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Title: Have you ever been beaten by your husband?
Post by: Dynamite2013 on February 18, 2015, 12:17:45 am
My first husband used to beat me all the time then I finally divorced him after I became of age which was 21 at that time. My second husband used to corner me and rape me constantly until all I wanted to do is commit suicide. well now I have a wonder husband and we have been married 25 years. I wouldn't trade him for all the money in the world.
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Post by: fjaz1 on February 18, 2015, 01:22:29 am
Is this really an appropriate topic for discussion on this kind of site, wow why would you tell people your personal problems like that?  If someone had actually asked you that in real life you would probably say none of your business huh? :o 8)
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Post by: nannycoe1 on February 18, 2015, 04:48:25 am
Maybe you should talk to a professional
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Post by: ghunter on February 18, 2015, 07:25:37 am
No, I have never and I am sorry you had to go thur something like that, but by the grace of God you are still here, so keep on keeping on and may God continue to bless you.
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Post by: loulizlee on February 18, 2015, 10:13:57 am
To those who feel the need to tell this lady that this is an inappropriate subject:  This is exactly where subjects like this can be discussed.  After all, it is called Off-Topic (General Discussion Board). It also seems to me that she has confronted what has happened to her and has gotten past it, considering she has been happily married for 25 years.  I, too, am sorry you were so badly treated, but I'm glad you are now happy.  BTW, I have never been beaten by my husband of 52 years.  We have been very blessed. 
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Post by: Dynamite2013 on February 18, 2015, 11:15:49 am
I just wanted to give hope to someone who is in this kind of situation.
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Post by: bretay on February 18, 2015, 11:52:54 am
no i will be married for 38 yrs in march..my husband has never hit me...never physically or mentally..i grew up in that enviroment..my mother was mentally abused by my father and physically abused by her other 3 husbands and other boyfriends..i was physically abused by my mother and abused by a step uncle...i got married at 15 and have had 3 daughters and i have 2 granddaughter..wouldn't change nothing...glad you got out of that enviroment..it's not healthy..it does more to you than what people think..it really messes with your mind..it messed with mind and its something that i have to deal with,but my husband is very understanding.
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Post by: BlackSheepNY on February 18, 2015, 12:08:56 pm
I just wanted to give hope to someone who is in this kind of situation.

I'm so very glad for you that you are no longer in those relationships.  More over, I'm happy for you that you are now very happy with a man that truly loves you.  I've never been beaten by any man.  What I can say is that if any man ever raised a hand to me he'd better make it good because he'd be coming with me.  I'd beat him right back.  I hope none of the things said here in any of these posts made you feel bad in any way.  It is, for certain, a thing that many people would rather not hear or talk about.  It makes people uncomfortable.  God bless you and yours and may you have many more years of happiness to come.
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Post by: hitch0403 on February 18, 2015, 12:41:07 pm
NOOO......i have a wife
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Post by: oldbuddy on February 18, 2015, 12:55:31 pm
NOOO......i have a wife

Me too (for 43 years) and she has never beaten me (yet).
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Post by: hitch0403 on February 18, 2015, 01:00:49 pm
NOOO......i have a wife

Me too (for 43 years) and she has never beaten me (yet).

You have me beat Old Buddy.Im married since 1979 met wife in 1973.We are fortunate.I wanted to add a little humor to a depressing topic...hopefully i didnt insult anyone.
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Post by: Nancy5 on February 18, 2015, 03:08:36 pm
I'm sorry you were abused by your former husbands.  I am happy you are in a good, non-abusive relationship.  To answer your question, no my husband has never been physically or verbally abusive to me, or to our kids.  And I have never been physically or verbally abusive to him.
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Post by: vp44 on February 18, 2015, 08:48:12 pm
So sorry for your bad encounters with your husbands. Good for you that you are not in that situation any more.
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Post by: ancmetro on February 18, 2015, 10:41:18 pm

