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adriarobi

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #15 on: November 15, 2017, 06:07:09 am »
God is there if you call on Him.....

I am praying for a hard relationship in my family also. He is the first place to go to when your heart hurts.

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #16 on: November 15, 2017, 06:55:08 am »
Lord knows, I don't know what I would do but I know I won't give up on my child even if she is grown.  Don't know what cause her to stop talking to you but whatever it is go to her and let her know you still love her and you all can get through it and ask her if there is anything you can do to fixed the problem, then do it.  If she does not, just pray and one day she'll realize she do need her mother and don't wait until something bad happens.  Life is too short.

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #17 on: November 15, 2017, 07:06:54 am »
It is a difficult disheartening position to be in.  Talk to God as if you are having a conversation with him.  Do it everyday and be sincere.  He will guide you!

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #18 on: November 15, 2017, 10:04:55 am »
find someone who is in need of a motherly person mother them daughter finds out and she'll come running back

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #19 on: November 15, 2017, 10:15:14 am »
I also remember you writing about this last year. I am almost 40 and it has been over 2 years since I spoke to my parents. They have not attempted to reach out to me. I likely will never speak to them again for the way they have treated my daughter (who just turned 12).

Just because family is blood doesn't mean you are forced to be in a relationship with them. 

My two cents.

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #20 on: November 15, 2017, 12:06:09 pm »
I have a step son the same way...ignored us for 12 years despite attempts to reach him.  He's back in touch but things are very  strained.
I'd say to just leave the lines of communication open...but unfortunately you can't force her to communicate.

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #21 on: November 15, 2017, 01:30:04 pm »

At this point I would stop all contact. From her perspective since you are doing all the initiating she still welds the power over you & she knows it.... she knows it's getting to you & having the impact of hurting you - she is punishing you. She is winning - to her.     

Once you stop, it may be hard but you need to, she will have no indication that she is still punishing you for whatever it is, she will stop focusing on the issue with every attempt you write or try to reach out, perhaps it will give her time to heal & get over it.    You've already tried to reach out, now when she is ready & time heals wounds, she'll reach out to you.   

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #22 on: November 15, 2017, 03:51:48 pm »
 
if I write her a letter I know she would just throw it away.
That's her decision to throw it away, but at least you did what you can. Put something bumpy inside so curiosity will drive her to open it, maybe a Rieson candy and say something about the reason you miss her.

I'm sorry to hear, I couldn't imagine what it must feel like, but I like what oldbuddy said. It's always better to try. Best of luck.

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #23 on: November 30, 2017, 11:39:35 pm »
I vented about this I believe last year. She sill hasn't talked to me going on 5 years now. I tried many times to reach out to her but i'm just being ignored over and over again. Should I just wait till she contacts or should I keep trying and trying only to keep being ignored ? She'll be 40 on her next birthday UGH....thanks for any advice !!....if I write her a letter I know she would just throw it away.

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I'm currently not speaking to my mother either as she has hurt me so many times in my life before. She hasn't ever made any effort to fix our relationship but I'm not sure if I would be open to that. Nonetheless, she is still my mother she gave me life and I will always be appreciative of that. I think your daughter deep in her heart feels that way too. No matter what she will always be your daughter. I would suggest sending one last communication letting her know you will always love her and be there for her no matter what. If she doesn't respond that will suck but at least you know you tried. :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose:
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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #24 on: December 01, 2017, 03:51:58 am »
Thank you all so much for such good advice. I tried my best to reach out and even apologized many times, I even sent her a gift  (not flowers tho) with no response. So I think that I am just going to lay low and pray that 1 day she'll come around....Thank you again everyone. I cant help but feel that I was a lousy Mom :(

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #25 on: December 01, 2017, 05:23:06 am »
if I write her a letter I know she would just throw it away.
That's her decision to throw it away, but at least you did what you can. Put something bumpy inside so curiosity will drive her to open it, maybe a Rieson candy and say something about the reason you miss her.

Great idea! ;) I have a friend in a similar situation and it's heartbreaking. Something will happen in her life to bring her back to you eventually. I know it's tough to be patient, but you just may have to. I will pray for you and I hope for the best.

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #26 on: December 01, 2017, 05:31:26 am »
I am sorry for the sad time in your life between you and your daughter.  You have done your best and time will heal all wounds.  God time is the right time she will return to you pleading for your forgiveness.

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #27 on: December 01, 2017, 05:32:36 am »
if I write her a letter I know she would just throw it away.
That's her decision to throw it away, but at least you did what you can. Put something bumpy inside so curiosity will drive her to open it, maybe a Rieson candy and say something about the reason you miss her.

Great idea! ;) I have a friend in a similar situation and it's heartbreaking. Something will happen in her life to bring her back to you eventually. I know it's tough to be patient, but you just may have to. I will pray for you and I hope for the best.

Surveypro, my fear is that she is soooooo like myself, stubborn, I swear, the sky could be falling around her and she STILL wouldn't give me the satisfaction of asking for my help UGH !!...thank you for your prayers !!

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #28 on: December 01, 2017, 05:42:44 am »
Don't bug her with letters you know she will throw away.  Send her birthday, Christmas, etc greetings and always tell her you love in them.  That way she will always know you love her, but won't get agrivated with your constant letters.  Just subtle reminders that you are there for her and will always be her mother and love her.

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #29 on: December 01, 2017, 06:03:15 am »
I am really sorry for your situation and wish you could find a way to resolve it

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