Advice for a on-going problem with a child & his grandma...

[wendyr19]

Why would the grandmother not give him the food provided? That makes absolutely no sense. I don't agree with the previous comment on mom trying to control the child.. because if it was the other way around and grandma was feedin the healthy food and mom was angry.. it would be looked at as mom trying to kill her kid. This sounds more like Grandma doesn't like mom and doesn't care to go by her rules. My suggestion would be to sit down and try to come to a solution where maybe four out of the five days the kid eats the provided meals and once a week he gets fast food. If that doesn't work then it's time to invest in a good babysitter. Or a daycare. Or because it's the summer, a school friend or summer camp.

I was in a similar situation back when I had my mother watch my oldest. She would give her candy thoughout the day despite my asking her not to. She didn't care and even told me she didn't care because she didn't have to deal with the child at bed time. So I stopped it all together. I have babysat for many of my friends and I have alway and I mean ALWAYS respected their wishes. If for some reason I didn't agree with what they were asking of me (which so far has been never) then I would decline the offer. To me it's like asking a friend to watch your baby and requesting that you feed her formula and the friend decides to give her breast milk.. it's just not how things work.. at least in my opinion.

[plennis]

They are going to have to put their foot down.  Either gma follows their wishes or they have to get child care elsewhere.  IF this is an actual medical problem it is hard to believe that gma would not go along.  If she is sending lunch it is one less thing for gma to do.

[linderlizzie]

If this child has an actual honest to goodness medical issue, and the Grandma is not giving him the prescribed diet, the parents really ought to consider letting someone else look after him.

But if I may be so bold, why can't the mother quit her job and take care of the child herself? It's a question of priorities.

I agree with this sentiment. JediJohnnie. In a perfect world, children are taken care of by their stay at home mommies. It's by far the better solution. Surely the extra cash is not worth the child being sick or generally unhealthy.

I am ashamed of that grandma.  She gives all of us grandmas a bad name!