One day it will be YOU !! please be kind

[countrygirl12]

cateyes1, You're so right what you said in your post! This society (here in the western world at least) is too consumed with work, money and what's popular on youtube. It's also a "what have you done for me lately" type of society we live in, there is a serious lack of respect for people and their property. That being said, it's not all doom and gloom! I sometimes read stories like the one you wrote about and they help to remind me that there are still a lot of kind and caring people out there. These stories don't get the attention in the media that crimes and tragedies do but the bad guys haven't won yet. Word gets around, perhaps if we practice more of what we preach, being nice and considerate will become cool and the "thing to do". Bless you for helping the old man, now it's my turn!         

I honestly doubt people walking past someone and not helping them load groceries in their car in a parking lot are too consumed with youtube to help.  I as well as almost everyone I know very rarely watch youtube.  And could care less what is on it.

People not helping others doesn't have anything to do with work or money either.  People are too quick to judge.  A couple years ago I stopped at the gas station to get a drink and snack for work.  I parked on the side because there was no room in the front.  When I came back out a woman appears out of no where asking me which direction I am going in.  She is all pathetic and wanting a ride.  Uh sorry, take your fat butt to walking cause you are not getting in a car with me.  I am sure some would judge me harshly for that decision but MY life is worth more than some thug that is out to rob or kill me.  It's the world we live in.  Watch the news.  People are evil.  Even the most sweet elderly people you see can be part of a scheme to set you up.

That doesn't mean people are cold or callous or uncaring.

As far as helping others, I do see that all the time.  I have seen men load things for women at Walmart, Lowe's stuff like that all the time.  There is a lot of good people in the world.  A lot of people who help others and go on with their day without plastering it on Facebook and making sure the world knows they done it.  If I help someone I just do it and go on.  I don't tell the world I done it.  Nobody knows but me, them and God.  And if some idiot took my picture or videoed it and put it on the internet I would be really upset.  I do do things for attention.

Well, I am now 70 years.  Since 1993 I have been single and going to the grocery for water softener salt for my softener.  I can count on one hand how many times people have offered to help me load 40 pound bags into my trunk.  It was not so bad up until about 3 years ago.  I have had men walk just a few feet from me and not offer. I have had men sit in their truck or car straight across from where I am parked and watch me load it with out moving.  There are very few helpful people in the world today for whatever reason.  Both these situations have happened far more than once.  So, I am very happy to read and acknowledge that someone is aware and willing to help when they see and have some time!  Thanks for the original post!!

I understand what you are saying and I agree to a point. At the same time it is like I said - too many women scream and yell at a man or any person for trying to help them. That is why people walk on by.

[countrygirl12]

It is sad that the posters are telling most of the truth.  The people who are in their 20's now never think that one day they may need a helping hand.  Keep on living to see how cruel human kinds really are in this world.  You can't trust 99.99 percent of the people in this world.

It's a cruel world and getting worst.

See you double talk here.  You clearly say you can't trust 99.99% of the people in the world and then are upset because people don't stop to help others.  smh

[countrygirl12]

The OP story is terrible. I feel so bad for the elderly and think that abuse is on the rise because people seem to be more callous than ever. I remember hearing a horrible story of how a senior lady was sexually assaulted and the nursing home worker didn't care that he hurt her and had the nerve to complain about her smell since she was incontinent. It so disturbing that younger people think this couldn't happen to them. It can. It pays to be good to all people and especially people who have a disadvantage and need help.

I don't think it has anything to do with people thinking they don't think it can't happen to them.  It is the entitled world we live in.  And things will just continue to get worse.  Things have gone too far and they aren't going to get any better here on Earth.

The trash that raped that woman had been doing it for a long time.  There is no way that no one else in the facility could not know something was happening.  They also cover for each other.  I tried to get a job in a nursing home a few years ago.  I had family there and I think the reason I never could get hired it because they knew I would not stand for the wrong stuff they were doing.  I had complained about something I witnessed several times and I was told by a cousin who worked there to stop saying that because they state would shut them down for it.  WELL FIX THE PROBLEM!

[cateyes1]

The OP story is terrible. I feel so bad for the elderly and think that abuse is on the rise because people seem to be more callous than ever. I remember hearing a horrible story of how a senior lady was sexually assaulted and the nursing home worker didn't care that he hurt her and had the nerve to complain about her smell since she was incontinent. It so disturbing that younger people think this couldn't happen to them. It can. It pays to be good to all people and especially people who have a disadvantage and need help.

