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I was brought up in a very loving home. Even in my 20s/30s I use to let my parents know where and when I would be home. I would call when I got to my destination to let them know I got there safely as well. I don't mean to say that if you don't do this you're not from a loving home but just how we are. My son left on Friday to a friends house. I told him to be safe and drive carefully. I haven't heard a word from him since, it is now Monday and I still haven't heard from him even after me being a pain and emailing him. Is it ME, or is it this generation? I see nothing wrong with letting your family know that you are safe, or am I just being nosey? UGH
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My son. Lives with us. I worry if he's 20 minutes late. Coming home work. I'd call or. Text. days 3 is. long enough.
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It is this generation and I think it in part stems from an environment where kids are protected enough to the point where they feel comfortable doing whatever they want because nothing will really happen to them.
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I’m not sure exactly what you mean. My girls are married with families of their own. If they go out they don’t tell me. , let me know when they got there or when they get home. That’s nuts. I didn’t when I left home did you? Sure I wish they were little and home with us 100% of the time but that doesn’t happen. You have to let them grow and be independent even though you don’t want to
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I’m not sure exactly what you mean. My girls are married with families of their own. If they go out they don’t tell me. , let me know when they got there or when they get home. That’s nuts. I didn’t when I left home did you? Sure I wish they were little and home with us 100% of the time but that doesn’t happen. You have to let them grow and be independent even though you don’t want to
Nancy my daughter is 43 and lives out of state. She has 3 kids of her own and when she comes here she will let me know when she's leaving and when she leaves here she will let me know when she gets home. Obviously when she is home and out and about I don't expect that. But my son is 39 and for reasons I wont get into to, well he lives here with us. When he goes somewhere and is going to be gone a while I would like to know that he gets there safe. I ALWAYS did with my parents and I lived down stairs from them. Even when my parents went anywhere they would call and let me know that they got there safe. I see nothing wrong with that. My son didn't get that memo ....anyways, he got home safe last night and that is all that matters to me. maybe it's a guy thing but my brothers all do the same.
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I’m not sure exactly what you mean. My girls are married with families of their own. If they go out they don’t tell me. , let me know when they got there or when they get home. That’s nuts. I didn’t when I left home did you? Sure I wish they were little and home with us 100% of the time but that doesn’t happen. You have to let them grow and be independent even though you don’t want to
Nancy my daughter is 43 and lives out of state. She has 3 kids of her own and when she comes here she will let me know when she's leaving and when she leaves here she will let me know when she gets home. Obviously when she is home and out and about I don't expect that. But my son is 39 and for reasons I wont get into to, well he lives here with us. When he goes somewhere and is going to be gone a while I would like to know that he gets there safe. I ALWAYS did with my parents and I lived down stairs from them. Even when my parents went anywhere they would call and let me know that they got there safe. I see nothing wrong with that. My son didn't get that memo ....anyways, he got home safe last night and that is all that matters to me. maybe it's a guy thing but my brothers all do the same.
I’m happy your son is home and safe. Maybe the difference is my father died when I was little and I didn’t have a close relationship with my mother. She never asked me to call/check in so I didn’t. With my girls we are very close but I guess I probably followed my mother way some what. When they were home I n3ver asked where they were going after many ‘just out’ but they did have a curfew, which I never had.
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I’m not sure exactly what you mean. My girls are married with families of their own. If they go out they don’t tell me. , let me know when they got there or when they get home. That’s nuts. I didn’t when I left home did you? Sure I wish they were little and home with us 100% of the time but that doesn’t happen. You have to let them grow and be independent even though you don’t want to
Nancy my daughter is 43 and lives out of state. She has 3 kids of her own and when she comes here she will let me know when she's leaving and when she leaves here she will let me know when she gets home. Obviously when she is home and out and about I don't expect that. But my son is 39 and for reasons I wont get into to, well he lives here with us. When he goes somewhere and is going to be gone a while I would like to know that he gets there safe. I ALWAYS did with my parents and I lived down stairs from them. Even when my parents went anywhere they would call and let me know that they got there safe. I see nothing wrong with that. My son didn't get that memo ....anyways, he got home safe last night and that is all that matters to me. maybe it's a guy thing but my brothers all do the same.
