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I have heard that more and more kids have less and less responsibility around the home these days. However, child experts state that each child should contribute to "family" responsibilities, such as lawn care, taking out the trash, doing the dishes after meals, etc, and not "self-care" activities such as taking care of their room. Experts claim that regular "family" chores contribute to a sense of responsibility, helpfulness, empathy, etc. Experts also state that "self-care" chores should not be linked to money or reward, simply told that it is a contribution and responsibility within a family.
Do you agree? Do your children have chores? At what age do you start giving them a little responsibility?
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They all did when they were living here and we must have done it right, because now they all have jobs.
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We lived on a ranch/farm, Yes my kids had chores to do every morning and every night. depending on their ages at the time. They not only had to take turns carrying out the trash, but doing the dishes. Feeding the cattle theirs and the calves that were on the bottle. a lot of other things also. Like if I had to be in the field plowing or what ever they had to bring in the milk cow, milk her and then turn in her calf to nurse. get the eggs help with the watering of the garden. Depending on what time of the year as to what they had to do. They were kept busy. then they also had to clean their room and do homework. But they also made money. they were allowed 2 calfs a year to raise and sell or let the cow have a calf and then they would increase the size of their herd. My boys were crafty they knew to let their little herds increase because mom and dad provided the feed and pasture.
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My children are, as they have always been, tasked with getting good grades, community service and excelling at sports which seems to have worked quite well in giving them a sense of responsibility, helpfulness, and empathy. Experts are like statistics in that they can be manipulated in any manner that fits one's argument or point of view. Each child is different and should be nurtured/guided into getting a well rounded education as well as following their dreams and strengths. My daughter is facing her challenge as she doesn't know if she will be valedictorian or salutatorian. Had she been asked to do more around the house she may not have had an opportunity for either position. My son has been getting letters from colleges since his freshman year (he is now a sophomore). Both kids have learned how to make money outside of the house when they are not doing community service. I have taught them not to give their time away to anyone but the truly needy.
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I don't have children but growing up I always had a chore, it bothers me that my most all my nieces and nephews don't though.
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They have to do chores every week.
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My daughter is only 15 months old but I am teaching her to pick up her toys after she is doing playing with them. I had chores (like cleaning and vacuuming my room) so when she is old enough to understand and start doing that, she will start doing chores.
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Yes I am just starting to get on my two kids about chores. I sweep and mop before I leave for work and do dishes and when I come home at night its a mess. I got tired of coming in and late night cleaning. Now they are not as careless about making a mess or at least my oldest is. They are 12 and 6. My 6 year old is still a work in the making
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I don't have any kids, but (if I did) they would most definitely have chores.
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My girls are long gone (they have families of their own), but when they lived at home they had chores. They had to keep their rooms clean and the bathroom they shared. They had to do the dishes (yes, we had a dishwasher, but they had to load and unload it), take the garbage out, feed the pets ( we always had lots, they kept finding strays and bringing them in), and most important keeping up with their school work.
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my nephew has chores but I never really saw him do anything yet. only when told. lol! perhaps after we move to the new house.
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I don't have kids but I had chores and if I have kids, they will have regular chores too. I think it's an important part of raising a child and teaches them responsibility and cleanliness.
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I have a 22 and a 15 and they both do things around the house. My oldest will clean the bathroom and help with the house cleaning. My youngest helps me with the laundry and the cooking and around the house. And I do not clean their rooms no matter what,but if is to dirty I will start screaming and yelling and they will be in big trouble
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I don't have any children. When I was growing up, we had chores to do. Doing chores taught us responsibility.
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Kids are handful but you got to love em 😘😘😘😘😘
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Yes my kids had chores growing up. When they come home the still help with the chores here on the farm.
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we've always given my son chores. it's so easy to spoil kids rotten these days and they turn out to be lazy adults. not saying my son isn't spoiled lol...he is, but he's also got a great attitude/personality and isn't one of those that thinks they are owed anything.
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I have 2 girls, I try to make them do some small work to help me like, put away the folded laundry, clean there room, put away their clothes, toys etc., Its always been their stuffs not mine or my husbands. I think we have to make them girl or a boy they should learn keep their stuffs neat clean & organized.
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Oh most definitely! lol
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Yes they do have chores mean mommy lol >:( >:(
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I don't have kids or anything but when I go visit my sister her kids have chores to do.
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Our kids do have chores, the majority of which they do get paid for. They are 11 and 9 and it is their responsibility to keep their rooms tidy and it is also their responsibility to keep the guest bathroom tidy. It is not always tidy and I have to nag them to start work. I realize they don't want to work, even for money, but does the rest of the world? Suspect not.
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I don't have kids, but if I did they would have chores. I think it teaches responsibility. It would be age appropriate and not so much that they don't have time to be kids. When I was a child, if my dad caught me sitting it meant - to him- that work was not getting done. That is extreme for a child.
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Yes my kids do. They have to make their beds and take out their trash. On Saturday we have a house cleaning day where they clean their rooms and bathrooms and help wash the base boards through out the house.
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I am starting to give house chore to my 5 years old. But she likes and pick the cooking chore, which is hard and dangerous. So I convince her that washing dishes is more fun than cooking, hopefully she`ll buy it.
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I don't have any children, but if I did, they would surely have some chores!
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Yes, I think it is important that children have chores to do around the house to teach them that being part of a family means you have to participate in both the fun and not so fun things that contribute to family life. I also think it is important they get real jobs when teenagers to teach them the value of earning money to get things you want. My kids had to do both things growing up.
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i had chores growing up...so did my daughters and both my granddaughters have chores to do..i dont think it hurts to have the child do things around the house
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I remember my mom would give each of us a certain cleaning job.
We got an allowance.
A few dollars could buy something decent.
Nowadays, everything is so expensive.
We learned about setting goals, even some that took a while to reach.
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Yes mine do! I think is very important to make them WORK for things versus just handing them everything be aide they appreciate it more!
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Well, back in the days, my kids had chores and was not paid, hey did get an weekly allowance and was rewarded for bringing home good grades, like A's and B's. Today kids don't have chores they are paid to do house work, like cleaning their rooms and keeping it clean, but that's life.
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well my children are all grown up now,,,, when they were young they had to keep their bedrooms cleaned up. i didn't expect it to be spotless. lol but it was their "job" and they helped with dishes in the evening. I wanted them to worry more their school work then worry about oh i have this job to do and that job to do . When they got older and went out and found their own jobs ,,, they were ready for it. My son just retired from the army after 20 years. my daughter went to college for 4 years and worked 2 jobs at the same time. she didn't have to work both jobs, she was still living at home, but she did. in her 3 year she finally got a place of her own,,, lol she had saved up a lot of money,,,, ( she did help with money for food while at home, i didn't charge her rent )
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Yes my son has chores. He does not really complain either because he can earn towards the games he want.
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I tried assigned a chore for my daughter. She was good doing it for a couple of days and then she lost interest. I will try again sometimes.