did not like that they were having sex and report it, so here he is label for life as a sex offender for doing what every teenager does.  So to answer your question, it depends on the reason why that  labeled a "sex offender".

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Post by: sak4kat on September 23, 2014, 06:28:07 am
Personally I could not bring myself to be in a relationship with anyone who is a sex offender.  However there are those cases that are unfair.  For instance a A 16 (almost 17) year old who is dating an 18 year old.  Some parents just can't wait for those kids to turn 18 to file against the older consenting participant.  I thank God I found my soul-mate and wouldn't have to be in this situation.  Now I pray my kids never have to be involved in such a hard place.
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Post by: oldbuddy on September 23, 2014, 06:40:40 am
Actually I don't date anyone except my wife for the last 43 years.
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Post by: gaylasue on September 23, 2014, 08:23:54 am
No, I would not.
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Post by: demaina on September 23, 2014, 09:13:28 am
First, you have to define sex offender.  I may be wrong, but some people are put on the list for stuff like public urination or like an 18 year old dating a 17 year old or stuff like that, things that aren't so blatantly offensive.

If it was something minor like that, I might be okay with it assuming it was a one time thing.  But otherwise, no.
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Post by: ghunter on September 23, 2014, 09:31:14 am
I personally would not and if you had any sense you would not either.
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Post by: southernhorizons on September 23, 2014, 10:32:01 am
No way! I wouldn't trust them at all.
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Post by: jford87 on September 23, 2014, 10:59:53 am
a man who is caught urinating in public can be convicted as a sex offender... I would definitely look into the nature of the crime.
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Post by: lvstephanie on September 23, 2014, 12:48:18 pm
As some have mentioned, I guess it would depend on what the offense was... I had a friend in high school that was almost charged because he broke up with his 16 yr. old girlfriend while he was 18 (the girl finally convinced her parents not to go that route).
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Post by: lepord on September 23, 2014, 01:02:07 pm
I have dated one . he did not tell me until after he guessed i had feelings for him.. I felt this to be totally minuplative and I would not ever date one again. ever.
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Post by: monnee on September 23, 2014, 01:02:50 pm
Absolutely No for sure.
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Post by: BlackSheepNY on September 23, 2014, 02:59:40 pm
I have a friend who is divorced and his ex is dating one. disgusting!!

NO!  A million times NO!  I believe that this is one group of offenders that CANNOT be rehabilitated!
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Post by: nguzman1 on September 23, 2014, 03:05:09 pm
yeah, I definitely don't know about that.
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Post by: nannycoe1 on September 23, 2014, 03:10:03 pm
Absolutely not.
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Post by: raven1114 on September 23, 2014, 06:30:29 pm
Depends what was the offense? I mean some perverted 30 year old man molesting a 10 year old HELL NO!. Some dude that got caught peeing on the side of the road or some guy that was 18 or 19 and had a girlfriend that was just a little to young (say 15-16), perhaps. It would depend on what type of person he was now.
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Post by: buckbuck1 on September 23, 2014, 08:02:35 pm
No, point blank
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Post by: davidh121 on September 23, 2014, 09:33:50 pm
That depends on the classified offense (most would probably be something that would dissuade me), but if just saying sex offender in general, I would normally see this as a dealbreaker.
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Post by: bretay on September 24, 2014, 01:01:02 pm
no way..i don't think i would be able to fully trust them..
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Post by: tjshorty on September 24, 2014, 01:23:59 pm
There are many reasons people get labeled or arrested for sex offenses.  Most of the ones that I know it's a matter of about 4 yrs age difference which caused the offence.  So I would have to say it would depend on what the story was.  If it's an age difference and how old and how long ago.  I would also say that I think it wrong to have such a general label for these offenses.  I also think that in most cases the person shouldn't have to be made to register the rest of their lives for something that happened when they were teens.
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Post by: countrygirl12 on September 24, 2014, 01:41:25 pm
I have a friend who is divorced and his ex is dating one. disgusting!!

