How old ?

[potluck6]

dont think 9 is to young maybe tell her a few things not all. my cousins parents broke up when he was 14  took it real bad.

[linderlizzie]

I agree with the consensus of opinion. It's not your place to tell and it could only bring harm to you both.  Boy, life is hard, isn't it? 

[LaTashaS28]

Yes I think she is too young to know anything right now. In my opinion 13,14, should be a good age to tell her because at that age they should have a good understanding as to why. I think the parents should be the one to tell her.

[cateyes1]

https://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/101991282

They were never married Donna but thank you for the link, it was interesting to read !

[Donnamarg323]

https://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/101991282

They were never married Donna but thank you for the link, it was interesting to read !

You are welcome Cat.

If there is anything helpful in it you can use for the situation i hope it helps.

My spouse and i have a son that had 2 kids out of wedlock.They are grown up now.One is 20 the other 21.My son was not a good dad.I wont go into detail.We were good grand parents to them.

[cateyes1]

https://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/101991282

They were never married Donna but thank you for the link, it was interesting to read !

You are welcome Cat.

If there is anything helpful in it you can use for the situation i hope it helps.

My spouse and i have a son that had 2 kids out of wedlock.They are grown up now.One is 20 the other 21.My son was not a good dad.I wont go into detail.We were good grand parents to them.

Donna i'm sorry to hear that. They are lucky to have you guys as grandparents though. Thanks again for the link. My son tries his best to be in his daughters life and is for the most part. But there are some hiccups along the way on the mothers end. I know that it's not my place to say anything, but if the mother continues to put it all on my son I will say something. So far so good though, its just that 1 time that I know about...hugs to you Donna for being there for them.

[Donnamarg323]

https://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/101991282

They were never married Donna but thank you for the link, it was interesting to read !

You are welcome Cat.

If there is anything helpful in it you can use for the situation i hope it helps.

My spouse and i have a son that had 2 kids out of wedlock.They are grown up now.One is 20 the other 21.My son was not a good dad.I wont go into detail.We were good grand parents to them.

Donna i'm sorry to hear that. They are lucky to have you guys as grandparents though. Thanks again for the link. My son tries his best to be in his daughters life and is for the most part. But there are some hiccups along the way on the mothers end. I know that it's not my place to say anything, but if the mother continues to put it all on my son I will say something. So far so good though, its just that 1 time that I know about...hugs to you Donna for being there for them.

I appreciate your support Cat.

Actually now that the kids have gotten older they wanna be more independent with their lives.I guess i can relate cos i was 20 once.

I think also their   mom dislikes our son and she sees we have supported him,in some ways has taken it out on us seeing the kids or you never know behind doors whats been said.

We know the truth and you can only hope the kids will not get brainwashed.

Hopefully the same pertains to your son as well.

[cateyes1]

https://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/101991282

They were never married Donna but thank you for the link, it was interesting to read !

You are welcome Cat.

If there is anything helpful in it you can use for the situation i hope it helps.

My spouse and i have a son that had 2 kids out of wedlock.They are grown up now.One is 20 the other 21.My son was not a good dad.I wont go into detail.We were good grand parents to them.

Donna i'm sorry to hear that. They are lucky to have you guys as grandparents though. Thanks again for the link. My son tries his best to be in his daughters life and is for the most part. But there are some hiccups along the way on the mothers end. I know that it's not my place to say anything, but if the mother continues to put it all on my son I will say something. So far so good though, its just that 1 time that I know about...hugs to you Donna for being there for them.

I appreciate your support Cat.

Actually now that the kids have gotten older they wanna be more independent with their lives.I guess i can relate cos i was 20 once.

I think also their   mom dislikes our son and she sees we have supported him,in some ways has taken it out on us seeing the kids or you never know behind doors whats been said.

We know the truth and you can only hope the kids will not get brainwashed.

Hopefully the same pertains to your son as well.

Any time Donna, i'm here for you if you ever need to chat/vent i'm a good listener. My granddaughters Mom and I had it out a few years back and she seen how I can get. She even told me after things cooled down to remind her to never get on my bad side again ha ha. So long as you know the truth about your son try not to let her get to you. I know easier said then done but when my sons gal knew she couldnt get to me anymore it wasnt fun for her (if that makes sense) if you can find any of my post from a couple years back you will see what she tried to put me through. That is why I want to tell my Granddaughter when she gets old enough the REAL truth on why her parents split. I dont want her brain washed either. I wish there was a way I could privately send you my email. We seem to be in the same boat and could support one another lol. I will keep you and your grand children and son in my prayers and you and your hubby as well...hugs

[Donnamarg323]

Im a firm believer the truth eventually rises to the top.

