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Im just curious on how many woman actually have a good man cause Im starting to think that there is not many good ones out there anymore. Its like they have all gone bad, like fruit LOL
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Haha, I know how you feel... Hopefully some day we'll find a good one!
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I hope there are some more good ones left.........although I never get out to meet anyone anyway...lol
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i know what you mean! i spent the first 6 years of my "dating" period going from one "rotten" man to another. it seemed they all had one (or sometimes more) of the following issues: liars, cheaters, abusers (including physical, mental, emotional, and substance), too much drama (usually from their previos relationships), immaturity, or we were at different stages of our lives. then, 5 years ago, i gave up. i threw my hands up in the air and said i was done trying to find mr. right, or any other mr. for that matter. i had a few quiet weeks of spending time with family and other single girl friends. then one night, went to a bar with my girls, and this very attractive man asked me for a light. i'm not a smoker so what were the chances that i just happened to have ended up with my friend's lighter in my pocket. so i gave him a light and we then struck up a conversation that led us outside, where we sat and talked for 3 hours. we exchanged phone numbers, started hanging out, going to movies, to the beach, out to eat, just real casual. and then, before either of us realized what was happening, we fell in love. we dated for 4 years and have now been married for one year! and he is a great guy! very nice, laid back, funny, charming, intelligent, and an excellent provider for our family. i guess the point of all this is that there are still a few good guys out there. you just have to be patient, be open minded, and don't settle for anything less than what you deserve!
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I'm a man, and I thought i'd weigh in on this. I treat my girlfriend like a princess. I always am there for her, and if I feel like I hurt her in anyway, I'm always there to comfort her or apologize to her constantly because I honestly feel bad. I love her with all of my heart.
I know i'm probably one of the few nice guys out there, but i'm quite proud of it. :D
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Still waiting to meet a good man who treats me like a queen. It seems like I always meet the ones who wants to use me and thinks I should be grateful to them :bs:
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I recently lost my job and my husband couldn't be more supportive. He actually apologized for not making enough money so I could just stay home from now on. I feel really lucky.
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I'm a man, and I thought i'd weigh in on this. I treat my girlfriend like a princess. I always am there for her, and if I feel like I hurt her in anyway, I'm always there to comfort her or apologize to her constantly because I honestly feel bad. I love her with all of my heart.
I know i'm probably one of the few nice guys out there, but i'm quite proud of it. :D
its very nice to hear that you are a nice guy and your girlfriend is very lucky to have you. now if only your good qualities could just be replicated and spread onto the rest of the men out there... ;)
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Your true a GOOD man is really hard to find!!! I dated alot of LOSERS before meeting my husband and damn did I get lucky!!
Don't give up there are good men out there, its like a needle in a haystack!!!
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I have an amazing one. He had a crush on me for a few years, but we never talked. Then we started talking online when one of his friends (no longer his friend..) started stalking and harassing me. He told the guy to leave me alone and when he tried to say bad things about me he called him a name I'd rather not repeat here. At the time, I had a boyfriend whom I'd been dating for around a year but he didn't defend me at all, and still acted friendly with the guy who was harassing me. After a couple of months, my then-boyfriend dumped me, and my now-boyfriend cheered me up as much as he could. After about a month we started hanging out, and after two I asked him out.
He always wants to spend time with me, we've been hanging out every single day for months. He loves animals and little kids. He always wants to spend all of his money on me even though I tell him he doesn't have to and often that I don't want him to spend too much on me. He always tries so hard to please me, always. We still haven't ever gotten into a fight, because we don't want to argue with each other. We calm down and talk about what's going on instead of arguing when we're upset. He accepts me for who I am. I choose to wear clothing that most people make fun of me for, but he tells me I look cute in it and isn't embarrassed to be seen in public with me. He holds my hands and we laugh at the funny reactions people have together.
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I have a great man. We have been married nearly 30 years and have raised 5 children together. He has always treated me like a princess. He has listened to me and comforted me when I have needed him. He has always let me make up my own mind and supported me in whatever I wanted to do. My husband is a prince among men. :D
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I sometimes wonder how I got so lucky. My husband of 24 years is...... well theres just too much good stuff about him its hard to
narrow it down to a few words. He is the best. He will go out of his way to help others too. He is my forever love, my friend, my comforter
and so much more. There is so much he has done for me. I just cant say enough about how great he is. So, yes there are good men out
there.
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I consider myself one of those good men. I met my fiancee online in the MMORPG World of Warcraft. We have been together for over 2 years. It has not always been smooth, I would say we had more rough times then not. But we work through the times and look forward to the future. We do not argue or have very many minor fights, and those we do are over fast. I love her with all my heart and would do anything for her.
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I consider myself lucky. For the most part my relationships have been with pretty good guys. Sure no one is perfect. As Dr Phil says "you teach people how to treat you" is all I'm going to say.
