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Title: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: Mizzkizz7 on October 10, 2018, 10:47:34 pm
Do you have a friend that expects you to answer every last one of their calls? She calls me her best friend but I don't feel the same. Clingy, maybe? :confused1:
 I have learned not to emotionally connect myself to anyone. I hate rejection and it hurts when the friendship ends. (for whatever reason).
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: Nancy5 on October 11, 2018, 07:47:46 am
I have two best friends who I love and would do anything for and know they feel the same.  But we can be honest with each other, if we are busy we will always answer texts or phones and say can I get back to you.  My sister once had a high school friend who wanted to be my sister’s best friend, she would call to talk to her and if I answered and told her she wasn’t home she would ask me where did she go, who is she with?  Naturally I wouldn’t tell her.  My sister said if the 2 of them went out, things were great but if she asked another friend to come along the ‘best friend’ would be mad all night and barely talk.  After a few of these, my sister dropped her like a hot potato.  Way too clingy  and needy.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: ghunter on October 11, 2018, 08:26:18 am
No, I do not have those kinds of friend.  My husband is my best friend.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: gwilson31 on October 11, 2018, 10:50:25 am
I do not really have a best friend.  I'm more of the acquaintance type person.  8) 8)
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: teenangel on October 11, 2018, 11:02:33 am
No I don't have those kind of friends. I have friends but not best friends
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: makeblessed on October 11, 2018, 02:17:17 pm
I have close friends, and we will do anything to support each other in a crisis, but we also understand and respect that we are individuals with separate lives and are not needy like that.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: vickysue on October 11, 2018, 03:45:00 pm
I have 2 best friends one since  1997 and the other since 1994. We  can be on the phone for  hours  or just a quick text. We know  that each of us loves the other very much.  Both are  far away from me and yet sometimes  it seems like they are just next door and seem to know when I need  cheering up and it is the same way with  what I feel for them. We just seem to know.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: BATISTAGIRL663 on October 11, 2018, 04:29:39 pm
I'm kind of a loner I don't really have what you call a best friend I have the girl that I work with we go out to eat or something like that and I share a lot of things with her about what's going on in my life and stuff but I like to be by myself to do my own thing and I most definitely do not like clingy people like what you're talking about
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: bigfoot951 on October 18, 2018, 05:56:21 pm
I've been in that situation and in retrospect I realize that I have put someone else in that position.  What's sad to me is that you 'have learned' not to connect with people emotionally.  I'm saying this because I care.  Your life will miss out on so much joy if that's how you continue to live.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: shawnix on October 22, 2018, 09:59:08 pm
I had a friend that I called "best friend" until I realized she really wasn't. I do have a couple a good friends though.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: darkxtsuna on October 23, 2018, 04:49:08 am
I use to have a friend like that and was happy that I axed him off as a friend.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: kimber62372 on October 23, 2018, 05:55:18 am
I have a few friends that are close but my sister is my best friend and cannot compare to others even though I can only tell her certain things I cannot tell my friends and vice versa.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: 1imaginarygirl on October 23, 2018, 06:07:42 am
I don't have any friends, let alone best friends. Gave up on people a long time ago when I graduated high school. I'm uncomfortable around others now, and I never have anything in common with anyone. And maybe I sound like a jerk, but I really don't like anyone enough to want to be around them on purpose anyway. I've got my husband and my pets and that's all I need.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: bremer51 on October 23, 2018, 06:48:01 am
I have several close friends.  Some I don't see very often, but when we do get together, it's like we've never been apart.  Easy conversation, no judgement,  lots of laughter, sometimes tears.  They're like a safe haven in the storm.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: gaylasue on October 23, 2018, 07:28:52 am
My husband is the only that expects me to answer every call. 
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: Mizzkizz7 on October 27, 2018, 01:59:49 pm
I don't have any friends, let alone best friends. Gave up on people a long time ago when I graduated high school. I'm uncomfortable around others now, and I never have anything in common with anyone. And maybe I sound like a jerk, but I really don't like anyone enough to want to be around them on purpose anyway. I've got my husband and my pets and that's all I need.
I get ya!!!
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: alina6 on October 28, 2018, 06:59:51 am
I have a good friend that I would do anything for and they would do anything for me. Other than that it is just my immediate family.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: tnshpalmer85 on October 28, 2018, 07:56:50 am
I don't have any best friends. I have a friend that I have known for over ten years, but I don't consider her my best friend. We kind of had an falling out and I for gave her, but we just aren't that close anymore.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: autumnsparklemom on October 28, 2018, 08:47:51 am
I really don't have any close friends. My husband is the only one that I keep close too.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: dogsleash on October 28, 2018, 11:03:43 am
thank god no
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: myfreebees316 on October 28, 2018, 03:19:28 pm
Anyone who sys there a friend who expects anything besides friendship isn't a friend at all
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: haimsterette on October 31, 2018, 08:43:45 pm
Do you have a friend that expects you to answer every last one of their calls? She calls me her best friend but I don't feel the same. Clingy, maybe? :confused1:
 I have learned not to emotionally connect myself to anyone. I hate rejection and it hurts when the friendship ends. (for whatever reason).