It depends on the circumstances.  I know several men actually who are registered sex offenders because they had sex with their girlfriend who was under 18 and they were 18 or 19.  So it's not fair for them to be labeled a horrible person.  I know another guy who met a woman at a bar and they left together and had sex and she was not forced to do anything but she cried rape and he went to jail and is now a sex offender.  Just because you are a sex offender does not mean you really are.
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Post by: countrygirl12 on September 24, 2014, 01:42:40 pm
I guess it depends on the situation. I know someone that is legally a sex offender because of a minor that showed up at his house while he was drunk and she seduced him because she had a crush on him for a long time. He wasn't able to do anything about the situation because of the alcohol. I guess if it were another situation like that, it would be a bit different than if something was done intentionally.

I don't feel sorry for him.  If you are drunk you should still be held responsible for your actions.  Unless she raped him then he could have done something.
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Post by: countrygirl12 on September 24, 2014, 01:44:22 pm
Why are they a sex offender?

You could end up being a registered sex offender for having consensual sex with someone a couple years younger than you. Public urination will get you on the list in some states. That is much difference than those on the list for rape or any crimes against children

Took the words out of my mouth, it depends on the reason why that person is a sex offender, my friend has a daughter that is dating a guy that is on the list because his girlfriend was 16 he was 18, in Florida, and he was labeled as a sex offender for having had consensual sex with his girlfriend, the girls parents did not like that they were having sex and report it, so here he is label for life as a sex offender for doing what every teenager does.  So to answer your question, it depends on the reason why that  labeled a "sex offender".



Every teenager does not have sex.
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Post by: premar16 on September 24, 2014, 01:54:21 pm
If they were accused of being a sex offender becuase they did something that involved children then hell nooo. I think that if a parent does that they are so irresponisble and worse than the person
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Post by: vp44 on September 24, 2014, 02:13:58 pm
I have a friend who is divorced and his ex is dating one. disgusting!!
How do you know what this person is and what type of offender he is. I know a person who did something with a person found out she was not the age she said and she tripped him up because all he wanted was a one night stand. Sad case. Now days ID first and 2 co-signers. Just saying trust no one. No I would not date one especially if they were truly a bad person.
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Post by: silentescape on September 28, 2014, 08:39:59 pm
I guess it depends on the situation. I know someone that is legally a sex offender because of a minor that showed up at his house while he was drunk and she seduced him because she had a crush on him for a long time. He wasn't able to do anything about the situation because of the alcohol. I guess if it were another situation like that, it would be a bit different than if something was done intentionally.

I don't feel sorry for him.  If you are drunk you should still be held responsible for your actions.  Unless she raped him then he could have done something.