Im not gonna get into the bible here cos i have put enuff posts up in 2 yrs and i would only be repeating myself,BUT when you get to know the truth and understand it the world is the way it is cos God got challeneged by Satan <which means adversary or resister>that HE didnt have the right to rule his creation and mankind would be better off for it.

Well we see the results of 6000 yrs of mankinds existence.It wasnt a matter if God coulda wiped out Satan and his followers immediately,then it might have looked like Satan had a good point.God let time be taken off the clock to show what any other kind of rule would cause.

So i bring that up in our cases to be kind and not have a harsh word towards our enemies etc.I know its easier said then done cos i have flown off the handle too.But then i remember if they accused Jehovah of that and put Jesus to death i guess i should have some long-suffering too.

Thanx for your post and listening.

[cateyes1]

Im a firm believer the truth eventually rises to the top.

Im not gonna get into the bible here cos i have put enuff posts up in 2 yrs and i would only be repeating myself,BUT when you get to know the truth and understand it the world is the way it is cos God got challeneged by Satan <which means adversary or resister>that HE didnt have the right to rule his creation and mankind would be better off for it.

Well we see the results of 6000 yrs of mankinds existence.It wasnt a matter if God coulda wiped out Satan and his followers immediately,then it might have looked like Satan had a good point.God let time be taken off the clock to show what any other kind of rule would cause.

So i bring that up in our cases to be kind and not have a harsh word towards our enemies etc.I know its easier said then done cos i have flown off the handle too.But then i remember if they accused Jehovah of that and put Jesus to death i guess i should have some long-suffering too.

Thanx for your post and listening.

Anytime, I hope you have a healthy happy new year !!

[Donnamarg323]

Im a firm believer the truth eventually rises to the top.

Im not gonna get into the bible here cos i have put enuff posts up in 2 yrs and i would only be repeating myself,BUT when you get to know the truth and understand it the world is the way it is cos God got challeneged by Satan <which means adversary or resister>that HE didnt have the right to rule his creation and mankind would be better off for it.

Well we see the results of 6000 yrs of mankinds existence.It wasnt a matter if God coulda wiped out Satan and his followers immediately,then it might have looked like Satan had a good point.God let time be taken off the clock to show what any other kind of rule would cause.

So i bring that up in our cases to be kind and not have a harsh word towards our enemies etc.I know its easier said then done cos i have flown off the handle too.But then i remember if they accused Jehovah of that and put Jesus to death i guess i should have some long-suffering too.

Thanx for your post and listening.

Anytime, I hope you have a healthy happy new year !!

Thank you.

We could all use it.

[cateyes1]

Im a firm believer the truth eventually rises to the top.

Im not gonna get into the bible here cos i have put enuff posts up in 2 yrs and i would only be repeating myself,BUT when you get to know the truth and understand it the world is the way it is cos God got challeneged by Satan <which means adversary or resister>that HE didnt have the right to rule his creation and mankind would be better off for it.

Well we see the results of 6000 yrs of mankinds existence.It wasnt a matter if God coulda wiped out Satan and his followers immediately,then it might have looked like Satan had a good point.God let time be taken off the clock to show what any other kind of rule would cause.

So i bring that up in our cases to be kind and not have a harsh word towards our enemies etc.I know its easier said then done cos i have flown off the handle too.But then i remember if they accused Jehovah of that and put Jesus to death i guess i should have some long-suffering too.

Thanx for your post and listening.

Anytime, I hope you have a healthy happy new year !!

Thank you.

We could all use it.

We all sure can for sure !!

[1223466]

Ok

[chachaflint]

I had a similar situation when my child was 6 years old, we had a difficult divorce. We all went to a psychologist together and she helped us sort out the situation so that the child would suffer the least. Now we are in the same situation, 4 years after that, but the key question has changed: I used the services of WCOB and my new husband (he has an excellent relationship with my daughter) and I are expecting a child from a surrogate mother. I also don't know how to explain this to a child at 10 years old without the help of a pro ... Any advice?

[cathy37]

When I got a divorce my daughter was a senior in high school so she knew what was going on.  I never tried to keep her away from her father.