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Discussion Boards => Off-Topic => Topic started by: sgluckadoo on June 30, 2016, 10:01:21 am
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Maybe it is just me, but when did it become okay to wear short dresses (inches above the knee) or sundresses and off the shoulder dresses to a funeral?? I didn't even think you were really supposed to wear bright colors much less big wedge sandals and spaghetti strap fit and flare dresses meant for the lake. And, these are not even young adults pulling off these looks at recent funerals I attended, these are adults ranging from 30s to 50s?
I also noticed men wearing dress shorts and polos. I get not wearing a suit when it is hot but still, that seems very dressed down to me.
Have things changed?
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I don't think so, but now a day people wear whatever they want anywhere even if it is not the norm
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I agree ... if you are going to a funeral have some respect dress nice
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Yes, things have changed and not for the better. It seemes like all respect and the rules of etiquette have gone out the window.
In my local area, they still do respect some things, like not wearing white after Labor Day, still wear dresses to church or decent dress suits (women), and men wear dress pants and shirts if they don't wear a dress jacket. For viewings and funerals, it's sleeves and muted colors. slacks or dresses, nothing "neon," large and loud flowers or designs, flats or heels, and the men still wear slacks and dress shirts. A lot of the men still wear ties out of respect.
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Things have really changed. It's too it has....
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I have a friend that recently wore a Hawaiian shirt to my mom's funeral.
It didn't bother me.
But... he is Hawaiian so....
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unless your are for sale dont advertise. Have respect for your self and others.
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People in general don't know how to dress for formal occasions any more. I had a friend die young (25) and some of her friends and relatives dressed like they were going to a club. Sure they wore black but these were definite club dresses not any kind of formal black attire.
In my family (culture) we wear white to funerals but we definitely dress appropriately.
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I agree, sun dresses should not be worn at a funeral.
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People don't seem to care about things anymore. Anything goes nowadays.
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I think it not good to wear whatever you want at the wedding or funeral. I think it would be respect for the people who invited you.
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I do agree with you about inappropriate dresswear for a funeral. Out of respect one should be formally clothed and usually this is done in dark colored clothing. Having said that, if my funeral was tomorrow, I would want everyone to wear sunny clothes which brighten everyone's spirit. I just wonder if someone has made a similar request in the case of the funeral you went to.
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I do agree with you about inappropriate dresswear for a funeral. Out of respect one should be formally clothed and usually this is done in dark colored clothing. Having said that, if my funeral was tomorrow, I would want everyone to wear sunny clothes which brighten everyone's spirit. I just wonder if someone has made a similar request in the case of the funeral you went to.
I would want everyone to eat chocolate cake at mine, lol.
No, it was an elderly male who died and it was his wifes nieces primarily who dressed like they were clubbing or going to the beach.
It has been a long time since I went to a funeral, I tend to avoid them and just send flowers, but this one was a must-go. I think it is what many people said on this post, anything seems to go, even when many of us "know better".
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Times have changed as far as dress codes for funerals but you gotta give them credit for showing up to pay their respects no matter how they are dressed.
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I think the important focus should be on the person who passed away and their immediate loved ones. Out of respect I typically wear something that is modest and all black. I'm not opposed to a sun dress in warmer climates but there are plenty of modest, black sundresses.
If what you are wearing is to show respect/honor the person who passed that is most important. My husband's great aunt passed away recently and she was so full of life and requested everyone celebrate and wear yellow in her honor and we all did. It was so nice.
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People just do what that want these days funerals, church, school seems it does not matter.
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After losing a loved one myself, the last thing I cared about was how someone was dressed! I think we pay to much attention to someones appearance. I would be grateful that someone even came to show respect and that they cared.
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I agree, if a loved one passed away I would be happy to see people coming to pay their respects. However, I think you should be dressed accordingly to show respect to the deceased and family. I'm sorry but no shorts, not tshirts with pictures or writings, no loud clothing. If you don't agree with me, that's fine but that's my opinion and I always dress in dark clothing, pants are fine, and never shorts no matter how hot.
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I think it would be nice to show a little respect, I was a little upset at one of my half sisters when she wore shorts to my sons funeral then i got to thinking about it, He always teased her about wearing shorts even in the winter,. She is always hot even when i am bundled up for winter. And they were not short shorts but walking shorts and she came straight from work. She was so tore up about our loss i don't think she was thinking when she got there. Even though he was her nephew they were less then a year apart and so close. So i never said a word and i am glad i did not , She was upset enough about it
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It used to be that a man wouldn't walk around with dirty dress shoes - it would always be clean at the very least and shined. Nowadays people are just sloppy.
I've seen people were dance club attire to church and I've seen people look like they came from a walk at the beach show up in church. ::)
Some people don't know what they don't know, whereas other people just don't care.
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They may not be dressing the way you like, but at least they did take the time to pay their respects. I think it is the feeling and the respect, and the effort to show that count. NOT how they are dressed. One of our close friends asked that everyone where colorful island clothes to his funeral. We all obliged happily, it caused a lo of laughs and conversations..
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I never like dress up even going to church so, what ever makes you comfortable to a funeral I say go for it. Your there to say goodbye to a friend or love one, not conduct a fashion show. Any, I don't think the person who'd pass would care what u where wearing, just that u where present at his final moments.
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A typical funeral, no, but if it's something unique, like a celebration of life or something...perhaps
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I think black or dull clothing would be proper.
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Other than two non-denominational funeral I've only been to Catholic ones. Proper etiquette still applied. Although I have a friend who recently attended a wake and funeral and it was more of a celebration in honor of the young man who was in a auto/train accident. When I die I hope people are concerned about what to wear. How to be proper. But arrive. Rejoice and celebrate my passing and uniting with our God in kingdom heaven. I want them to be happy and not dwell... but look forward to the time we meet again.
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The last funeral I attended I wore a long maxi dress, but it didn't have spaghetti straps or bright colors. I do think that times have changed because after all they were black in weddings now.
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I guess people dress how they feel
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I haven't really seen that, but it might depend on where you live, such as in a hot climate. My family recently attended a funeral and my daughter were trying on their dresses to find something that wasn't too short or sexy. Regarding young ladies wearing "club dresses" - they might have been the only black dresses they owned.
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Tradition is what is being kicked to the curb. So much is changing.