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Title: Love marriage / Arranged marriage ?
Post by: sangikathir on February 24, 2011, 01:48:47 pm
Love marriage / Arranged marriage ?
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Post by: trucktina on February 24, 2011, 07:45:00 pm
Um, could give a little more of a background on this question?  :-
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Post by: articx on February 25, 2011, 10:53:09 am
Neither.

Marriage is no longer necessary.
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Post by: anubabs on February 25, 2011, 11:57:56 am
the ways kids are this days, arranged marriage will cause a whole lot of trouble for the parents involved in ther nearest future. personally i think its the child up bringing that matters. if u grow up in a home with both parents and never heard them talking about getting divorced, you are more likely to stay married and try everything possible to keep your marriage. on the other hand if one grows up in a single parent home or with step parents you are more likely also to get divorced and move from one spouse to another.
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Post by: Valerie1979 on February 25, 2011, 04:09:42 pm
the ways kids are this days, arranged marriage will cause a whole lot of trouble for the parents involved in ther nearest future. personally i think its the child up bringing that matters. if u grow up in a home with both parents and never heard them talking about getting divorced, you are more likely to stay married and try everything possible to keep your marriage. on the other hand if one grows up in a single parent home or with step parents you are more likely also to get divorced and move from one spouse to another.

i don't know that this is true.
I am a divorced (and re-married woman) and grew up in a home of loving parents that were together -- married 30+ years, etc.  Never heard them talk about divorce === we did hear a few arguments but never anything "threatening" or anything..... but  I still ended a marriage with divorce.
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Post by: angsilva2000 on February 25, 2011, 07:56:04 pm
I dont believe in arranged marriages at all.
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Post by: jessicaroselorr on February 26, 2011, 12:29:20 am
Love, but i can kind of understand the arranged marriage stuff
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Post by: bigfoot951 on February 27, 2011, 01:43:43 pm
Arranged marriages seem to go against the idea of marriage.
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Post by: home_teachin on February 27, 2011, 04:20:33 pm
Neither.

Marriage is no longer necessary.

I agree....totally pointless.
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Post by: footemama on February 27, 2011, 05:50:05 pm
the ways kids are this days, arranged marriage will cause a whole lot of trouble for the parents involved in ther nearest future. personally i think its the child up bringing that matters. if u grow up in a home with both parents and never heard them talking about getting divorced, you are more likely to stay married and try everything possible to keep your marriage. on the other hand if one grows up in a single parent home or with step parents you are more likely also to get divorced and move from one spouse to another.

i don't know that this is true.
I am a divorced (and re-married woman) and grew up in a home of loving parents that were together -- married 30+ years, etc.  Never heard them talk about divorce === we did hear a few arguments but never anything "threatening" or anything..... but  I still ended a marriage with divorce.

I agree with Valerie (all except the remarried part). My parents have been married 30+ years and I have never even heard divorce mentioned. And only 3 people in my parents generation have been divorced. Divorce is much more prevalent in my generation, not sure why....maybe we are just poor decision-makers.

To answer the original post. Love is important but I can definitely see the draw of arranged marriages. I would hope that my parents would know me well enough to be able to find someone for me that shares the same values and would complement my personality.
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Post by: ttuckf on February 27, 2011, 10:32:15 pm
those who either dont believe in love or have never been in love wouldnt understand... im all for love and to choose who you marry
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Post by: jnjmolly on February 28, 2011, 12:17:00 am
Love marriage is the only marriage that i believe in...I do not think there should be arranged marriages!!
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Post by: Dbaxley234 on February 28, 2011, 10:13:41 am
I think a Love Marriage is the way to go. But that may be because my parents don't always have the best taste. LOL But they do always have good intentions. Me & My fiancee are getting married this upcoming May - been together for a total of 9 years, we've had our ups and downs & break ups and back togethers. I know my parents weren't the fondest of him when we first started dating, but now they have a very high level of respect for him.

As far as the arranged marriage situation, I guess even if we don't practice it or think its right anymore we should at least note some things about it. At one time, it was the norm for marriages to be arranged. Besides that, many of our customs today come from those of arranged marriage. For example - "its bad luck to see the bride's dress, or the bride in the dress before the wedding". The dress color; white = pure & virgin, ivory = impure, not a virgin. Along with several others than almost everyone today practices.

But for the record - I vote for LOVE  :heart:
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Post by: elysee24 on February 28, 2011, 10:16:49 am
I believe in love marriage though i know there are still people have arranged marriage but they aren't happy about it.
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Post by: mrisha on March 02, 2011, 12:13:44 pm
Why would anyone marry someone arranged by someone else.  What do they or you know about this person?  Sounds just a little creepy.
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Post by: jski107 on March 02, 2011, 06:26:48 pm
Love and Marriage (Sinatra duh)
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Post by: melinder on March 06, 2011, 10:16:29 am
love marriage