In case you didn't know, having sex with someone while they are not sober and actually able to give consent is indeed rape.
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Post by: blondie71 on September 28, 2014, 09:01:39 pm
I would never.  But I do know that the justice system makes mistakes because they tried to say my brother in law did something and I know for a fact he didn't he was in jail almost two years and the reason I know is because the day this thing happened I was at his house and the place where it happened was 40 miles away and he had no friends or a car plus I was at his house.  But knowing that a person actually did it no I would not date them.
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Post by: cateyes1 on September 29, 2014, 04:55:57 am
I so would not!!
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Post by: bhiett on September 29, 2014, 06:34:10 am
No.
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Post by: moon29 on September 29, 2014, 06:35:25 am
no way especially if you have children.  they say that they can be rehabilitated but would you really want to take that chance with the children that you love?
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Post by: lgemini on September 29, 2014, 07:25:37 am
No I would not date a sex offender because i will always think why is he a sex offender?
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Post by: missplaymate618 on September 29, 2014, 08:06:07 am
I don't know depends on the situation, some people are registered sex offenders because they were 18 and the other was 17 but lied about her age and the parents find out and press charges, That the person has no control over. But if we are talking about a real sex offender who knows they are committing the crime then no I wouldn't.
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Post by: donnitab on September 29, 2014, 08:15:08 pm
No absolutely not!!
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Post by: timvolley on September 29, 2014, 08:25:01 pm
i wouldnt but you cant stop others from doing it
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Post by: Forp on September 29, 2014, 08:25:37 pm
Gross
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Post by: catherinedwhite on September 29, 2014, 08:46:06 pm
Easy Answer - NO.
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Post by: plennis on September 30, 2014, 01:43:24 am
NO.
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Post by: poochee on September 30, 2014, 05:16:48 am
No, I would not knowingly date a sex offender. One of my neighbor's relatives was coming onto me real strong one night. He was overly aggressive. He even tried to smack me on my butt when I was coming out of the bathroom. I found out a few days later that he is a registered sex offender. He obviously didn't learn his lesson or try to change after the first time.
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Post by: stretch1967 on September 30, 2014, 06:27:13 am
No I wouldn't. There is a lot of guys and gals that may not actually be sex offenders. I think the judges call a lot of things as being a sex offender these days
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Post by: Storm61115 on September 30, 2014, 06:00:49 pm
my fiance was dating someone who pleaded guilty to doing something to some young thing but he didnt believe she did it but he has dated a married woman so i guess he doesnt care.
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Post by: Getinonthis on September 30, 2014, 06:25:54 pm
I believe that before anyone starts to perform judgment on sex offenders they should first research the meaning, learn of the different levels of violations, in each states. A sex offender doesn't have to be a predator to be classified as one, in fact many of us have sent or received obscene SMS or text messages, or maybe in an emergency urinated in a corner umm. Didn't know that was also a sexual offense did you?
Please remember judgement on any level can be deadly especially when it's done ignorantly. I'm not saying embrace it and possibly put yourself or family at risk, I'm saying get informed before you further destroy another human being.
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Post by: Tresbn00 on October 07, 2014, 07:59:42 pm
I guess that I would have to be open minded and find out what the offense was. It could be as innocent as peeing in an alley when there isn't a bathroom for miles. It could be someone who had pictures sent to them that they did not ask for and had no idea they were en route. A person in our neighborhood, who had had an argument with his neighbors, got drunk one night and couldn't get to the bathroom quick enough so he peed in the bushes next to his house. The neighbors called the police and he was labeled as a sex offender. A manager that I knew was working on a holiday when no one else was supposed to be around. Some drunken clients called, faxed him some pictures without his knowledge, a female co-worker noticed them and he was labeled a sex offender. Neither case seems very fair to me and have stigmatized these people for the rest of their lives.
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Post by: natashaspy on October 08, 2014, 05:02:59 am
i guess it's a personal choice for each person, but i myself wouldn't ...even though people say they can change, i've learned not to believe it.
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Post by: sherryinutah on October 08, 2014, 05:13:25 am
I have dated someone who was on a sex offender register.  He was falsely accused of molesting a child and he spent a year in jail because he had a difficult time communicating the truth due to a disability.  He experienced all the abuse from other inmates because he had a reputation for being a child molester.

Eventually the truth came out and he was set free.  I'm learning not to assume or judge people without seeing the larger picture.

 :heart:

 

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Post by: mrisha on October 08, 2014, 06:59:27 am
I would never knowingly date a sex offender-that is like getting involved with the devil.  I praise and honor the Lord too much to get involved with such an animal.
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Post by: 6265AT99 on October 08, 2014, 01:59:49 pm
I know everyone "deserves a second chance" but when it comes to "sex offenders" my answer is no way - they should be locked up and remain there permanently!!!!
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Post by: Lindaroof on October 08, 2014, 05:40:32 pm
I don't think I could. There would be trust issues so what would be the point? 
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Post by: freedavis on October 09, 2014, 07:32:37 am
No way ever.  No need to deal with trouble.
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Post by: JaniceSW on October 09, 2014, 07:43:38 am
I would need to know the level of violation, what the circumstances were, and how long it has been since it occurred.  I would have to be confident of my own research and see that there has been rehabilitation and education.  If they are a felon, that presents a whole new set of problems regarding getting employment, where they can live, and you need to be prepared to support this individual and take all the problems that may be incurred...including public opinion.  You have to consider your family, including children, and that you are a role model to those children.  So many extenuating circumstances, but for the most part, NO...I don't think this person would be on my list of possible partners because there are too many others without such baggage.  And it could be very BIG baggage!!!!
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Post by: cathy37 on October 09, 2014, 01:40:49 pm
Absolutely not.  I think a sex offender is a vile person.  There is too much available sex out there, you do not have to force yourself on someone.
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Post by: Seenobita on October 09, 2014, 01:45:22 pm
No Never ever, I dnt know why would someone ever do that
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Post by: melissajh44 on October 10, 2014, 11:33:31 pm
No, never!!
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Post by: nannycoe1 on October 11, 2014, 05:20:01 am
NO!
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Post by: djohnson43 on October 11, 2014, 06:37:49 am
I could never do that. I have two beautiful daughters to think about.