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Don't wish me a Happy Mother's Day
« on: May 07, 2021, 10:06:39 pm »
I'm not a mother.  I was wished a Happy Mother's Day by a stranger today.  I said I'm not a mother.  Then he said well happy Ladies Day.   ::)  I get mildly annoyed when people do that and it's only men who seem to do it.  It's happened several times through the years.  Don't assume that just because I'm a female that I have kids.  Only wish people who you know are mothers a Happy Mother's Day.  I don't go around wishing random strangers happy Mother's or Father's Day I don't know them. 

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Re: Don't wish me a Happy Mother's Day
« Reply #1 on: May 08, 2021, 08:01:15 am »
It seems like a pretty trivial thing to get upset about. I'm not a mother either, but I just say thanks and move on. I also don't celebrate holidays, but I've gotten "Happy Birthday" and "Merry Christmas" every year. What's the point in getting mad about it?

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Re: Don't wish me a Happy Mother's Day
« Reply #2 on: May 08, 2021, 08:50:34 am »
I never got upset about it when I wasn't a mother.  My younger siblings land other people looked to me as a mother figure or God mother.   You don't have to give birth to a child to be a mother.

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Re: Don't wish me a Happy Mother's Day
« Reply #3 on: May 08, 2021, 04:10:24 pm »
I'm not a mother.  I was wished a Happy Mother's Day by a stranger today.  I said I'm not a mother.  Then he said well happy Ladies Day.   ::)  I get mildly annoyed when people do that and it's only men who seem to do it.  It's happened several times through the years.  Don't assume that just because I'm a female that I have kids.  Only wish people who you know are mothers a Happy Mother's Day.  I don't go around wishing random strangers happy Mother's or Father's Day I don't know them. 

No it is not only men who do it. I agree with you about not saying that to people you do not know or people who aren't your mother.  Years ago I worked retail and some idiot wished me Happy Mother's Day.  I kind of went off on them.  NO it is not a HAPPY Mother's Day for me.  I am here and not with my mom on Mother's Day.

Also I remember being in Dollar Tree the Saturday before Mother's Day and this lady was buying the fake flowers. Some foolish person is like oh Happy Mother's Day.  At which point she lost it.  I knew who she was.  Although did not know her personally.  She was buying flowers for her daughter's grave.  Her only child. 

I don't care if the person has kids or not if it is not your mother or close family you should not say that to them.

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Re: Don't wish me a Happy Mother's Day
« Reply #4 on: May 08, 2021, 04:12:05 pm »
It seems like a pretty trivial thing to get upset about. I'm not a mother either, but I just say thanks and move on. I also don't celebrate holidays, but I've gotten "Happy Birthday" and "Merry Christmas" every year. What's the point in getting mad about it?

Not really.  You do not know people's situation.  What if that person has just lost their mother?  A lady I know died last Sunday.  She has kids.  They buried their mother this week.  I doubt they want people wishing them a Happy Mother's Day.  Or what if the person has lost a child?  Or can't have children and wanted them?

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Re: Don't wish me a Happy Mother's Day
« Reply #5 on: May 08, 2021, 04:23:55 pm »
I'm also of the opinion that you not wish Happy Mother's Day to just anyone.

There can be a myriad of circumstances that would make it uncomfortable for some.  :-[

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Re: Don't wish me a Happy Mother's Day
« Reply #6 on: May 08, 2021, 04:25:14 pm »
It seems like a pretty trivial thing to get upset about. I'm not a mother either, but I just say thanks and move on. I also don't celebrate holidays, but I've gotten "Happy Birthday" and "Merry Christmas" every year. What's the point in getting mad about it?
Yeah - I agree with you. Only say Happy Mother's Day to people you know are mothers and know the story behind it.

Not really.  You do not know people's situation.  What if that person has just lost their mother?  A lady I know died last Sunday.  She has kids.  They buried their mother this week.  I doubt they want people wishing them a Happy Mother's Day.  Or what if the person has lost a child?  Or can't have children and wanted them?