No! That would be annoying! Lol And not part of a healthy friendship. They're putting too much pressure/responsibility on you to be available at the drop of a hat. There needs to be an ease and understanding in a friendship. :)
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: Rahmanh on October 31, 2018, 11:59:07 pm
friend for forever
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: mrisha on November 04, 2018, 05:40:03 pm
Do you have a friend that expects you to answer every last one of their calls? She calls me her best friend but I don't feel the same. Clingy, maybe? :confused1:
 I have learned not to emotionally connect myself to anyone. I hate rejection and it hurts when the friendship ends. (for whatever reason).


This is why you have caller ID.  Ignore the call.  You have to be able to show that type of person that you aren't at their beck and call.  Sometimes you have to be cruel to be nice.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: bretay on November 05, 2018, 05:35:17 am
My baby sister who is my best friend is sometimes like that..if i dont answer her call or text because i may be doing something and i answer her back later,she pouts and wont answer back...i have to text her several times before she answers...
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: PGS28 on November 05, 2018, 05:52:11 am
Unfortunately, I've had to separate myself from almost everyone in my life for one reason or another so no, I don't have that problem.  The one friend I do talk to often is very respectful of my time and I am the same way for her.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: PGS28 on November 05, 2018, 05:52:56 am
Maybe she's only being clingy because she believes you two are best friends- maybe it'd be a good idea to let her know in a nice way the feeling is not mutual?
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: mrsmere on November 05, 2018, 11:24:25 am
My hubby is my best friend and been that way for 38 years.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: PGS28 on November 06, 2018, 05:28:44 am
I'm alone also, with the exception of my kids.  I text my best friend daily, she lives in another state, and my ex husband calls a lot, that's about it.  I've been ok with it but next year I'd like to socialize more- for balance.

I don't have any friends, let alone best friends. Gave up on people a long time ago when I graduated high school. I'm uncomfortable around others now, and I never have anything in common with anyone. And maybe I sound like a jerk, but I really don't like anyone enough to want to be around them on purpose anyway. I've got my husband and my pets and that's all I need.
I get ya!!!
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: PGS28 on November 06, 2018, 05:29:35 am
I agree.

Do you have a friend that expects you to answer every last one of their calls? She calls me her best friend but I don't feel the same. Clingy, maybe? :confused1:
 I have learned not to emotionally connect myself to anyone. I hate rejection and it hurts when the friendship ends. (for whatever reason).


This is why you have caller ID.  Ignore the call.  You have to be able to show that type of person that you aren't at their beck and call.  Sometimes you have to be cruel to be nice.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: bshee58 on November 06, 2018, 08:14:09 am
I have a close friend that i have been knowing since we were in elementary school, we keep in touch, but not every day.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: Mizzkizz7 on November 06, 2018, 11:45:57 am
Maybe she's only being clingy because she believes you two are best friends- maybe it'd be a good idea to let her know in a nice way the feeling is not mutual?
[/quote   She is very nice and sensitive I detect. We worked together 25 yrs ago and even then I never really talked with her. She just remembered me from the job. And all of a sudden I'm her best friend.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: bremer51 on November 06, 2018, 03:56:57 pm
I have a couple close friends.  No one gets upset if the other doesn't answer every call.  Tolerance and understanding are a part of friendship.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: dsosnowski06 on November 11, 2018, 08:10:16 am
I have a few really close friend and when they don't answer right away there is a good reason. We all still work and have a least one child left at home and some in college so guess we understand that we are busy and will get back to each when time permits.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: mardukblood2009 on November 11, 2018, 12:51:56 pm
I don't think I really have a best friend either. I have lots of people that I am friendly with. I think a best friend is a kids thing.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: JaniceSW on December 04, 2018, 02:01:58 pm
I don't have what I call a true "best" friend.  I have acquaintances, some closer than others.  However, none of them expect me to answer whenever they call.  If any of them ever gave me grief over that particular thing, I probably would explain a few things to them nicely and the second time i might just put distance between myself and that person.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: mrisha on December 04, 2018, 07:06:36 pm
I don't have a best friend because you really can't trust people.  I tried that some years ago and regretted it.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: sak4kat on December 04, 2018, 07:32:58 pm
I guess I grew out of best friends when I became a wife and mother.  I have my gal pals. But the days of dropping everything for a friend became to hard to juggle when other obligations became priority.  I try and be a good friend but even now that all but 1 of my children are grown... I can't imagine being joined at the hip with another girl or guy unless it's for better or for worse until death do us part.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: PGS28 on December 05, 2018, 06:50:14 am
I know the feeling :(  but there are still good people in the world :)

I don't have a best friend because you really can't trust people.  I tried that some years ago and regretted it.
Title: Re: Friends, Best Friends
Post by: gaby_ro_2004 on December 05, 2018, 07:57:21 am
Heck,no! I used to have a best friend but she changed her lifestyle and now she is very weird.