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is all about comunication in a relationship we all make mistakes we all humans but we all can change some how
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Good men are out there...sometimes they are just hard to find. I was married for 21 yrs to the worlds biggest jerk but we split up and I met the most wonderful, loving, fun, exciting man on the planet and we are planning to marry within the next year. So yes, the world has some good men in it....be patient and you will find one! (but ladies, Im sorry to say..I found THE BEST one! lol)
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Good for you! I'm happy for you. I'm glad you found one of the good ones.
dmalsbury
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Good question. I do know that when you stop looking and focus on your own life with your family and friends he will end up where you least expect it.
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(but ladies, Im sorry to say..I found THE BEST one! lol)
Oh, now now there, I have the BEST one! LOL
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:) I agree with you: Go for the best ones...do not waste your time with bad ones!
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I am a man, as well, and figured I might weigh in on this, too. Honestly, every girl I've ever dated(except for one) has mistreated me in some way, cheated on me, or dumped me for a guy who treats them like crap. No matter what I did for them, or how well I treated them,they always slept around behind my back, or said, "I'm sorry, but there's someone I care for more than you", and said guy always ended up treating them like complete and utter trash, and they would never break up with the guy, no matter what he did to them. I don't get it. Why do women tend to gravitate towards guys who mistreat them? At least, it seems like they do, anyway.
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I know everyone probably thinks they have the best guy - but I know that I do! We knew each other only 3 months the day we got married. His best friend married my best friend and introduced us a week later. The odd part is that they were split up by the time we got married! Ten years after that we had a beautiful daughter that is truly our joy and pride. She graduated Magna *bleep* Laud last year, got married last October and is working on her Masters degree. Back to my guy - everyone likes my hubby. He is always there to help anyone and everyone. Took care of his mother driving 30 miles a day nearly everyday for her last couple of years. He helped my Dad all the time and helped my Mom with him before he passed away last year. Now he helps me take care of running errands for my Mom since she cannot get around like she used to. Due to a couple of mishaps (car wreck and ripped Achilles tendon) I have been on crutches for 3 years - he does all the grocery shopping along with working full time, yard work etc. We will be married 38 years on our next anniversary. He is a great husband, father, son-in-law, friend and I consider him a gift from God!
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trust me, they're out there....i'm blessed enough to be married to one....women just have to remember that if you say you want a good man, when he comes along, don't do everything in your power to run him off....i see that happen all too often....if you're used to losing, you don't know what it's like to win.....
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my ex..cheated on me..now shes prego..i just had his son 9 days ago and he left us 6 weeks ago..SHES ALREADY PREGO!!! :bs: :bs: :bs:
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MY HUSBAND IS THE BEST! HE SUPPORTS ME IN EVERYTHING I WANT TO DO. HE WORKS HARD AND DONT COMPLAIN WHEN HE COMES HOME. HE COMES HOME AND STILL CLEAN AND WORK SOME MORE. HE IS THE BEST! HE ACTUALLY SIT BACK AND LISTEN TO ME COMPLAIN ABOUT MY DAY
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My husband is TOTALLY awesome to me!!! There are good men out there...you just have to find the right one! Now don't believe that "a man can't change" my hubs wasn't the greatest guy - BUT since we've been together he has gotten SOOOO much better! We have been married for almost 6 years now and totally happy!
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I am a man, as well, and figured I might weigh in on this, too. Honestly, every girl I've ever dated(except for one) has mistreated me in some way, cheated on me, or dumped me for a guy who treats them like crap. No matter what I did for them, or how well I treated them,they always slept around behind my back, or said, "I'm sorry, but there's someone I care for more than you", and said guy always ended up treating them like complete and utter trash, and they would never break up with the guy, no matter what he did to them. I don't get it. Why do women tend to gravitate towards guys who mistreat them? At least, it seems like they do, anyway.
I'm sorry!! My brother is just like you. He tends to find girls that always treat him wrong. But hes problem was he would pick girls up at the gas station, at bars or through friends girlfriends, friends. I dont know where you are looking but I promise give it time and you will find someone!!
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Haha, I know how you feel... Hopefully some day we'll find a good one!
pffffsh.
you and me both, sister ;p
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men can be as complicated as much as women are, yet, there is amazing ones out there. JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE DID U WRONG does not mean they are all the same. I believe that everyone has their special someone out there waiting for them but you must be patient, and once you find them, make it work. COMMUNICATION IS THEY KEY. however dont let any men disrespect you and treat you like dogs. so for those who don't believe that there is still good guys out there ..remember! theres alot of fish in the ocean ;)
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gotta chime in on this one too! I am a guy and I try my best to be there for my fiance' and our daughter! I try too keep both of them happy!!! sometimes I feel bad because I haven't been able to always provide for things that they want but I also try to pick between what they want and what they need!!! :angel12:
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i dont know what to say about men....sometimes you love them sometimes you dont i dont understand why half decide to cheat when they have a good woman on their side. i have a good man but unfortunately he's incarereted thats a shame cant have a good man in the free world...but then again how good is he gonna be when he gets out??? :dontknow:
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THERE ARE GOOD MEN OUT THERE, YOU JUST HAVE TO LOOK. IT SEEMS LIKE THEY'RE ALL BAD BUT NOT EVERYONE IS BAD. WITH A FEW BAD ONES BEFORE, I NOW FOUND A GOOD ONE, FINALLY! :D
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We're evil, get used to it.
