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I am curious as to what others thing as to why people ask for other people's opinion and then get mad when they don't like what they are told. haha That makes no sense to me. If you want someone to agree with you then get a parrot. If you really want people's opinion then be prepared for not every one to agree with you.
Also I am curious as to how many people tell the truth when someone asks for your opinion. Or do you just say what ever will make that person feel good?
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That is funny, but you see it all the time. I want your opinion, but only if it is the same as mine. I usually tell the truth, sometimes a little toned down to not sound rude. I try to be truthful. I mean it is just an opinion and everyone has one.
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I think if you have a strong opinion on something then voice it. Many things I'm just so so on don't really care.If you have an opinion and you say it you sometimes have to back up claims,like I think abortion is wrong because...
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I think a lot of times people ask for your opinion only if it’s what they want to hear. I try to tell the truth, but I will tone it down some.
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Many time people asked for opinion and get upset when you give them a straight forward answer.
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I guess it depends on who wants my opinion. If it's someone I don't know really well, I'll probably say I can't give an opinion. Or, maybe if it's something not that important, I'll tell them something that will make them feel good about themselves. If it's someone I'm pretty close to, I'll usually give them my honest opinion. :peace:
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If someone asks my opinion I ask them, "Do you want my opinion or do you want me to agree with you?" Also, I tell them you may not like what your going to hear; so are you sure you want my opinion?" If they don't like it... I warned em'. On the flip side I've asked for opinions and have reacted poorly.... expecting to hear something and that's not what was said.
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It really depends on the subject as well as the person.
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I tell the truth if they get mad at me then oh well they did just ask for my opinion on the subject. If it bothers them that much to the point they don't want to be around me then its there loss there are so many touchy subjects nowadays it isn't funny
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They do not ask this question because they "care" if this is the case.
They are sizing you up, to see what "side" of the issue you are on.
Our societal atmosphere is very feisty, at best these days. Many are taking polar opposite sides. I don't give my opinion on controversial issues to any one I do not know well enough to trust.
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Just ignore it, don't get pulled into a fight. Most people have already made up their mind.
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I try to reply in a positive way even if I don't agree. But I won't tell them I do if I don't :confused1:
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That is funny, but you see it all the time. I want your opinion, but only if it is the same as mine. I usually tell the truth, sometimes a little toned down to not sound rude. I try to be truthful. I mean it is just an opinion and everyone has one.
Depends on what kind of a mood I am in. I am not going to purposely hurt somebody's feelings but if you weigh 350 pounds don't ask me if you are fat. Just sayin'.
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I think if you have a strong opinion on something then voice it. Many things I'm just so so on don't really care.If you have an opinion and you say it you sometimes have to back up claims,like I think abortion is wrong because...
No you don't have to back any thing up. You have a right to your opinion. But going with your example and I am curious as to if this has to do with the other thread - but abortion is wrong because it is murder. Not sure how anyone can think it is okay to murder a baby. But then again, I don't see how a person could think it is okay to go in to a church and kill 26 people and hurt a bunch of others.
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If someone asks my opinion I ask them, "Do you want my opinion or do you want me to agree with you?" Also, I tell them you may not like what your going to hear; so are you sure you want my opinion?" If they don't like it... I warned em'. On the flip side I've asked for opinions and have reacted poorly.... expecting to hear something and that's not what was said.
That is good. haha. Never really thought of saying that. I don't know that I have ASKED for someone's opinion and reacted badly when it wasn't what I wanted to hear. I have however talked about something in front of someone and received unsolicited advice and got upset.
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I tell the truth if they get mad at me then oh well they did just ask for my opinion on the subject. If it bothers them that much to the point they don't want to be around me then its there loss there are so many touchy subjects nowadays it isn't funny
This is true. And so many pansies. These snow flakes need to get a grip on reality. Life is not a cupcake full of fluffy icing. And not every one will agree with you. Most people just want sympathy these days. Like people who cry because they don't have any money but when you tell them where they can get a job they get mad or say they are not working there. Like a neighbor who is supposedly looking for work. Told him where he could get a job and start working either that night or the next day. And he says oh he ain't working there. Well then you aren't "looking for a job". You want a hand out.
