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LaTashaS28

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Helping someone you care about
« on: April 12, 2015, 06:54:06 pm »
How do you help someone you care about that is going through a really tough time. Long story short, my boyfriend is going through a tough time right now with his family and its making him feel depressed and stress out about it. The problem is that his family is Jehovah Witnesses and they are treating him poorly because he is not one anymore and its not fair that he has to go through this all because he don't believe in what they believe in anymore. What can I do to help him? Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.
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Re: Helping someone you care about
« Reply #1 on: April 12, 2015, 08:50:01 pm »
Latasha i support Jehovahs organization.What do you mean by they are treating him poorly?

I am sure they love him and are upset too because he wants to follow the world.

Bottom line is we all have freedom of choice.Even Judas was 1 of Jesus 12 apostles and betrayed him.Lots wife was warned NOT to look back at Sodom.She dis-obeyed and was turned into a pillar of salt.

There is no doubt Satan has put many distractions out there for us all,especially Gods people.

Again JWs arent perfect either.If they are concerned i understand but sometimes you can only do so much.

I hope it works out for the best!!Gods word in this satanic system is truly a blessing.

LaTashaS28

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Re: Helping someone you care about
« Reply #2 on: April 12, 2015, 10:07:23 pm »
Treating him poorly by not inviting him over to there house or having contact with family members
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Re: Helping someone you care about
« Reply #3 on: April 13, 2015, 07:34:53 am »
I'm so sorry his family is reacting that way.  I don't think there is anything anyone can do at this time to change their actions.  Maybe in time they will realize how stupid that is to turn your back on your child, or any family member, simply because they want to go out of your faith.  Just try to be there for him, if possible bring him into your family, invite him for family dinners etc.  good luck and I hope things work out, please let us know.
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Re: Helping someone you care about
« Reply #4 on: April 13, 2015, 08:17:25 am »
Hi Latasha,
That is a really difficult situation.  I am sorry your boyfriend is going through that.  You can be there to listen.  You can support and encourage him as well.  I will keep you both in my prayers. Please keep us posted.  I wish you both the best.
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Re: Helping someone you care about
« Reply #5 on: April 13, 2015, 08:35:26 am »
I have a friend with Parkinson's Disease.
She got a new prescription [ paper] and hasn't been able to go to the VA Clinic to fill it.
She has options for transportation and just "isn't going". 
If I drove and had a car, I would take her.
I don't get it.

hitch0403

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Re: Helping someone you care about
« Reply #6 on: April 13, 2015, 09:04:26 am »
Latasha,was your BF baptized and disfellowshiped for a sin?Drugs,sex etc?

If it is just a matter of him not having interest why dont either you or him ask them why?Its none of my business but i would like to hear both sides to give a fair answer here.

There have been many marriages where a wife is in the faith and the husband isnt.You arent supposed to divorce your spouse.I use that as an example here.Love should still exist unless as i said your BF is committing very bad sins.

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Re: Helping someone you care about
« Reply #7 on: April 13, 2015, 10:38:05 am »
Problem is he may have to just remove himself from interaction with his family members and I don't know if he can do that - I went through something similar with my siblings when my mom died and you just have to walk away and accept that you might not be able to have a relationship with people who can't accept you.  The type of religion that his family is involved in will likely not accept him not being a part of it any longer.  Well good luck to both of you I hope he doesn't let his life be diminished by this !

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Re: Helping someone you care about
« Reply #8 on: April 13, 2015, 01:19:09 pm »
How do you help someone you care about that is going through a really tough time. Long story short, my boyfriend is going through a tough time right now with his family and its making him feel depressed and stress out about it. The problem is that his family is Jehovah Witnesses and they are treating him poorly because he is not one anymore and its not fair that he has to go through this all because he don't believe in what they believe in anymore. What can I do to help him? Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.

My daughter-in-law went through the same thing.  She was a Russian native, adopted by Mormons here in the states.  She was almost 13 years old and already had her own beliefs instilled in her and never believed what the Mormons taught.  When she met my son, they treated her and him like garbage, that is, until the day my son married her.  Then they were both OK to be "welcomed" in to their family.  My daughter-in-law never let it happen.  She has said "goodbye" to all of them because of their hypocrisy and has never looked back.  One thing your boyfriend needs to know is that he will never change his family.  On the other hand, his family ALSO needs to know that they can't change him.  They'll either accept each other in spite of their differences, or have to be satisfied to go their own separate ways.  I don't care what religion you are, if you can torture your own family member in this manner, then it's really time to rethink just how "Godly" you THINK you are.

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Re: Helping someone you care about
« Reply #9 on: April 13, 2015, 02:35:47 pm »
Latasha,was your BF baptized and disfellowshiped for a sin?Drugs,sex etc?

If it is just a matter of him not having interest why dont either you or him ask them why?Its none of my business but i would like to hear both sides to give a fair answer here.

There have been many marriages where a wife is in the faith and the husband isnt.You arent supposed to divorce your spouse.I use that as an example here.Love should still exist unless as i said your BF is committing very bad sins.
All I know is that he was disfellowshipped because he is not a Jehovah Witness anymore. He don't believe in the same things they do. He did'nt choose to be one, it was how he was brought up as a kid
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Re: Helping someone you care about
« Reply #10 on: April 13, 2015, 03:37:02 pm »
So sorry. Just be there for him. Allow him to vent. I know how hurtful it is. I am estranged from my father so I surely understand.
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Re: Helping someone you care about
« Reply #11 on: April 13, 2015, 04:28:04 pm »
I feel bad for your boyfriend, but it is something that he has to deal on his own; just support him. When it comes down to religion that's somebody's faith your talking about and that it so strong.  I know is family wants the best for him and he grownup on this faith. Now he understands things and he could decide on his own, which he has. Now he has to live with his decision and it will be hard for sometime all you have to do is support him.

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Re: Helping someone you care about
« Reply #12 on: April 14, 2015, 01:42:39 pm »
So sorry for you and your boyfriend. I hope he gets through this and with your help to be by his side and not judge things will get better. Sad thing when religion takes part in ones life like a cult they have to run from because they decided to think for themselves and no longer choose to be brainwashed to thinking that type of religion is for them. Yeah I know all religions are different but some are just too invasive in one's whole life.

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Re: Helping someone you care about
« Reply #13 on: April 14, 2015, 03:39:26 pm »
Seriously,who are some of you kidding?I have seen posts here when others dont say,Merry Xmas"others get bent outta shape.

For a pagan holiday already!!

The truth certainly divides many!!What makes any of you NOT think love is involved here from his family by their disappointment of their son?

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