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Title: Fear of rejection
Post by: tjshorty on January 14, 2020, 07:30:21 am
I have been thinking about asking the local grocer if he would be interested in purchasing some house plants from me.  I see that he sells plants seasonally.  I even seen that he had locally grown produce.  Which I thought was amazing for him to do.  I know the man.  I have done business with him before.  I actually worked for him at one time.  The thought of asking him if he would be interested in my plants just scares me.  Only because I don't want to hear "No".  One thing for sure is I won't hear yes if I don't ask.   
Title: Re: Fear of rejection
Post by: bremer51 on January 14, 2020, 07:45:56 am
There might be some regulations on buying and selling plants. But it would be interesting to find out.
Ask.  A "no" doesn't mean it isn't a worthy idea.  And I'd like to know what the grocer's response is.
Title: Re: Fear of rejection
Post by: oldbuddy on January 14, 2020, 08:31:50 am
In this case (since you know him), I would just tell him you are interested in selling some plants wholesale and as someone you trust, you wondered if he thought it was a good idea.
Title: Re: Fear of rejection
Post by: nannycoe1 on January 14, 2020, 11:33:45 am
maybe you could see if there is a farmers market in your area and sell them that way
Title: Re: Fear of rejection
Post by: ancmetro on January 14, 2020, 12:21:59 pm

  Fear of rejection...tired of having NO! for an answer.
  I have a better idea for you:
     -Have a garage sale and sell all your plants at a price you like.
Title: Re: Fear of rejection
Post by: Nancy5 on January 14, 2020, 12:26:44 pm
Seriously I would ask him.  He might say no, but he might say yes, you won't know until you ask. 
Title: Re: Fear of rejection
Post by: cathy37 on January 14, 2020, 12:33:21 pm
You will never know if you don't ask.  All he can say is no and if he can't buy them maybe he will know someone who would be willing to buy them.
Title: Re: Fear of rejection
Post by: mapiklfish on January 14, 2020, 01:04:54 pm
I think you should definitely ask, especially if you know the guy.  If there are rules and requirements that need to be met, you would be able to find that out.  Can't get a yes if you don't ask and the worst that can happen is he says no.  If he says no, there was no loss.  You're no worse off than before you asked.
Title: Re: Fear of rejection
Post by: tjshorty on January 14, 2020, 01:17:43 pm
Thanks for your advise and encouragement.  I finally worked up the nerve to ask.  He wasn't there.  LOL so I will try again.
Title: Re: Fear of rejection
Post by: gtdoss on January 14, 2020, 05:54:07 pm
I have always had a fear of rejection, especially when it comes to sales of any kind. One day a car saleswoman that I worked with at a retail store (she was part time there) told me that I just have to toughen myself to the word NO. She said that she gets a lot of NOES and just has to keep on going, don't take it personally, and then finally the YES will come along. She did say that she can't stand salespeople that won't take NO for an answer, that it's very rude and insulting to the would-be customer.  :peace: :heart:
Title: Re: Fear of rejection
Post by: linderlizzie on January 14, 2020, 06:01:05 pm
How would you ever know if you don't ask? Just ask.

How fun it will be if he says yes. Not so bad if he says no. You're a big boy now so put on your big boy pants and ask. You'll live.

Besides, you can always come back to the forum postings and get some support if you are told no. It's not really a rejection of you by your friend if he declines your offer. And your FC friends will lift you back up. You know? :highfive:


:fish:
Title: Re: Fear of rejection
Post by: Kimdud22 on January 14, 2020, 07:56:02 pm
I do understand fear of rejection but it never hurts to try? I would definitely suggest a local farmers market.
Title: Re: Fear of rejection
Post by: aflyingmonkey on January 15, 2020, 01:13:23 pm
If you never ask, the answer is already "no".  Just psyche yourself up & ask him casually if he would be interested.  Nothing ventured, nothing gained... so they say :)

Good Luck!
Title: Re: Fear of rejection
Post by: 1imaginarygirl on January 15, 2020, 05:59:45 pm
If you never ask, the answer is already "no".

Hey, good point! I've never thought of it that way. :)
Title: Re: Fear of rejection
Post by: Mizzkizz7 on January 16, 2020, 02:51:46 pm
I definitely fear rejection, especially from other people.. :neutral:
Title: Re: Fear of rejection
Post by: countrygirl12 on January 17, 2020, 10:29:39 am
I have been thinking about asking the local grocer if he would be interested in purchasing some house plants from me.  I see that he sells plants seasonally.  I even seen that he had locally grown produce.  Which I thought was amazing for him to do.  I know the man.  I have done business with him before.  I actually worked for him at one time.  The thought of asking him if he would be interested in my plants just scares me.  Only because I don't want to hear "No".  One thing for sure is I won't hear yes if I don't ask.   

So do it like this...

When you are casually talking to him ask if he ever buys plants from local people?  See what he says.  If he says he does you could say you have some and maybe how long you have had them and what they are.  If he says not really or no then just don't mention what you have.
Title: Re: Fear of rejection
Post by: tjshorty on January 17, 2020, 10:48:19 am
How would you ever know if you don't ask? Just ask.

How fun it will be if he says yes. Not so bad if he says no. You're a big boy now so put on your big boy pants and ask. You'll live.

Besides, you can always come back to the forum postings and get some support if you are told no. It's not really a rejection of you by your friend if he declines your offer. And your FC friends will lift you back up. You know? :highfive:


:fish:
Thank you.  That is so true.
Title: Re: Fear of rejection
Post by: mamatygress on January 19, 2020, 11:19:49 am
It never hurts to ask.  Now if I could practice what I preach...
Title: Re: Fear of rejection
Post by: autumnsparklemom on January 21, 2020, 12:24:36 pm
I fear rejection so I surely understand. But I do like some other suggestions here such as Farmers Market, yard sale.
Title: Re: Fear of rejection
Post by: killers2 on January 21, 2020, 03:15:24 pm
Yeah this is a problem for me a lot.  I wish I didn't care so much.