If you want to find a guy that that isn't evil, then stop looking for a guy and just enjoy being with yourself. Once you can do that and not worry at all about whether you are with someone, then a good guy will notice that, and you'll be happier in the end anyway.
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There are a ton of good men out there (and an equally ton of not-so-good men, too). Just like women. Love is sometimes subject to the law of large numbers (have to kiss a few frogs to find a prince...) philosophy. I've been there. I'm in my second marriage and am darned lucky to have found my lovely man! I know of four really great men in my life (my hubby, my son, my father and my maternal grandfather). I know more are out there as several posts before this indicate it is so.... I'm sure the men in this forum have been through similar experiences with women. It's tough to find good people but it's very rewarding when you do! Still, women rule! :)
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I have the closest thing to a perfect man that could ever be. I have been married twice before to men who treated be terrible. They both cheated on me and the last one tried to choke me to death. I thought there was no way I would ever get married again..... and then along came Mr Wonderful! I know that God put us together because it is just so great. Keep believing and when you least expect it .... he will come along.
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I would consider myself one of those good guys you speak of. I am now engaged and I try everyday to make her feel like she is a queen. Speaking from experience, being the "nice" guy often gets you friends with girls who have no interest in dating you. This is especially true when you are younger like high school or college age. Most girls are looking for that good looking guy who is dangerous or something like that. It seems like girls gravitate to the jerks and leave the nice guys there until the jerk does something then she looks to the nice guy for comfort just long enough to find the next jerk. All the while, the nice guy sits there with no real chance of ever going anywhere with her. I happened to get very lucky and got an amazing girl who has been with some jerks and truly appreciates me and shows it.
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I had to train my husband to become a better husband... We have
been married 8 yrs. so far.
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There are a ton of good men out there (and an equally ton of not-so-good men, too).
I disagree, it's not equal in my opinion...the liars and cheats far outweigh the good people in the world.
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I have an amazing husband
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The best ones to keep are the ones you met when you were younger. Growing up with someone and falling in love can create one of the most long lasting and loyal frienship in life.
Of course we know there's not many out there because most relationship doesn't hold up when life starts to get the way. Then, we move on to be with the ones that have been through through unsucessful relationship. It doesn't get easier to work on a relationship where both parties have been in relationships that didn't work. Most of the time, we try to work on our flaws and don't have clarity to move on let alone try to help that other party. The other thing that can happen is one person has been through drama and the other is lack of experience. This is not quite the combination either. The lack of experience person doesn't understand that their world is about to be flip upside-down.
There are still good men out there. I think sometimes we focus on the the physical feature rather than how nice a guy is. Most women end up getting into relationships wher they get hurt because of this mistake. A good man has more to offer than just his good looks.
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that is great its amazing how things can change and for the better,i am on my third marriage first one about 4 years and very abusive we had one son,then second one only lasted 1 year he was younger than me by 2 years but he was so hyped out all the time and was not anywhere near settling down,no children with that one now i have been married 10 years and we have three children together and a total of 5 children between us,there are good times but alot of bad due to economy and money issues,this one just cant hold a long term job anjd i love him to pieces.but we argue alot about all of it,its sad that money does this to love.good luck in yours sounds like you found mr right congrats,and happy future to you hold on to him tight,sounds like a winner.
i know what you mean! i spent the first 6 years of my "dating" period going from one "rotten" man to another. it seemed they all had one (or sometimes more) of the following issues: liars, cheaters, abusers (including physical, mental, emotional, and substance), too much drama (usually from their previos relationships), immaturity, or we were at different stages of our lives. then, 5 years ago, i gave up. i threw my hands up in the air and said i was done trying to find mr. right, or any other mr. for that matter. i had a few quiet weeks of spending time with family and other single girl friends. then one night, went to a bar with my girls, and this very attractive man asked me for a light. i'm not a smoker so what were the chances that i just happened to have ended up with my friend's lighter in my pocket. so i gave him a light and we then struck up a conversation that led us outside, where we sat and talked for 3 hours. we exchanged phone numbers, started hanging out, going to movies, to the beach, out to eat, just real casual. and then, before either of us realized what was happening, we fell in love. we dated for 4 years and have now been married for one year! and he is a great guy! very nice, laid back, funny, charming, intelligent, and an excellent provider for our family. i guess the point of all this is that there are still a few good guys out there. you just have to be patient, be open minded, and don't settle for anything less than what you deserve!
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If men would just think with their BIG head :icon_rr: and not with their LITTLE head everything would be ok.
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Men. Where do I start with the topic. It would take a whole day to say something about men
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Men. Boy I sure have alot to say about men but just don't get me started. All I know of all the men that live in this world maybe only about for me a little % is worth while
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thanhkle2003
i agree w/you
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Theres plenty of fish's in the sea, you just gotta keep looking ;D
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my boyfriend decided he was moving to florida for work and hadn't talked to me about it cause he was waiting for the special moment, and i found out on facebook.