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They do not ask this question because they "care" if this is the case.
They are sizing you up, to see what "side" of the issue you are on.
Our societal atmosphere is very feisty, at best these days. Many are taking polar opposite sides. I don't give my opinion on controversial issues to any one I do not know well enough to trust.
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I am not talking about 'issues'. I am talking about when say a person constantly posts on facebook how they don't have a job and have no income and then post pictures of themselves eating out or selfies with their new iPhone. Or they ask how can I make money and you suggest a place that is hiring and they get mad. Or when people post these big rants on social media about a bad experience at a restaurant and they want you to take their side but you think they were in the wrong and you tell them and then they start trashing you.
I have seen at least 2 car accidents where some idiot posted a bunch of stuff about the other driver and people are ripping the other girl to shreds with NO proof of any of the things she is being accused of. It is funny because if you are in an accident and you are at fault you will have all kinds of people start yelling you were texting. FYI there were tons of accidents before cell phones. I got rear ended at a red light. The guy was not texting. He was eating a cheese burger and dropped it and was trying to pick it up when he slammed in to me. He admitted that to the cop. lol. But if you take the opposing side of the girl posting the rant then she gets mad. Oh and she doesn't want to be criticized for not having her 8 month old baby buckled in to a car seat and the baby went thru the windshield. So it was her fault her kid is dead. Not the other driver. She should have had the child in a car seat.
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Just ignore it, don't get pulled into a fight. Most people have already made up their mind.
This is true too. Most people are just looking for a fight. You can't really just ignore it if someone straight up asks you to your face a question. Although lately if it is about certain topics I agree it is better to say I don't have an opinion or just say you are not discussing it and walk away. Politics, gun control, religion, abortion, homosexuality, and the list goes on. They already know what they think and they just want someone to fight with them.
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I am curious as to what others thing as to why people ask for other people's opinion and then get mad when they don't like what they are told. haha That makes no sense to me. If you want someone to agree with you then get a parrot. If you really want people's opinion then be prepared for not every one to agree with you.
Also I am curious as to how many people tell the truth when someone asks for your opinion. Or do you just say what ever will make that person feel good?
Hello! :D :)
I never get upset when someone gives me their opinion which I ask for, however yes it may hurt my feelings but that's life. However when people give me their opinion that I never ask for then I get irritated. For example, after I put on weight people were "so kind" to give me their opinion that I never asked for. I don't need their help to lose weight, now a few years went by and I have lost the weight by myself. My weight is my business and none of yours. :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose:
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I am curious as to what others thing as to why people ask for other people's opinion and then get mad when they don't like what they are told. haha That makes no sense to me. If you want someone to agree with you then get a parrot. If you really want people's opinion then be prepared for not every one to agree with you.
Also I am curious as to how many people tell the truth when someone asks for your opinion. Or do you just say what ever will make that person feel good?
Hello! :D :)
I never get upset when someone gives me their opinion which I ask for, however yes it may hurt my feelings but that's life. However when people give me their opinion that I never ask for then I get irritated. For example, after I put on weight people were "so kind" to give me their opinion that I never asked for. I don't need their help to lose weight, now a few years went by and I have lost the weight by myself. My weight is my business and none of yours. :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose:
I saw a guy at the grocery store that I had not seen in a long time. I was in my 20s and he was a perverted dirty old man that bothered me every time he saw me out. Anyway, he walks up to me at the register and says "you picked up a little". I said what are you talking about. He said 'weight. you have gained weight". I was young. I should have said and you have lost a few more teeth. smh. But even now I probably wouldn't say that. But I swear people are stupid.
I agree that your weight is nothing to any one else. I can't believe what people will talk up to strangers and say. I have some problems that are obvious if you look at me and it never ceases to amaze me what people that do not even know me will walk up to me and say.
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I ask for somebody's opinion more times than I can count, now not saying that their opinions right or wrong, but I don't get mad about an opinion!