   Never! I would never allow it!
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Post by: lywb2168 on February 19, 2015, 10:38:30 am
I have been married for 26 years and my husband has never lift a hand to me, it was at some point where he kind of did some verbal abuse but I did not take it for long and told him that either he stops or moves out, I will not tolerate that and he knows that the day he would hit me is the day he and his clothes will go to outside of my house to never return.
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Post by: nguzman1 on February 19, 2015, 11:01:14 am
That is sad to hear, but it is great that you have a good husband now. I have never been beaten by my partner but I am studying to be a therapist to help individuals like you if I  can.
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Post by: hitch0403 on February 19, 2015, 12:13:51 pm
That is sad to hear, but it is great that you have a good husband now. I have never been beaten by my partner but I am studying to be a therapist to help individuals like you if I  can.

That is very kind of you.Remember never hold back what the good book <bible>teaches too.
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Post by: sgluckadoo on February 19, 2015, 03:46:14 pm
No. It would be the last thing he ever did!
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Post by: kimber62372 on February 19, 2015, 08:39:59 pm
I think it's horrible that you had to live through such tragedy! But thank God you are still here to tell your story. Don't listen to others that judge you for sharing your story with us. Sometimes it feels good getting something off your chest and you can't tell your family about. God bless you and wishing you many more happy years with your hubby! :)
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Post by: hitch0403 on February 19, 2015, 09:37:01 pm
Many of you support abortion when a woman is raped and then gets pregnant.Do 2 violent acts make sense?

My point here is <and by NO means do i supports violence>is it possible in some cases the woman could have done something to prevent this.Is it possible her husband thinks she doesnt support or love him?In the case of a life threatening situation i dont blame the woman for leaving.My question is could discernment,understanding and hindsight prevented this?

It still doesnt support violence but an answer when mild turns away rage.Or again there could have been things leading up to this where the husband snapped.

Every situation is different.My question is before it came down to this was it preventable?
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Post by: freedavis on February 20, 2015, 06:39:59 am
Dont think this is a good topic.  But will add its not right either way.
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Post by: fjaz1 on February 20, 2015, 03:29:18 pm
I'm sure there are more suitable forums with this subject matter that can be found.  I don't think there are a lot of people looking or needing that kind of hope on a PTC site :peace:
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Post by: JaniceSW on February 20, 2015, 03:50:39 pm
Many of you support abortion when a woman is raped and then gets pregnant.Do 2 violent acts make sense?

My point here is <and by NO means do i supports violence>is it possible in some cases the woman could have done something to prevent this.Is it possible her husband thinks she doesnt support or love him?In the case of a life threatening situation i dont blame the woman for leaving.My question is could discernment,understanding and hindsight prevented this?

It still doesn't support violence but an answer when mild turns away rage.Or again there could have been things leading up to this where the husband snapped.

Every situation is different.My question is before it came down to this was it preventable?


You've answered your initial question: "Every situation is different."  As far as domestic violence is concerned, it sounds like you insinuate that someone is at fault, and if they had said something different or acted differently, it could have been prevented.  THERE IS NO EXCUSE and there should be NO BLAME OF THE VICTIM!  If you have an uncontrollable temper, walk away and get anger management (and many times AA).  And keep walking until you know you are in control of yourself...if it takes weeks or months.
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Post by: Seenobita on February 20, 2015, 04:07:18 pm
No woman should tolerate domestic violence. Call cops if any tries to hurt you.
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Post by: hitch0403 on February 20, 2015, 04:08:31 pm
Janice.....even Jesus said "Turn the other cheek"

Thats good enuff for me.

I repeat,"an answer when mild turns away rage"

