MYOB (Mind Your Own Business)

[debidoo]

I really detest it when people do that - if she talks about everyone else I figure she will talk about me too.  Just depends on who she is with - and I wonder if she thinks she is perfect and someone couldn't find plenty to say about her.  You summed it up perfectly when you said "I hate gossip".

[aflyingmonkey]

Some people just have nothing else going on in their life to talk about, so they are left talking about others.   It's sad really.      I see my father doing this, rehashing what he read on facebook about others, but he's 80 with all his close friends dead and his wife dead with no real interests left, was a workaholic & without work, not much left for him.   But if they are young, it's just pathetic, like get a life.

[patti4me]

I don't think gossiping is too good for anyone; not saying I haven't done a little of it but rarely and certainly not to strangers.

[Tresbn00]

I hear your message all too well! I am helping out a different division on my day time job. Last week I asked the program director a question about how they would like to proceed with a certain part of the project because it was out of the ordinary. In fact I had asked several people about what they thought and all said that the quirk needed to be addressed with the project coordinator. The response that I received was filled with condescension, insulting, rude and arrogant. I told my direct manager about this on Monday. On Tuesday the project coordinator told my manager that he thought my question was one that shouldn't have been asked with my level of expertise. My manager told me that several others had been assaulted just like me. Seriously?!? The person accosted me, wasn't satisfied with that and had to go to my manager (who is more than happy with my work) while I was doing him a favor. This is another instance of MYOB.

[ancmetro]

       Gossip: What a waste of time!

[nannycoe1]

Every neighborhood always has someone who thinks it is their job to inform everybody what everybody else is doing.
Sometimes it is a good thing to have a nosey neighbor, they might actually see something that needs attention.

[autumnsparklemom]

UGH! I despise those kind of folks.

[jmc1070]

I'm so glad I live in the country. My nearest neighbor is 1/2 mile away.

[jenniferhoder]

Some people don't have enough going on in their own lives so they have to worry about everyone around them and what THEY are doing.... I feel it's best to jus keep quiet and not say anything b/c then you can never be accused of saying anything about anyone else. I hate gossip too tho!

[kimber62372]

Like a nice neighbor I'm sure you anxiously sat there and listened and was hoping for her departure! lol ... When someone tries to gossip about others business other than my own, I let them speak their peace but don't engage into the conversation as if I were not interested. They eventually get the hint and walk off. Gossiping only lowers ones standards and brings down your soul.

[davidh121]

I know sometimes it's hard not to gossip, but it is up to us whether we want to continue further. You can always politely decline or step away if you can.  Sometimes you cannot stop some people and you have the control not to discuss things with such people too.

[paints]

Like a nice neighbor I'm sure you anxiously sat there and listened and was hoping for her departure! lol ... When someone tries to gossip about others business other than my own, I let them speak their peace but don't engage into the conversation as if I were not interested. They eventually get the hint and walk off. Gossiping only lowers ones standards and brings down your soul.

lol I am definitely NOT a nice neighbor, at least when the gossips starts. 
Which is how all the tales started about me lol

[marciaenglish]

I detest a gossip!  You know if they are talking about everyone else; they are also talking about you to the others!

[countrygirl12]

Did you tell her this?  Or did you sit and listen and participate in the conversation?

Oh yeah, I told her. 
I asked her, "Why is this my business? Why are you telling me this?"
She said, "I just thought you ought to know what your neighbors are up to.."
And I told her, I don't CARE what they're "up to." It's not my business.
I told her it wasn't her business, either.
I don't think that will stop her though. She really just does not get it.

lol.  You ought to know?  Wow.  And good for you.  The only way she will get it or at least get that YOU do not want to hear it is if you cut her off and go inside every time she starts that.  Just say "I have things to do inside" and go in the house and go back outside when she leaves.  Unless it directly effects you then you are right you don't need to know.  And she may be like a former neighbor I use to have.  She would come talk to me and tell me crap about everybody in the area and say stuff about them and then go tell them "I" said the things she said to me.  And the sad part of it all is they believed her because she had lived in the neighborhood for 10 or more years.  So most of them didn't like me.  I finally found a better place to live.  Sold that house and bought a nicer one. 

[countrygirl12]

I dislike noisy neighbors like that... Esp. if they don't really know you or your situation, yet not only pass judgement on you but also tells others what they think (and sometimes as though it is known facts instead of just their opinion). I once had a terrible roommate (that I later had to evict), and I got blamed by a few neighbors for their actions because one noisy neighbor had told the neighborhood that we were "shacking up" without a secure job. But once I evicted this roommate, some of the neighbors came by and started talking to me about the situation and realized that although this roommate was irresponsible, I was actually a very responsible neighbor. Then their perception of me made a complete change.

Seems like there's at least one in every neighborhood. I guess it makes them feel important. All it really does is cause trouble, and it's just such a waste.

We don't have that issue where I live now.