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Agreed it is absolutely ridiculous. To be honest I don't ask people's opinion, not because I am going to get mad but because I don't know anyone whose opinion I really value. I make up my own mind about stuff and then decide what I should do on my own.
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You all are rite on and it is that everyone is different on how they take things in a positive or negative way.
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Yeah, I see that all time as well. People want your opinion only if it matches their
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You all are rite on and it is that everyone is different on how they take things in a positive or negative way.
Esp online. You can think something and type it and it seems fine in your head but when somebody else reads it they are ready to fight because they took it totally wrong.
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Most people that know me and ask for my opinion, know that I'll be straight with them. Tough if they dont like what I say but they asked.
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I see it happen all the time....I always try to be honest, but I don't always go into full detail (if that makes sense)
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Anyone who thinks that you have to have a parrot to agree with you has clearly never owned a parrot. They love to disagree with you and then act cute to make up for it.
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When someone asks my opinion I usually "tell it to them straight".......at the end I always add "that's just MY opinion though" ;) :)
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I usually tell the truth, sometimes a little toned down to not sound rude. I try to be truthful. I mean it is just an opinion and everyone has one.
I agree completely. I want real opinions when I ask. I give real opinions.
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Different strokes for different folks!
Different opinions we must respect.
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I am curious as to what others thing as to why people ask for other people's opinion and then get mad when they don't like what they are told. haha That makes no sense to me. If you want someone to agree with you then get a parrot. If you really want people's opinion then be prepared for not every one to agree with you.
Also I am curious as to how many people tell the truth when someone asks for your opinion. Or do you just say what ever will make that person feel good?
Hello! :D :)
I never get upset when someone gives me their opinion which I ask for, however yes it may hurt my feelings but that's life. However when people give me their opinion that I never ask for then I get irritated. For example, after I put on weight people were "so kind" to give me their opinion that I never asked for. I don't need their help to lose weight, now a few years went by and I have lost the weight by myself. My weight is my business and none of yours. :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose:
I saw a guy at the grocery store that I had not seen in a long time. I was in my 20s and he was a perverted dirty old man that bothered me every time he saw me out. Anyway, he walks up to me at the register and says "you picked up a little". I said what are you talking about. He said 'weight. you have gained weight". I was young. I should have said and you have lost a few more teeth. smh. But even now I probably wouldn't say that. But I swear people are stupid.
I agree that your weight is nothing to any one else. I can't believe what people will talk up to strangers and say. I have some problems that are obvious if you look at me and it never ceases to amaze me what people that do not even know me will walk up to me and say.
Hello! :D :)
I agree that was stupid, he doesn't even know you but he felt obligated to tell you, you put on weight as if you couldn't see that yourself. I really want to know why people rather bring you down then pick you up? When I lost the weight a few people complimented me and said I lost. Contrastingly a lot of people told me when I put on weight. This world is so backward. :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose:
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I prefer to hear the truth! I'm overweight and I hate when people say "You're not fat" lol Hello???? I know I am! I tend to speak my mind when people ask my opinion. If they don't like it, it's on them not me. They asked. ;)
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When I ask for an opinion I would like to think I am getting their HONEST opinion. This is why I get myself in so much trouble sometimes. Ask for my opinion and I will TRULY answer whether you like it or not, hey, you asked lol
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I try to respond in a way that will not insult their opinion, but still tell the truth about how I feel.
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I agree with you. It's hard to have conversations with people if they aren't willing to hear my opinions. You don't have to agree but at least respect each other.
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I always say if you don't want an honest answer don't ask me for your opionon. I tell you what you need to hear not what you want to hear. my husband is the same way as I am.
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You kind of answered your own question there. People just want people to agree with them and unfortunately most people do just that. By those who know me well, they know not to ask for my opinion unless they really want it.
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I know. I only give an opion if I really have to
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You are so right. Don't ask if your not ready to hear what others have to say. Not all the time you will get good news.
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I'm always truthful and if asked I will voice how I feel. Everyone that knows me realize I'm very opinionated and if you don't want to hear what I have to say, don't ask me. Most appreciate what I have to say.