I’m happy your son is home and safe. Maybe the difference is my father died when I was little and I didn’t have a close relationship with my mother. She never asked me to call/check in so I didn’t. With my girls we are very close but I guess I probably followed my mother way some what. When they were home I n3ver asked where they were going after many ‘just out’ but they did have a curfew, which I never had.
Thank you Nancy. I'm so sorry that you lost your dad at a young age and that your mom is the way she is. I was talking to my daughters childhood friend just the other day, she is now 44. Her parents use to drink a lot when they were growing up. anyways when she was 2 years old she got hit by a car and I heard the screech of the brakes so I ran out and saw her lying there on the ground, it broke my heart to see her little body lying there. She asked me because we were talking about that day. She said "Ginny where was my parents when I got hit" I didn't have the heart to tell her but my heart broke for her again. Some families are like that, and the way my family is is so foreign to many of my friends back then and that is so sad :( I'm sure your mom loves you though in her own way as well but some just dont know how to express it. I think I annoy my kids for the way I am but it's just how I was brought up and it will never change. I just dont get how my 2 kids who was brought up in the same house, well 1 is so like me but the other is just a *bleep* nilly lol...maybe him being a cop too has something to do with it....I told my kids though that if i'm around when they are in their 60s, well, they will still be my babies...I guess i'm a nut lol....I dont know why that was a bleep I didnt swear
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It is the generation. I use to always let my Parents know where I am and when I would be home, even as an Adult.
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It is the generation. I use to always let my Parents know where I am and when I would be home, even as an Adult.
I'm glad that I am not the only one lol
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True! Another issue is parents being more of a friend than a parent, which teaches them to not respect boundaries and authority.
It is this generation and I think it in part stems from an environment where kids are protected enough to the point where they feel comfortable doing whatever they want because nothing will really happen to them.
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No, you're not being nosey; you're being a concerned parent.
I was brought up in a very loving home. Even in my 20s/30s I use to let my parents know where and when I would be home. I would call when I got to my destination to let them know I got there safely as well. I don't mean to say that if you don't do this you're not from a loving home but just how we are. My son left on Friday to a friends house. I told him to be safe and drive carefully. I haven't heard a word from him since, it is now Monday and I still haven't heard from him even after me being a pain and emailing him. Is it ME, or is it this generation? I see nothing wrong with letting your family know that you are safe, or am I just being nosey? UGH
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No, you're not being nosey; you're being a concerned parent.
I was brought up in a very loving home. Even in my 20s/30s I use to let my parents know where and when I would be home. I would call when I got to my destination to let them know I got there safely as well. I don't mean to say that if you don't do this you're not from a loving home but just how we are. My son left on Friday to a friends house. I told him to be safe and drive carefully. I haven't heard a word from him since, it is now Monday and I still haven't heard from him even after me being a pain and emailing him. Is it ME, or is it this generation? I see nothing wrong with letting your family know that you are safe, or am I just being nosey? UGH
Aww thank you that made me cry, you are so sweet to say that...HUGS
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I think it goes back to if you all have always done that in your household. That type of thing was never a big factor for me.
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I have two adult children and they always let me know when they return home safely from my house (if out of town) and if they are away that the plane landed safely and etc... they know I will be concerned for their safely.
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It is this generation. They don't think about anything but themselves most of the time. My daughter calls me every day when she leaves work and we talk until she gets home, but other than that I don't hear from her unless she needs something.
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My son. Lives with us. I worry if he's 20 minutes late. Coming home work. I'd call or. Text. days 3 is. long enough.
That is a "WOW-that could be me!" posting. My son moved in with us temporarily in Nov. He comes and goes. Don't know where or when he'd be home. He wasn't been saying anything when he first moved in...I think it's because he was on his own for so long, he forgets there are other people in the household. Anyway, I now corner him on his way out to find out where he's going and when he'd be back. He will tell me except when he'd be back. He doesn't know. This week he surprised me...he's been telling me where he's going but still not when he's coming back. So he's making progress. :D :D
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I think it's a generational thing also. My sons are in their 30's but we all have trackers on the phone still so anyone can be located easily. I've had to rescue my diabetic son before but they also text me regularly and if anything happens. They have been in car accidents and call me before calling 911 which is weird but I'm glad keep me informed.
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Just depends on how your family is, when my adult children were at home they always let me know where they were going and when they would be back. Now, they have their own homes so they don't. We do talk a lot though.