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she cant walk anymore i have to leave to go to work so i try to leave her food and drink in a cooler thru the day she is alone and says it is not easy for her she needs daily help but we cant afford it for her dont know what to do
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Your health care provider should have social workers who can direct you to services which will allow a care giver to come to your home, either paid for by your health insurance or by the government.
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Your health care provider should have social workers who can direct you to services which will allow a care giver to come to your home, either paid for by your health insurance or by the government.
This is a good idea. Other than that, you could hire part-time help only since that would be cheaper, or have a relative or friend come by and help her during the day? Good luck. :)
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I don't know how old she is, but if 65 or older try calling Area on Aging or any thing you can find in the yellow pages under human services. You might also call your social security office for ideas. I know home health care can be very expensive. If you belong to a church maybe you can find a volunteer for even a few hours to help her. Good luck!
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Like someone mentioned, maybe a neighbor or relative can come by and check on her...best of luck!!
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:'( so sorry. I wish I knew who could help you. I have no experience in that section.
My prayers for both of you. Hope you find help soon. :heart: :angel11:
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I certainly understand because my husband became ill like that and in a wheelchair - we didn't have much luck then but maybe you can get some help. I hope so. Is your wife on medicare? If so I would call them and see what they suggest. Best of luck to you.
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I think there are several gov. or charitable organizations that help in a situation like that. Maybe if you ask a local minister or someone like the Red Cross or something? There may be help out there that you are unaware of. It never hurts to ask around! Best of luck to you!
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I am sorry that your wife is in a wheelchair. Why not try Social Services to get help during the day.
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so sorry to hear that. hopefully you will find a solution or be blessed with some help
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Contact Social Services and ask them what programs they have they could help.
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she cant walk anymore i have to leave to go to work so i try to leave her food and drink in a cooler thru the day she is alone and says it is not easy for her she needs daily help but we cant afford it for her dont know what to do
what does not kill us makes us stronger/
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I know in California there's assistance for people who can't take care of their daily needs ie. can't cook, bathe, shop for themselves. It's though our healthcare agency so it's government assistance. You may want to look into something like that for her.
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There should be health aide care around your area in which u can get assistance. Also, ask if you're neighbors can keep a look out on your wife while ur at work. Most importantly keep the communication w/your wife & you open. Not only will she be struggling at home but also, it will be long hours of loneliness & feelings of helpless for her. When you're at your lowest remember your vows & promises to each other....for better &, for worst, in sickness & in health!
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I know a few people that needed help with a family member. There's alot of people looking for a little extra income and would be happy to keep someone company, do dishes/light housework & run errands at a very reasonable price. Relatives, neighbors, college students (especially those going into the medical profession), someone from church or even someone retired needing some extra cash. (Don't hire a complete stranger that you know nothing about....try to keep it someone you know.) It's worked out really great for the ones I know that did this.
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So sorry for your situation. Hope things get better.
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One of my jobs when I was younger involved caring for a toddler with CP. He lived with his Dad and grandparents. His Dad paid me to work with him. The Grandmother had MS. She was wheelchair bound. Her husband paid me to keep an eye and help her with her needs. What a fantastic family they were. It was hard for her as she was the independent and determined sort. She cooked, did laundry etc... just need extra hands to help when her gripper couldn't do the job. Perhaps there is a trade off you could do with someone. ie: you watch there kids, take them to Dr.'s appointments and they come by and help a few times a day/week. There are a ton of single Mom's and Dad's out there that are in situations as well... Might have to think outside of the box and seek local churches if you're not already involved with one.
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You might want to check into state help for health care workers provides who do this if you have no money to pay they probably will set you up with a free provider which the state pays for to come in help out here and there for you
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I'm sorry that you are dealing with this. Have you tried looking for someone at your church or what about someone in your neighborhood that could at least pop in the house mid day or so and check on her? Family?
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I am sorry to hear that. My prayers go out to you and your wife. Try calling your city county for people with disabilities. They possibility have a service or services that can help you and especially your wife while you are at work.
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What everyone have suggested is good. My prayers goes out to you and yours.
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moonangel update us and let us know if and what works out for you guys. I sure hope something will work out to assist you because I know the position you two are in - been there with my now deceased husband. It's rough when you have to work. I am assuming you don't have any family to help out?
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It seems there are some good ideas posted on here. I've never had to cope with your kind of problem but I hope you can find some help for her while you are at work.
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I know what u are going thru I did before my wife past on littel over a year a go
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i'm so very sorry for your situation. i don't know what to tell you to help but will send prayers for you.
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Hi,
I am in a wheelchair. Have you contacted attendant care programs in your state? These programs often help people to finance the cost of care. I wish you all the best. Please feel free to contact me for any advice.
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I'm so sorry for both of you, God bless you both.
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she cant walk anymore i have to leave to go to work so i try to leave her food and drink in a cooler thru the day she is alone and says it is not easy for her she needs daily help but we cant afford it for her dont know what to do
what does not kill us makes us stronger/
^^^ Exactly :) keep the faith, everything becomes fine eventually!
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thank you everyone there are some ideas we did nt think about will try some and see what happens
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Sorry to here that but there should be some kind of aid that could come an help her while you go to work
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Our county has a home health care service and Meals on Wheels for homebound. You've probably looked into all of this, but there has to be somebody willing to help. If you have a church, maybe they could help you find someone to come and stay with her a couple hours each day...to help out or provide some companionship.
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Your health care provider should have social workers who can direct you to services which will allow a care giver to come to your home, either paid for by your health insurance or by the government.
It is not that easy. You have to qualify for a health care worker. And qualifying is not as easy as saying I am in a wheel chair. Their response will be go to a nursing home if you need constant care.
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she cant walk anymore i have to leave to go to work so i try to leave her food and drink in a cooler thru the day she is alone and says it is not easy for her she needs daily help but we cant afford it for her dont know what to do
Depending on what she is suffering from, you may be able to reach out for resources (for example, I have MS and the local chapter of the national MS society does help connect people to resources). I feel your pain.
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any other family can provide some help or not. Apply disability. wish you luck :rose:
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What about husbands on wheelchairs?
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if you can't find someone you trust maybe hire them to take care of your wife i have been a care giver for a long time and i no how hard it can be there are lots of things you can do try calling a state agency that can get you the help to take care of your wife it depends on where you live good luck and if you live in tampa florida and are looking for someone to help you wife i am available my screen name is aielrod@yahoo.com let me no i do have referrals but good luck
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she cant walk anymore i have to leave to go to work so i try to leave her food and drink in a cooler thru the day she is alone and says it is not easy for her she needs daily help but we cant afford it for her dont know what to do
It is important to make phone calls to find out what your options are for yourself, and your wife. Chances are, there are services available to make your life and her life more comfortable. Good luck with everything.
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