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« on: February 16, 2012, 02:45:41 am »Message ID: 491436
Ok, this is sort of a rant so I just want to put that out there before I get started.
Some background information:
I'm 22, just graduated college in December (major in Computer Science focusing on Game Design), and have been trying to figure out what I want to do next.
It was 4 o'clock in the morning and my mom walks in and asks when I plan on going to bed. I'm sitting there working on the storyline of game I'm creating for my portfolio so I say "once I finish this thought". She responds with "do you think you're talking to a friend" and later says I had a tone when I said that.
My first thought is I'm over 21 so why is it an issue that I'm staying up late? My sister (26) has to go to school tomorrow at 11 and went to bed at 3 and my mom doesn't say a thing about that. My second thought is I'm sitting in my room, I'm not out at a bar or anything. I'm quietly typing on my computer with my headset on so it's not like I'm making a ton of noise or anything. My third thought, and the one that sorta bugs me the most, is the fact I've never really done anything all that bad in my life. I don't drink, don't smoke, don't do drugs, don't steal or do anything illegal. Never caused or been in a car accident. The only friends I really hang out with have either been friend of the family (our dads met in high school and our families have been friends since) or they are my high school friends (all of which have met my family). In either case, all we do is go out to dinner and talk, possibly see a movie, go bowling, or stay at each others house and play games. I once stayed out past midnight (normally when my parents want me home) but I asked if I could see a movie and told them it would run late and they said it was fine, AND even mentioned I didn't need to ask.
Now, obviously there is that "Their house, their rules" thing I'm sure someone will point out. However, my dad has come down for work at 7 in the morning and seen me working on whatever and doesn't say a thing about me being awake all night (he knows it's all night cause I don't get up that early without a reason). He normally just asks what I'm working on and then says have a good day. So it's not like there is a rule that I have to be in bed at a certain hour or anything.
Also, it's not like I'm just being a bump on a log or anything. Since I've graduated, I've gone to the store almost every week to get lunch meat and whatever other groceries we need. My sister and I share the responsibility of taking care of our dog. I've done the dishes (and at the very least I always clean my dishes) and even helped with laundry. And after all that I work on my game portfolio so I can get a job later.
Anyway, my main point with this is how it drives me crazy when my mom treats me like a kid. I understand she's my mother and everything, and that mothers are always mothers, but I don't quite get why I'm yelled at for things that really aren't all that bad to begin with when all the rest of the time my mom will brag about how good her kids are. Also, I should mention that she is just heading to bed at 4 am when she talked to me.
Is it just me or is this overkill for supposedly having a tone and staying up late, especially since I'm an adult?
To anyone who reads this, thanks for bearing with me. I don't like to bug my friends or family with my issues so I don't really have any other way to get these things out.