The violent one might just walk away or take an anger managment class if the victim answered mildly!
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Post by: loulizlee on February 20, 2015, 09:07:58 pm
There are some people (men and women) who cannot control their rage, especially if alcohol or drugs are involved.  And then there are those who have mental problems, such as schizophrenia.  I have a nephew who has this disease, who will not take any medication, and is impossible to reason with.  I believe that there ARE cases when a "soft answer turns away wrath," but not in those people who are chemically addicted or mentally incapacitated.  There are evil people who prey on those who are weaker than they are.  Imagine yourself as a woman who has just been raped and has feared the whole time she is going to die.  They are usually in complete shock.
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Post by: hitch0403 on February 20, 2015, 11:01:00 pm
There are some people (men and women) who cannot control their rage, especially if alcohol or drugs are involved.  And then there are those who have mental problems, such as schizophrenia.  I have a nephew who has this disease, who will not take any medication, and is impossible to reason with.  I believe that there ARE cases when a "soft answer turns away wrath," but not in those people who are chemically addicted or mentally incapacitated.  There are evil people who prey on those who are weaker than they are.  Imagine yourself as a woman who has just been raped and has feared the whole time she is going to die.  They are usually in complete shock.

Louliz.....by ALL means.I said in an earlier post if the situation becomes life threatning to leave!!DONT STAY!!

I know all too well there are wackos out there that wouldnt respond no matter.My point here is this doesnt have to be with ALL cases.In the long run it just might save a marriage too.Going to sleep in a provoked state of mind is NOT good therapy!!
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Post by: cateyes1 on February 21, 2015, 04:01:58 am
My first husband used to beat me all the time then I finally divorced him after I became of age which was 21 at that time. My second husband used to corner me and rape me constantly until all I wanted to do is commit suicide. well now I have a wonder husband and we have been married 25 years. I wouldn't trade him for all the money in the world.

3rd time is a charm :)
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Post by: cateyes1 on February 21, 2015, 04:07:08 am
I have from my first husband, I kicked him to the curb. I'm glad that you are happy now :)
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Post by: dwiley11 on February 21, 2015, 07:16:16 am
Oh my.  Its seems your only attracted to dominant guys
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Post by: ricdsm on February 21, 2015, 07:55:47 am
I am so sorry that you went through something so terrible. Love NEVER includes hurting people like that.  I'm glad you found someone who really loves you.
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Post by: premar16 on February 24, 2015, 03:54:33 am
this question seem disturbing and a cry for help are you okay. IF you can get a hold of us that means someone can call for help
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Post by: kewl4reals on February 24, 2015, 12:07:24 pm
My first husband used to beat me all the time then I finally divorced him after I became of age which was 21 at that time. My second husband used to corner me and rape me constantly until all I wanted to do is commit suicide. well now I have a wonder husband and we have been married 25 years. I wouldn't trade him for all the money in the world.
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Post by: moon29 on February 25, 2015, 09:11:50 am
My husband has never laid a hand on me other then in love.  i wouldnt stick around if he did. no one has the right to make you feel like less then you are. 
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Post by: pmagalei on February 25, 2015, 11:44:34 am
Sorry to hear. I have never done that to my wife. We have been together for almost 18 years and I would never done anything so cruel and disrespectful to a wonderful daughter of our Heavenly Father, let alone the mother of my boys. I would say any man who does that to his wife is a complete coward.
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Post by: sherryfan on February 25, 2015, 01:50:24 pm
That's sad  :(, but I do support women's right.
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Post by: bettey13 on February 25, 2015, 06:01:10 pm
No, I've never been beaten my any man,I've been married 31 years, glad you are finally in a healthy relationship.
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Post by: nmbrown863 on February 25, 2015, 09:06:29 pm
I am sorry this happened to you. My husband and I have only been married for 3 years but he has never put his hands on me and I don't think he ever would. I am glad you have a good man in your life now.
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Post by: dreamyxo on February 25, 2015, 10:55:30 pm
I don't have a husband and I haven't been beaten by anyone.  The minute someone tries to raise their hand to me it's over.  I have too much self respect to stay and be hit by anyone in a relationship.
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Post by: Skyenkit on February 27, 2015, 01:41:47 pm
I am sorry to hear how you been treated with your past husbands that was horrible. Luckily I am so blessed with amazing husband thanks to God.
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Post by: patti4me on February 27, 2015, 03:39:06 pm
I've never been beaten by a man and never would tolerate it if one tried.  I've been married for 40 years this March 1st and its been rocky at times but never abusive.  I don't think you can live with anyone for long without having arguments but that should be the extreme not the norm.