Jumping on the couch

[BK_Adores_Chase]

I had my baby shower yesterday at my Aunt's house and came home upset because my 3 year old wouldn't stop standing on her couch.  I let him do it at our house.  I decided that in order for him to behave at other people's houses I can't confuse him by letting him to some things at our house that I wouldn't normally allow at other people's houses, so I am not going to let him stand/jump on our couch anymore - my fiance says he's a kid and it's no big deal.  What do you think?  I think it's rude for him to be standing on someone else's couch.  I also don't want to confuse him though, because him and his Dad wrestle on the couch.

[gaylasue]

Small children have a hard time separating "home" behavior and "visiting" behavior if there are different rules.....

[dreamyxo]

I don't understand when you said you had a hard time stopping him from standing on the couch.  He is three and you are how old not to mention 3x as big as he is.  Go grab him off the couch hold him and tell him to stop doing it.  If he starts for the couch again grab him again.  Don't let him keep doing the undesired behavior.  This is the time to explain to him that there are different rules when he goes to different places.  Direct his attention to something else.  Did you bring toys for him to play with?  Were there other kids there to play with?  Did your fiance go with you?  Couldn't he have watched him? I understand you can't watch him 24/7 but you need to be able to control your kids especially at someone else's house.  

[mrisha]

It is  a big deal because I would not allow anyone to jump up on my couch its not a trampoline.  Your child is young so he didn't know any better.  But if you allow him to do these things at home he's going to do them when out elsewhere.  I am surprise the owner didn't say anything because it happened to me and I asked the parent to either hold the child in her lap or sit him on the floor with a toy. No exceptions.

[sandersdebt]

Your fiance is wrong. Bad behavior is bad behavior, no matter where you are. Wrestling is for the floor or yard. Couches are to sit on not play on. Maybe he needs to understand that couches are not built to play on and it will cost money to replace the couch when (not if) it breaks. Just like using your kitchen table to stand on -- it will break because it was not built for that.

[Huwee]

oh thought it was something real crazy...it ain't that big of a deal

[bigfoot951]

I agree with your fiancee.  It's not a big deal, just teach him the difference in how he acts at home and how to act away from home.