Is is your responsibility to tattle if you see someone cheating on thier spouse?

[ODOMS6598]

I would make for sure that the cheater saw me.  I would have to go up to him/her and say hi.  Then maybe I wouldnt have to say anything.  Just maybe, they would somehow screw up themselves. 

[fredlee1]

I think it depends on the person. If it is a family member, YES.. you should say something. If it is a friend stay out of it... you may end up losing that friend or worst she may be in denial & hate you for it. It will bite you back in the butt.

[VyHazelE]

Touchy subject.   I had both my husband's cheat on me as well as the boyfriend's.

What I learned really fast is family or a friend who permit the spouse or boyfriend to cheat is not  my friend.

What is really annoying is when there are children involved and the so called significant other tells the children you are the bad guy and the children believe it.  I've learned a long time ago that if the children are dumb enough to believe the other person and not want to face the facts then that child isn't worth wasting your time to try and prove the other parent is the good guy. Yet the court papers show daddy is the one who filed for the divorce, daddy is the one who made up excuses not to come get you on his visitation days, daddy is the one who talked the girl's to move in so he could get more money from mommy, and then lied to the children why the welfare was getting the child support money instead of them,  daddy is the one who is seen photo after photo with a bottle of beer in his hand. So after years of fighting I just ignore them.  They are not 37, 30, and 29, they want to still believe in the lies that is their problem not mind.