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I have no idea.I ask myself the same question over and over again.
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They lack respect and tolerance for different opinions.
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I try to be honest, but not mean-spirited. If someone writes a post that really disturbs me, I just pass on by.
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It would be fabulous if all parties could have intelligent discussions about whatever the topic. It's so interesting and informative.
It's shameful that people get mad about other people's opinions. I think they're even promoting that in the school system. The world is so upside-down about so many things.
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That’s why I hate elections. When the candidate you don’t vote for wins, you find things too unfair. Because elections are so close these days, and there are no more candidates I can politically trust and call heroes/heroines if at all, I refuse to believe in politics ever again. If you think that sounds rude, just ignore me. Don’t talk back in any way whatsoever!
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People seem to want to live in an echo chamber that mirrors only one opinion... theirs.
It's a way they can feel good about themselves, that they are righteous so they can virtue signal.
They don't really want to know what would you do, they just want you to agree with what they want to do.
A well-rounded person can see all sides, one may not agree, but tolerance is key in a functioning society.
Some people are so closed minded that they aren't worth the time or energy, spend as little time on a response as possible & be vague.... "I'm not sure, what do you think" & throw it back at them. Avoidance in some situations is best.
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It depends on the topic! I dont discuss politics or religion with certain people because I know they are just looking to argue
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Not sure why people do a lot of things. They may just have nothing better to do
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I really think people just want to know if some else is thinking the same way you are. Maybe they will take your advice and maybe they will not it really depends on the question and the person.
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I know. I hate that. My family will do that to me. They'll ask me something and I'll give them an answer and they'll argue with me. Then, I'm like, well, why did you ask?
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It would be fabulous if all parties could have intelligent discussions about whatever the topic. It's so interesting and informative.
It's shameful that people get mad about other people's opinions. I think they're even promoting that in the school system. The world is so upside-down about so many things.
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They promote you can say whatever you want as long as no one disagrees with you. And if somebody disagrees with you then you will be labeled a bully. You are special and you can't get your tender snowflake feelings hurt. This country can't get too much more screwed up.
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That’s why I hate elections. When the candidate you don’t vote for wins, you find things too unfair. Because elections are so close these days, and there are no more candidates I can politically trust and call heroes/heroines if at all, I refuse to believe in politics ever again. If you think that sounds rude, just ignore me. Don’t talk back in any way whatsoever!
What is unfair is so many times there are too many underhanded things going on and cheating. And in local elections they run extra people to split the vote up more. The one they want to win gets someone to run that has no chance to pull votes off the opposition.
As for telling people if they don't agree with you not to respond whatsoever - you cannot do that. You are exactly what was being described to start with. You want to state your opinion and yell shut up at every one else. Every one has a right to their opinion.
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or people that ask for your opinion on "what you would do" when they already know full well what they are going to do (regardless of what you say) and then argue with you over your input. Total waste of my time and I hate that.
True - there is another thread on here and the OP is saying they want, truly want, people's opinion. NO he doesn't. And I told him that. lol. I could give my opinion but I would only be attacked. Even though he plainly asked for everyone's imput and thoughts. But he doesn't want every one's opinion. He wants people to agree with him.
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It depends on the topic! I dont discuss politics or religion with certain people because I know they are just looking to argue
Haha. Very true.
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I am honest with people when they ask my opinion. People need to realize that others won't always agree with them.
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I am honest with people when they ask my opinion. People need to realize that others won't always agree with them.
lol True but they don't. In today's world if you disagree with somebody you are called a bully. No, it is called having a difference in opinion. If you ask a question esp on a public forum you can't expect people to be all sugar coated and lollipop. I have seen questions on this site and the OP says oh I want the honest truth I want to know what people think. lol - NO you don't. You want people to tell you that you are right and to agree with you.
It is like the pictures I have seen on "Pinterest" with some stupid girl holding a sign that says "roast me". Then people make mean comments. Doing what the stupid b**tch asked for and then she crops out the "roast me" sign and posts the pic on Facebook and every where else crying because people are bullying her. I can't stand too much more stupidity.
