Ready for a big change!

[froggylover227]

Being in a long-distance relationship for 9 months, I decided to talk to my boyfriend about the next big step in the relationship. We discussed me moving up there in about a year and a half. He said he was on board with the decision, and I couldn't be more excited. However, it's gonna take a lot of work for me in the next few months. I obviously have to save money, like $10,000. Plus I have to apply for a new job up there. I love him so much and am so excited to start this next chapter in our book! Anybody else have any similiar stories like mine?

[vickysue]

Me, I would put everything in storage, move up and live with him for awhile before making the big change. Get a job there and try it for awhile first. Just talking from experience. The man I married could have been the perfect person. But once I got there he turned out to be a drunk and  abusive person after about 10 months it got so bad I started figuring  on getting out. Thank heavens I had a good job and was able to start over even then he haresed me for a long time. So check it out first.

[jcalexis]

Mine was almost like yours. My wife and I were dated for nine years before we finally got married. We did not live near each other. Now we are both under one roof.

[aflyingmonkey]

Why would it take so much money to move there?   Like, how far is it.   I agree with the other poster that you should test out the waters, so to speak, before you make such a costly investment.

[reiddb]

I guess I'm wondering why you need so much money?? That doesn't seem right to me?

[fjaz1]

Good luck, to him

[froggylover227]

Yes, we would live with his parents for a while until we have enough money to afford our own place, so I guess that would be the trial period. I'd me moving from New Jersey to Massachusetts, and the reason I'd like to bring that much money with me is as an emergency fund, something to fall back on. I plan on applying for jobs up there about 2 months ahead of time, and I can stay with him if they call me for an interview. I don't care if I have to work 2 jobs or it's a crummy job at McDonald's or something, I just want to be with him, as I love him so much and I'm so much happier when I'm with him. I know it's a big change, and that's why I want to be as much prepared as possible.

[dancer139]

I'm sure it will be big change.  Be prepared in every way.  If your really thinking abut taking that much money,,, please don't take it all in cash,,,,, it will go fast.  Just Saying.  I'm sure what ever bank you use now,,,  they will have the same bank there or find one that is in both places.

Good Luck  and Be Careful !!!!

[snuggleycutejc]

Take your computer because you will be able to do fushioncash there too.   

[anitaraemillspalmer]

Being in a long-distance relationship for 9 months, I decided to talk to my boyfriend about the next big step in the relationship. We discussed me moving up there in about a year and a half. He said he was on board with the decision, and I couldn't be more excited. However, it's gonna take a lot of work for me in the next few months. I obviously have to save money, like $10,000. Plus I have to apply for a new job up there. I love him so much and am so excited to start this next chapter in our book! Anybody else have any similiar stories like mine?

hope all goes well...moving is a huge change...I moved 8 yrs. ago and I've wanted to go back home ever since...but unfortunately my significant other turned out to be not such a nice guy...a wolf in sheeps clothing

[catherinedwhite]

I'm considering a move to be with a loved one, as well. I hope it all works out for you!

[aflyingmonkey]

If you'll have $10,000 that is almost a down payment for a house -- at least money for a down for an apartment, why would you need to move with his parents.   I understand the long distance thing, and being in love.  But how would you even consider moving in with his parents, and what kind of parents would let you move in with their son in their house.   & what kind of a provider will this man be if he still lives with his parents?  Does he go to school? & why does it have to be a year and a half?   

[froggylover227]

He lives with his parents because with his income, he can't afford an apartment on his own, as the area he lives in is very expensive. He does pay rent for living with them, but not what he would pay on his own. His parents already told me that I am more than welcome to stay with them until we find a place, and I'm not worried about what kind of provider he will be, as I'm not the type to rely on a man to provide for me when I'm fully capable of providing for myself. I believe in sharing the responsibilities, so when we do eventually get our own place, we will be splitting the costs, I don't expect him to pay for it all. And the reason I want to bring so much up there with me as simply to cover my bills, etc. while in the transition. I know it's a lot of money, but it will definitely help God forbid I can't find a job right away or something to that effect. And I say a year and half so that both of us can start preparing ourselves...saving money, me looking into new jobs, etc. I'd rather have a timeline to keep myself in check than just wake up one day and move up there. This is a man that I trust more than anyone, a man who I want to spend the rest of my life with, and I know he feels the same about me. That's why I feel it's important for me to start making the changes in my life now, meaning no more frivolous spending, paying down my debts, and most importantly....SAVING MONEY!