I don't think it has anything to do with people thinking they don't think it can't happen to them.  It is the entitled world we live in.  And things will just continue to get worse.  Things have gone too far and they aren't going to get any better here on Earth.

The trash that raped that woman had been doing it for a long time.  There is no way that no one else in the facility could not know something was happening.  They also cover for each other.  I tried to get a job in a nursing home a few years ago.  I had family there and I think the reason I never could get hired it because they knew I would not stand for the wrong stuff they were doing.  I had complained about something I witnessed several times and I was told by a cousin who worked there to stop saying that because they state would shut them down for it.  WELL FIX THE PROBLEM!

Hence why I NEVER put my Mom and Dad in a home. I was so glad to take care of them right at home here. I wish I could do it all over again I miss them so much !!

[mrsmere]

If you are lead to help someone, then help.  If you feel uneasy, just keep moving.  Most of the time you can request help from the workers at the store because I did it when I had surgery.

[ghunter]

That is so hard, sometimes they don't want help but we should all try to be more caring than we are.  It is the world we live in.

[nannycoe1]

My mother is 85 and up until this past Jan. she was driving. She was in the hospital and I used that opportunity to have her Doc. tell her not to drive anymore, she had gotten to a point where we were afraid for her to drive. She is very upset because she cannot drive anymore but she is in early dementia and cannot be trusted.

[tantricia44]

Thank you for your kindness. I hope someone would help me out when I can barely move any longer!

[paints]

I help people whenever I can.  And I ask for help when I need it. 
Sometimes just offering to help can make someones' day.

[countrygirl12]

The OP story is terrible. I feel so bad for the elderly and think that abuse is on the rise because people seem to be more callous than ever. I remember hearing a horrible story of how a senior lady was sexually assaulted and the nursing home worker didn't care that he hurt her and had the nerve to complain about her smell since she was incontinent. It so disturbing that younger people think this couldn't happen to them. It can. It pays to be good to all people and especially people who have a disadvantage and need help.

I don't think it has anything to do with people thinking they don't think it can't happen to them.  It is the entitled world we live in.  And things will just continue to get worse.  Things have gone too far and they aren't going to get any better here on Earth.

The trash that raped that woman had been doing it for a long time.  There is no way that no one else in the facility could not know something was happening.  They also cover for each other.  I tried to get a job in a nursing home a few years ago.  I had family there and I think the reason I never could get hired it because they knew I would not stand for the wrong stuff they were doing.  I had complained about something I witnessed several times and I was told by a cousin who worked there to stop saying that because they state would shut them down for it.  WELL FIX THE PROBLEM!

Hence why I NEVER put my Mom and Dad in a home. I was so glad to take care of them right at home here. I wish I could do it all over again I miss them so much !!

And you are lucky.  Some people do not have any choice.  I don't think the majority of people put parents in nursing homes because they just don't want to fool with them.  Some I am sure do but some really have no other choice at all.

[mrisha]

The way the world is today, it's kind of scary trying to help others who need it.  I do help people If I see they need help inside a store, but never outside. 

[linderlizzie]

“Twice this week, I have watched an elderly individual, fade into the busy life in which we all live. One man just needed Panadol for his wife but the shop assistant simply said it’s in aisle ‘6’. But he struggled to navigate the supermarket and as I watched him go in the wrong direction, I left all my groceries and took him where he needed to go.”
“Today, I watched an elderly man struggle in the heat, who had obviously had a fall with a huge scrape and blood on his leg. He walked past people in the cafe, while he slowly made his way to his car. Not one person stopped. Or looked. Or acknowledged him. I took him to his car and checked he was ok. He told me he had a fall and wasn’t sure how the air con worked in his car so he just didn’t use it. I sat with him, until his air con kicked in and heard him talk about the old frail body that he is in, that fails him now, every single day.”
“When you see an elderly person walking down the street, searching in the supermarket or struggling to their car, take a minute out of your busy schedule and ask them if they need a hand. Think about your grandparents and your parents and how upset you would be if someone didn’t stop to help them. But more, think of them as you.”
“Once upon a time they were you. They were busy, they had work, they had children, and they were able. Today, they are just in an older body that is not going as fast as it used to and this busy life is confusing. They deserve our utmost respect and consideration. One day it will be you, it will be us. I wish more people cared more about them and acknowledged them for their admirable existence and jeez I hope someday, not that far away, someone does it for me.”
Thanks to the author, Adele Renee.

You did the right thing, cateyes. Good for you! I love helping people out.

But seniors should be much more assertive than they sometimes are. If they are aggravating enough, they might get more help.