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Re: Don't wish me a Happy Mother's Day
« Reply #7 on: May 08, 2021, 04:25:35 pm »
I'm also of the opinion that you not wish Happy Mother's Day to just anyone.

There can be a myriad of circumstances that would make it uncomfortable for some.  :-[


I agree

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Re: Don't wish me a Happy Mother's Day
« Reply #8 on: May 08, 2021, 05:34:17 pm »
Having just lost my son less than a year ago, (and having had 2 miscarriages) I am a mother only to angels, not living children. It is very painful, but I wouldnt be angry about someone saying it. It is a nice thing than most are appreciative to hear. I would rather folks say something nice to me (even if it hurts a lot) then be negative. It is like folks saying Merry Christmas or other things. I guess I dont understand why folks get so bent out of shape over the simple things.

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Re: Don't wish me a Happy Mother's Day
« Reply #9 on: May 08, 2021, 08:06:49 pm »
It seems like a pretty trivial thing to get upset about. I'm not a mother either, but I just say thanks and move on. I also don't celebrate holidays, but I've gotten "Happy Birthday" and "Merry Christmas" every year. What's the point in getting mad about it?

Not really.  You do not know people's situation.  What if that person has just lost their mother?  A lady I know died last Sunday.  She has kids.  They buried their mother this week.  I doubt they want people wishing them a Happy Mother's Day.  Or what if the person has lost a child?  Or can't have children and wanted them?

Well if they don't know your situation, you shouldn't expect them to know what to say or what not to say. They can't read your mind. They're just trying to be friendly and say something nice. There's no point in getting mad about it.

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Re: Don't wish me a Happy Mother's Day
« Reply #10 on: May 09, 2021, 02:57:33 am »
I will say Happy Mothers day and if the person mentions that they lost their Mom, well, then I say Happy Heavenly Mothers day. We ALL have Moms whether they are still with us or not......Happy Heavenly Mothers Day Mom, I miss and love you so much <3  I find it sad to not at least say SOMETHING ...JMT 

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Re: Don't wish me a Happy Mother's Day
« Reply #11 on: May 09, 2021, 01:22:58 pm »
Throw me into the category who thinks that people need to chill out a bit at being offended by something that is clearly intended as a kind gesture. I don't typically go around wishing Happy Mother's Day to complete strangers - not because I am afraid of offending them, but just because I don't typically strike up conversations with strangers.


Another thing that I typically would not do is bite off the head of someone who was trying to offer a kind gesture to me - even if it does not apply to me personally.


This story is apples to the oranges of the topic, but I think it still applies.


Several years ago I had an incident where I threw my back out and it was excruciating for me to walk. I was able to alleviate some of that pain through the use of a cane. I had to travel somewhere for work one day and stopped in a fast food place for lunch. I used my cane to get around and some stranger saw my mobility problems as I walked past his table. Rather than just let me go by, he had a look of concern on his face and he outright asked me if I had been injured in the service. I quickly set him straight that it was just a temporary setback and thanked him for his concern. He was about to thank me for my 'sacrifice' without knowing me or my circumstances.


I cannot express the internal pride I felt for this man's gesture - even though it was incomplete and incorrect - and I tried to express that 'gratitude' back toward him for the obvious respect he would have shown had my situation matched his presumption. If I had snapped back at him: "I just have a bad back you imbecile!" what purpose would that have served to him or to me?


I know this is not the same situation as the person wishing a Happy Mother's Day to someone who doesn't fit the bill. But responding to a mistaken compliment or an attempted kind gesture with hostility is pretty lousy in my opinion.
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Re: Don't wish me a Happy Mother's Day
« Reply #12 on: May 09, 2021, 01:39:23 pm »
Throw me into the category who thinks that people need to chill out a bit at being offended by something that is clearly intended as a kind gesture. I don't typically go around wishing Happy Mother's Day to complete strangers - not because I am afraid of offending them, but just because I don't typically strike up conversations with strangers.


