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shawnix

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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #15 on: January 28, 2019, 09:00:38 am »
Some people are just overly sensitive, and maybe you shouldn't worry about it. If it is a concern, then maybe think about how you are speaking to them and be careful. I don't like walking on eggshells either, but I don't want to hurt or offend people, especially friends.

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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #16 on: January 28, 2019, 09:07:26 am »
People need to stop using prozac and start thickening there skin

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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #17 on: January 28, 2019, 05:10:16 pm »
For me, I think that a lot of us disagree on many things so we need to bit our tongues. As I say to people we can agree to disagree and leave it at that.

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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #18 on: January 28, 2019, 05:58:25 pm »
A few people have dropped out of my life because I tend to speak what is on my mind. Or they take what I say in the way I didn't mean it to come out. I hate walking on egg shells while talking to people, but what am I to do? hence why I don't go out as much anymore, some people are to touchy for me and so I try to avoid some :( my daughter had mentioned that I make people hate me UGH :'(

Sometimes people are looking at the world as if its out to get them. They therefore interpret many things with that tint on it.

I have a very good friend who had been having a rough patch. Everything I would comment on, when she asked, would somehow turn into me being critical. I wasn't being mean. I didn't even say anything overtly negative. But in her mind, she was not feeling good about herself and that's how she would see things. So, until she was out of her funk, whenever she asked for my opinion, I reverted to the, "Well what do you think?" or "How do you feel about it?" And after she had her say, she'd pretty much answered her own questions. It made her feel better and there was no negativity.

Sometimes it's easy to see where people are coming from and sometimes it's not that easy to read people. Sometimes people really don't want to hear what you think but want to be "yes'ed." But if there's any doubt how someone will take something, I don't say anything at all or redirect them to tell me how they might see things.

I hope your situation improves. Good luck :)

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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #19 on: January 29, 2019, 06:50:30 am »
People need to stop using prozac and start thickening there skin

What is that even suppose to mean?  Prozac is obviously not for what you think it is.  And it has nothing to do with having thick skin.  I am sure there are things that could be said to you that you would find offensive and you would go after the person who said it.

Unlike a lot of people, I am able to see things from more than one angle.  I say what I think.  If you don't like that then oh well.  Get over it. At the same time I don't make fun of someone for being over weight, gay, or whatever.  I don't think the OP does either.  But sometimes you can make a vague comment like "I am so sick of these druggie thugs stealing from everybody" and someone hears you who has a kid who is on drugs and even though you said NOTHING about their precious angel they get offended and try to get you in trouble for making a very true statement.

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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #20 on: January 29, 2019, 06:55:03 am »
A few people have dropped out of my life because I tend to speak what is on my mind. Or they take what I say in the way I didn't mean it to come out. I hate walking on egg shells while talking to people, but what am I to do? hence why I don't go out as much anymore, some people are to touchy for me and so I try to avoid some :( my daughter had mentioned that I make people hate me UGH :'(

Sometimes people are looking at the world as if its out to get them. They therefore interpret many things with that tint on it.

I have a very good friend who had been having a rough patch. Everything I would comment on, when she asked, would somehow turn into me being critical. I wasn't being mean. I didn't even say anything overtly negative. But in her mind, she was not feeling good about herself and that's how she would see things. So, until she was out of her funk, whenever she asked for my opinion, I reverted to the, "Well what do you think?" or "How do you feel about it?" And after she had her say, she'd pretty much answered her own questions. It made her feel better and there was no negativity.

Sometimes it's easy to see where people are coming from and sometimes it's not that easy to read people. Sometimes people really don't want to hear what you think but want to be "yes'ed." But if there's any doubt how someone will take something, I don't say anything at all or redirect them to tell me how they might see things.

I hope your situation improves. Good luck :)

I agree a lot of people want to make everything personal to them.  For instance there was some people upset because the people in our local jail "Don't get coke to drink and that is just horrible because can you imagine not ever getting to drink coke".  Uhhhh okay, yeah because I don't drink it anyway.  lol.  I flat out said "I do not feel sorry for people who are in jail because they don't get cokes.  Obey the law and you can drink what you want." Someone who hears the comment gets mad because their angel is in jail.

Basically we are living in a world where you can only say something if everyone hearing you will agree with you.  If they do not they will put your picture and their spin on what you said on social media and have the world ripping you apart before anyone even knows the real story.  People are too quick to judge and jump on the bandwagon of a viral story commenting.  Then when the truth comes out and the first person lied it is too late.  The innocent person's life is already ruined.

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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #21 on: January 29, 2019, 12:17:23 pm »
By the same token, social media is often taken as the truth without vetting the information. If it fits what one believes it's perceived as truth. If not, then it's perceived as a lie. Just because it's online doesn't make it the ___'s honest truth.

I wish all social media would take two or three years off--offline, that is--and let us get back to using our brains to think and dissect what information we're given, rather than passively believing what is being fed to us and thus perpetuating falsehoods (which equals more social media usage and exposure to ads which fill their corporate coffers). Or, if they won't do that, they should use their successful algorithms to determine violators of their Terms of Service and stand by those terms to ban those who violate it regardless of their corporate or political prominence or affiliations.

I'm getting off my soap box now. I apologize if I've offended anyone. This will probably be the only "rant" I'll post in these forums. And, if necessary, I'll delete it should the majority care for me to do so.

Thanks for reading. Have a nice day.




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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #22 on: January 29, 2019, 01:09:25 pm »
:)      ;D       :)  Speaking your mind shouldn't get you to lose the friends you do have. They might think that you don't hold anything back from them and they don't feel its right to be around you. If being kind to the friends you have get's them upset, they might not be your friend if they walk away from you.  :)       ;D       :)
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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #23 on: January 30, 2019, 02:47:21 pm »
I agree with those who say people are way too touchy these days.  Too many snowflakes.  It's ok to disagree on things.  It isn't the end of the world, you don't have to kill the person who disagrees with you.  It's ok.  Find a picture of a puppy and take a deep breath.

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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #24 on: January 31, 2019, 11:21:38 pm »
Stand up for yourself, I speak the way I want to, even on here lol, I recently got in trouble at work because some idiot of a boss who had many confrontations tried to make me do something unsafe, wasn't going to happen.  I'm Polish and Italian and I don't hide it, can't you see my hands moving  :highfive: :o 8)

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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #25 on: January 31, 2019, 11:41:36 pm »
don't let others who don't count put you down.

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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #26 on: January 31, 2019, 11:42:33 pm »
don't let others who don't count put you down.

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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #27 on: February 01, 2019, 12:11:53 am »

   Some people will like you...while others do not!
   What are you going to do about it?

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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #28 on: February 01, 2019, 07:12:38 am »
You can't please everyone so just be yourself, use a nice tone of voice when speaking.  Trying to explain yourself hardly ever works because people already have their mind made up so just keep moving.

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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #29 on: February 01, 2019, 07:32:28 am »
we have the same situation with my youngest daughter..she takes everything different than the way we say it..and she gets mad...she just recently got like this..so not sure what is going on with her..but we walk on egg shells when she is around...just to keep arguments down...so frustrating that you can't be yourself with family...
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