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Some people are just stupid!
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Some people are just stupid!
You got that right!
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We people opinions because we want to see what they or they will respond, every opinion matters, if its good or bad, we can't judge someone on how they respond to your question or comment.
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validation.
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We people opinions because we want to see what they or they will respond, every opinion matters, if its good or bad, we can't judge someone on how they respond to your question or comment.
But the whole point is most people do. They ask for opinions on say a public forum and then get mad when people do not agree with them. The same in real life. They ask for people's opinions but when somebody tells them something they don't want to hear they cry that you are bullying them.
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They don't really want honesty they want to hear a lie
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I am curious as to what others thing as to why people ask for other people's opinion and then get mad when they don't like what they are told. haha That makes no sense to me. If you want someone to agree with you then get a parrot. If you really want people's opinion then be prepared for not every one to agree with you.
Also I am curious as to how many people tell the truth when someone asks for your opinion. Or do you just say what ever will make that person feel good?
Haha, exactly. People are conflicted, defensive creatures. They don't want to have to face the person's opinion being contradictory to their own? Because it might challenge them in some way? I'm not articulating it well, but the term "cognitive dissonance" does come to mind on this topic.
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I think it depends on the individual you are talking to
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I am curious as to what others thing as to why people ask for other people's opinion and then get mad when they don't like what they are told. haha That makes no sense to me. If you want someone to agree with you then get a parrot. If you really want people's opinion then be prepared for not every one to agree with you.
Also I am curious as to how many people tell the truth when someone asks for your opinion. Or do you just say what ever will make that person feel good?
Haha, exactly. People are conflicted, defensive creatures. They don't want to have to face the person's opinion being contradictory to their own? Because it might challenge them in some way? I'm not articulating it well, but the term "cognitive dissonance" does come to mind on this topic.
If you ASK for other people's opinions that is one thing. But if somebody just comes up and shoves their opinion on you that is different. Which is what I orig was saying. Why do people ASK for opinions of others (mostly online) and then scream and cry when they get opinions that are not what theirs are.
I guess I agree people in general are defensive and that is getting worse. Probably has a lot to do with idiots who will walk up to complete strangers and say things to them that are not of their business. Like a friend who was at Walmart with her baby and a stranger walks up to her and says "boy your baby sure is FAT". Well no, the kid is not fat. Not at all. But even if it were the stranger has no right to say anything. In a case like that the person has a right to be defensive. I would be tempted to hit somebody. haha
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I am curious as to what others thing as to why people ask for other people's opinion and then get mad when they don't like what they are told. haha That makes no sense to me. If you want someone to agree with you then get a parrot. If you really want people's opinion then be prepared for not every one to agree with you.
Also I am curious as to how many people tell the truth when someone asks for your opinion. Or do you just say what ever will make that person feel good?
Haha, exactly. People are conflicted, defensive creatures. They don't want to have to face the person's opinion being contradictory to their own? Because it might challenge them in some way? I'm not articulating it well, but the term "cognitive dissonance" does come to mind on this topic.
If you ASK for other people's opinions that is one thing. But if somebody just comes up and shoves their opinion on you that is different. Which is what I orig was saying. Why do people ASK for opinions of others (mostly online) and then scream and cry when they get opinions that are not what theirs are.
I guess I agree people in general are defensive and that is getting worse. Probably has a lot to do with idiots who will walk up to complete strangers and say things to them that are not of their business. Like a friend who was at Walmart with her baby and a stranger walks up to her and says "boy your baby sure is FAT". Well no, the kid is not fat. Not at all. But even if it were the stranger has no right to say anything. In a case like that the person has a right to be defensive. I would be tempted to hit somebody. haha
Lady... "countrygirl12" 100% truth I used to get upset with some of your answers here, BUT now days I truly admire your spunk and your get to the point personality and come some times just to read all your replies and get a chuckle , I wish I had the zip you have, do you give lessons ?? ;D ;D ;D