Another thing that I typically would not do is bite off the head of someone who was trying to offer a kind gesture to me - even if it does not apply to me personally.


This story is apples to the oranges of the topic, but I think it still applies.


Several years ago I had an incident where I threw my back out and it was excruciating for me to walk. I was able to alleviate some of that pain through the use of a cane. I had to travel somewhere for work one day and stopped in a fast food place for lunch. I used my cane to get around and some stranger saw my mobility problems as I walked past his table. Rather than just let me go by, he had a look of concern on his face and he outright asked me if I had been injured in the service. I quickly set him straight that it was just a temporary setback and thanked him for his concern. He was about to thank me for my 'sacrifice' without knowing me or my circumstances.


I cannot express the internal pride I felt for this man's gesture - even though it was incomplete and incorrect - and I tried to express that 'gratitude' back toward him for the obvious respect he would have shown had my situation matched his presumption. If I had snapped back at him: "I just have a bad back you imbecile!" what purpose would that have served to him or to me?


I know this is not the same situation as the person wishing a Happy Mother's Day to someone who doesn't fit the bill. But responding to a mistaken compliment or an attempted kind gesture with hostility is pretty lousy in my opinion.
To be kind is a fruitage of Gods spirit.

As many of you know the JWs dont celebrate Xmas,Easter etc because if a certain holiday comes from pagan origin it goes against what Jehovah has said that there are NO other gods before or after him.Satan is Gods enemy and if the celebration originated with him there is NO way Jehovah will support Satan.

However tho his people remain neutral and they would still say thank-you if they are wished merry Xmas and it ends there.The witness RE whys they dont celebrate certain holidays is explained with the discernment the other person wants to know why.......or might wanna know why and they use the bible to back them up or illustrate how God feels about it.

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Re: Don't wish me a Happy Mother's Day
« Reply #13 on: May 09, 2021, 02:29:30 pm »

As many of you know the JWs dont celebrate Xmas,Easter etc because if a certain holiday comes from pagan origin it goes against what Jehovah has said that there are NO other gods before or after him.Satan is Gods enemy and if the celebration originated with him there is NO way Jehovah will support Satan.

Not sure how a Mother's Day thread turned into another diatribe against Christian holidays, but since you are going to say it, I am going to refute it...


Neither Christmas nor Easter are Satanic.  :angel11:


Carry on...

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Re: Don't wish me a Happy Mother's Day
« Reply #14 on: May 09, 2021, 04:59:13 pm »

As many of you know the JWs dont celebrate Xmas,Easter etc because if a certain holiday comes from pagan origin it goes against what Jehovah has said that there are NO other gods before or after him.Satan is Gods enemy and if the celebration originated with him there is NO way Jehovah will support Satan.

Not sure how a Mother's Day thread turned into another diatribe against Christian holidays, but since you are going to say it, I am going to refute it...


Neither Christmas nor Easter are Satanic.  :angel11:


Carry on...
I dont think you care but JW.org will gladly explain why with proof <That you dont have even tho you say you support bible but somehow miss it>
 
Yes it will even explain Mothers day came from pagan gods and Jehovah says quit touching the unclean thing if it originated with Satan.

Xmas Easter and Trinity nowheres to be found in Bible and You know Jesus said to memorialize his death im sure.But again you say you support bible....LOL!!!

The nativity scene turns into a murderous bloodbath of 2 yr old children in Math 2 and U say that Xmas isnt Satanic...LOL!

Did JJ just move in with you?

Its becoming more clear why U support Trump.

You dont need a level playing field,you need a TRUE follower of Jesus as an interpeter and then i guess that wont even help from what i am hearing.

https://youtu.be/lh67x9iDCjg
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