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Title: Shy: bad or Good?
Post by: Stealth3si on February 27, 2011, 11:57:01 pm
Are you shy and think you're bad for being told you're shy?

Are you outgoing and think shy people are too quiet and wierd?

Do you identify yourself as a shy person who works towards being outgoing?
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Post by: Trebor64 on February 28, 2011, 10:09:16 am
I dont think good or bad really apply to being shy or not
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Post by: dwickizer on February 28, 2011, 08:08:43 pm
I dont think good or bad really apply to being shy or not
definitely agree with this statement because whether you are shy or not there is good and bad in all people! My theory! :wave:
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Post by: mh874892 on March 01, 2011, 07:32:17 am
I am definitely a shy person, especially in new situations. I would much prefer to not receive any attention from others in public settings. Once I get to know you, I open up and so around close friends and family I am not shy. But, no I don't think it is a bad thing to not be the annoying person making themselves look like a fool just to get attention. The only place I work towards being more outgoing is in the workplace, because I have yet to find a job that is fine with you being the quiet hard-worker. (Bummer)
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Post by: angsilva2000 on March 01, 2011, 09:57:34 pm
I think shy is not that good, because its makes some seem weird,
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Post by: vicogden on April 01, 2011, 12:32:10 pm
I don't think anyone should be looked down upon for being shy.  My oldest son, now 14, has been shy since the day he was born.  In school, he wouldn't talk to any other students or teachers.  My wife and I were concerned and took him to a child psychologist.  He told us not to worry.  He told us my son would always be somewhat shy, but that he would loosen up as he got older.  It has worked out that way.  Now, similar to me, he is shy around strangers but very outgoing around those he knows.

We're all different; tolerance is the key.
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Post by: GenghisKhan44 on April 01, 2011, 11:17:43 pm
Can't say that shy is necessarily a bad thing.

In my experience as an introvert, I have enjoyed my own thoughts about the world, the Lord, and the people in His care. I may not make as many friends, but I've avoided a lot of things (alcohol, fornication, drugs, bad grades) that might have hurt me in the long run if I had been a socialite.

On the other hand, I am uncomfortable in casual conversation. And I'm not exactly great with interviews. Or asking people for help. Or controlling my mouth. (I often think aloud.)
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Post by: jordandog on April 02, 2011, 09:20:06 am
People who do not know me well, often think I am a 'shy' person. In reality, I am a watcher and observer. In other words, if I go into a new situation with people I have never met or don't know other than to say hello, I don't immediately start working the room, talking to anyone and everyone. I stand back, watch and listen, and then start to mingle more. I am very outgoing and comfortable at the same time though with a roomful of strangers. I don't know if this makes sense, I know what I am trying to say here. :P ;D

Being a medical practioner does NOT leave any leeway as far as being shy. I would never get any treatment of a patient underway if I was so shy I couldn't approach/ask them everything and it might also make me appear as if I had NO clue what I was doing. ;)

I guess I might be a mixture. I love large groups and also love (and relish!) my time alone. I like myself enough to be with myself and am never, ever bored.
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Post by: yaayme on April 02, 2011, 09:50:05 am
As a kid I was extremely shy, I mean extremely shy and it definitely wasn't a good thing in my particular situation! I was so shy to a point that I was almost mute...Thank God!!!...I grew out of it!...I'm still shy, but not like I was as a kid.
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Post by: amyrouse on April 02, 2011, 06:21:05 pm
I am a very quiet person until I feel either comfortable or confident.  As a result, when I do say something in certain situations, strangely enough people sit up and take notice.  Either I'm highly persuasive or just have a natural charisma that I am completely immune to.  I hate being the center of attention, though (part of the reason why I was so glad to skip a big wedding and do something small and informal with my rabbi, our sisters, and my daughter and nephew when I got married).

I've found this at my new job, too.  I'm working at a call center, and in 99% of my calls, I have people who thank me profusely and take my word as the complete truth.  It still amazes me.
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Post by: foreverinlove05 on April 02, 2011, 08:32:02 pm
i'm shy but i don't think it's good or bad to be that way, that's what makes someone the person they are. nothing's wrong with it. if i'm in a situation where i don't know anyone, i'm generally a ghost, but i'm the complete opposite around friends and family.
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Post by: Shahrukhlover on May 22, 2011, 02:30:31 pm
Being shy is both good and bad.  I'm really shy myself. It's bad in school.  Doing presentations is the worst experience ever.  You're ideas can never be heard.  Grades suffer. It's the worst.  Being shy keeps people away from you, but it also keeps you away from the drama.  Everyone thinks shy people are nice...unless they do something to label themselves as weird.  In my culture, being shy is expected usually.  An outgoing girl is seemed as too modern and potentially rebellious.  I like being shy except the part about being too afraid to do presentations in school :(
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Post by: Jo584 on May 22, 2011, 02:31:31 pm
In girls its cute but i like flirty girls
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Post by: britcrawford on May 22, 2011, 04:10:23 pm
i would say that i can be shy at first but after the first few minutes you know me, i am bubbly and outgoing. I dont think that being either one is really a 'bad' thing but if you are way TOO shy or way TOO outgoing then you might miss out on great opportunities!
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Post by: Itilliee on May 24, 2011, 08:59:46 am
In not shy and I think it's a bad thing if u are shy. If ur a kid and ur shy fine that's okay but if ur a grown human being and ur still shy? That's sad. People need to step up
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Post by: babbayxloverr on May 25, 2011, 11:57:41 pm
be outgoing. shyness will lead to a lonely life.
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Post by: cateyes1 on May 26, 2011, 05:27:04 am
I use to be shy but as I get older i'm not anymore...I dont think that's a good OR bad thing it just IS
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Post by: samiole32 on May 26, 2011, 08:31:25 am
I don't think i can say good or bad it depends on why and when
for me being shy is better than being rude and being shy in worth than being honest and clear you can say whatever you want whenever you want without hurting others
So nothing for fact it depends
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Post by: squirrelgirl44 on May 26, 2011, 08:43:55 am
A lot of times people mistake being shy for being stuck up. I don't think it's a bad thing.
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Post by: tashamjoy on May 30, 2011, 11:39:36 am
I dont think that shy is good or bad I mean I think it can be bad because a person can not be themselves and kind of live there lives scared to fully be themseleves but people that are not shy at all may do somethings they shouldnt but at least they are comfortable to so I would think being shy is not bad but not being shy is better
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Post by: swkstudent on May 30, 2011, 09:12:13 pm
I think the worst thing about being shy is the perception that you're "weird" or stuck up or boring. That isn't the always case. As I've gotten older I've realized that I'm more of an introvert and I'm comfortable with that. I like to listen, think and observe rather then talk and talk and talk.
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Post by: wjd22011 on July 08, 2011, 12:50:02 am
one time i was in this video chat with a bunch of people and this girl said i was shy she said because i was in a corner but i wasnt so whatever
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Post by: Jlogan80 on July 08, 2011, 10:54:37 pm
I think being shy is a good thing and a bad thing.  A good thing cause being to out going can cause problems and some people find it rather annoying.  That is the bad thing the other is you need to be able to be comfortable with yourself to be able to meet new people a mingle you never know who or what you will find out and what opptunties are out there.
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Post by: dreamyxo on July 09, 2011, 09:42:19 am
I'm shy and for me it's a bad thing because I don't like to be.  As I got older I've become less shy but I am still shy and I don't like it.
Title: Re: Shy: bad or Good?
Post by: Ittai on July 10, 2011, 07:09:13 pm
its not bad or good...It's something that most of us do. :icon_rr: