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My daughter got engaged right before Christmas and has been planning her wedding for January 2021. It is amazing what the end cost will be for approximately 200 people. Of course she doesn’t want the typical banquet hall or restaurant but instead went with a old warehouse loft. This means that everything has to be brought in except the tables and chairs. Many of the vendors that she has been looking at fortunately offer a discount if you get married between January and March which is why the January wedding. I never thought about this before but she is saving half on her venue. Bar bill and catering both offered a 15% discount. But still have to look at décor, flowers, DJ, photographer etc. Of course after you add up everything it is wonder that anyone that gets married now days doesn’t have some debt after getting married. So glad I got married 37 years ago.
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I have always said weddings and funerals are a waste of money.
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Next door neighbors grandkid got married....kind of a princess....everything had to be just right...Bridezilla…$13,000 wedding plus gifted a trip a to the Bahamas...…... ::)
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Myself, I would set what I thought was a reasonable budget based on my finances and simply inform the couple that is what they have to spend. If they go over that, someone else will have to foot the remainder! Even though about 8 years ago, I gave my youngest daughter $5000 and informed them that was the best I could do. Her father gave some, his parents contributed some, and then they, themselves, paid for some. Luckily, they both had good jobs!
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My niece paid $250,000 and the marriage lasted 6 months. Put us up at the Four Seasons in DC, ice carvings, bands and a lot more just really over the top. I have never seen anything like it. She knew it wouldn't last but said after putting all that money out she wanted to do it anyway. I told her she could make more money and she agreed. What a waste but it was her money.
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Yes, wedding costs are something close to obscene these days. So I was super delighted when my daughter decided to hold her wedding at a farm in eastern Massachusetts where they have miniature golf and baseball batting cages and other fun events like that. It was an outdoor wedding and the food served was hot dogs and hamburgers with homemade ice cream for dessert. It was the most fun wedding I've ever attended.
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When my son got married a couple of years ago, we knew because of how large both families were the rehearsal dinner was going to be expensive. Nothing fancy but good food at a local (chain ) Mexican restaurant. I talked to the owners of the restaurant and they let me start paying a money into an account for almost a year. The night of the dinner I had to only pay around $350.00, which made it so much easier and there was no panic it was ALL paid for. In Colorado I have been to some weddings that were out in the middle of nowhere. Every one that came brought an assigned dish, sides, salads etc. They were all beautiful and the costs were minimal.
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For many reason, including price I wish that I would have just went to the justice of the peace. Maybe had a reception after wards. Ridiculous to spend that much money of a dress you will only wear once. I do wish I would have become a weeing planner. My cousin is making a killing with her business.
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It is hard to believe what people are paying for weddings these days.
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My daughter is getting married in October. I have no idea what the final cost is going to be, but they are paying for most of it themselves. We are helping where we can, but are not able to give her the traditional wedding paid for by the bride's family.
I don't believe it is a waste of money at all - depending on budgets and staying reasonable. My thinking = if you have it and can afford to spend it, go all out. If you can't afford to splurge on top notch facilities or arrangements, there are ways to cut corners and save. My wife and I did a budget when we got married. We stayed within it and we did just fine.
Theoretically this only happens once in your life. I know in reality that is often not the case, unfortunately. But if you truly believe and intend that marriage is for a lifetime - why not celebrate to the extent of your means? It's the biggest party you will probably ever have for yourself. I say don't go into debt over it, but don't deny something you would really like (and can afford) just to be frugal. (That's a very fine line, though!)
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I agree - I almost think weddings are a racket! Where are the simple ceremonies with cake and punch afterwards.
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big weddings are such a waste of money that could be used to start a home
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The costs are truly outrageous these days.
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I would get married at the courthouse and save a lot of money.
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I honestly don’t remember what my wedding cost (too many years ago). My oldest daughter got married 3 years ago. Her and her husband both have good jobs and had money to pay for a wedding. We told them we will give you $10,000 towards your wedding to do as you please. His parents did the same. What they did was have a nice, not over the top wedding but a beautiful one, her gown was only $1000 if you haven’t priced wedding gowns lately that’s not expensive, and I work with a woman who’s family owns a condo in hawaii and she gave it to them for a week free! They took our money and his parents money with some of their money and put a down payment on a house, which I think is a smart move.
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Good thing I don't ever plan on getting married. I'm thinking of staying single for the rest of my life :)
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There is really is no need for such extravagance but, if the couple wants it, it should purely come out their pockets and no one else.
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Your daughter's wedding sounds like it will be amazing, though! My husband and I got married 24 years ago in Gatlinburg and got the wedding package that one of the chapels offered, but ended up bringing quite a bit with us up there as well. i think the whole shabang ended up costing something like 1000 dollars. We spent much more than that on our honeymoon cruise to the Western Caribbean, which was well worth it! :peace: :heart:
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Our girls have had a wide range of styles of weddings.
Oldest was married in a State Park. The most expensive thing was the $5/car entrance fee into the park for the guests. It was a small wedding and I did alterations on a lovely dress that was actually in the prom dress section....this was back in 1978.
Another daughter wrote a PLAY for the wedding. There was a skit performed at the annual Arts in the Park which was actually a surprise engagement. A few hours later, those invited attended the PLAY at the local movie theater. My daughter had altered clothing for the wedding party to fit the style of Mary Poppins. It was unusual, unique and Fun! Also low budget.
Third daughter went the traditional route with dresses from a Bridal Store, reception at the town hall with DJ and a dance, limousine bus ...... We helped out but mostly paid for by the couple.
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Sincerely wish the couple a great wedding. Hopefully they don't divorce in the next year after paying a lot money for a wedding.
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I honestly don’t remember what my wedding cost (too many years ago). My oldest daughter got married 3 years ago. Her and her husband both have good jobs and had money to pay for a wedding. We told them we will give you $10,000 towards your wedding to do as you please. His parents did the same. What they did was have a nice, not over the top wedding but a beautiful one, her gown was only $1000 if you haven’t priced wedding gowns lately that’s not expensive, and I work with a woman who’s family owns a condo in hawaii and she gave it to them for a week free! They took our money and his parents money with some of their money and put a down payment on a house, which I think is a smart move.
My daughter got a great deal on her wedding dress also. She is a small sample size and it turned out that the designer/manufacturer decided to discontinue the dress she both liked and fit into almost perfectly. They sold her the dress at half price. She got an almost $2000 dress for just under a $1000!
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My daughter is getting married in October. I have no idea what the final cost is going to be, but they are paying for most of it themselves. We are helping where we can, but are not able to give her the traditional wedding paid for by the bride's family.
I don't believe it is a waste of money at all - depending on budgets and staying reasonable. My thinking = if you have it and can afford to spend it, go all out. If you can't afford to splurge on top notch facilities or arrangements, there are ways to cut corners and save. My wife and I did a budget when we got married. We stayed within it and we did just fine.
Theoretically this only happens once in your life. I know in reality that is often not the case, unfortunately. But if you truly believe and intend that marriage is for a lifetime - why not celebrate to the extent of your means? It's the biggest party you will probably ever have for yourself. I say don't go into debt over it, but don't deny something you would really like (and can afford) just to be frugal. (That's a very fine line, though!)
We have given then 10K and they used that for their deposits and the groom's father also offer to pay the bar bill which is another 11K so the rest is up to them to pay for. But I know I will help during the year if my personal finances allow us to. I don't think it is realistic any more for the bride's family to pay for the wedding but I do have a nephew getting married at the end of the month and the bride's family is paying for the reception but her father is also big shot with Nike.
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Weddings can be categorized as expensive and short pleasures, but with lasting memories. The newlyweds are ready to pay an enormous sum of money to have a pompous celebration and step beautifully in the married life. Personally, I would never pay such amounts of money for one evening. I celebrated my wedding in Denmark with a few, but the closest relatives and friends. We threw a small party where I could pay attention to all guests. The marriage agency Elena and Leif Bossen (https://daenemarkheiraten.de) took the responsibility from our shoulders regarding the organizational part. Everything was organized at the highest level and on affordable prices.
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Weddings can be very costly, but you can plan a nice wedding a reasonable cost. The same with a funeral. I have told my daughter to cremate me. My spirit would no longer be in that body, it is just a shell.
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Our girls have had a wide range of styles of weddings.
Oldest was married in a State Park. The most expensive thing was the $5/car entrance fee into the park for the guests. It was a small wedding and I did alterations on a lovely dress that was actually in the prom dress section....this was back in 1978.
Another daughter wrote a PLAY for the wedding. There was a skit performed at the annual Arts in the Park which was actually a surprise engagement. A few hours later, those invited attended the PLAY at the local movie theater. My daughter had altered clothing for the wedding party to fit the style of Mary Poppins. It was unusual, unique and Fun! Also low budget.
Third daughter went the traditional route with dresses from a Bridal Store, reception at the town hall with DJ and a dance, limousine bus ...... We helped out but mostly paid for by the couple.
Those weddings sound like loads of fun. What creative children you have. Do they take after their mom? :icon_rr:
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I so agree with that.
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I'd rather just keep it simple
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Weddings are not what they used to be. Many people prefer simple ceremonies and
save lots of money to do other things that they really want to do...like buying a RV,
a vehicle or some other personal major investment.
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It seems like most young people are now forgoing the traditional big wedding route in favor of a more affordable low key wedding. A big picnic in the park, a barbeque in someone's large backyard, or even a small intimate affair at a nice venue. Spending $20,000 - $50,000 on a big upscale wedding is just a waste of money.
I had a bigger traditional wedding for my first marriage and was divorced within 5 years. My second wedding took place in Vegas with a small handful of family/friends. The wedding cost $298 and 10+ years later we are still happily married. What I learned is that the marriage is so much more important than the actual wedding.
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My daughter got engaged right before Christmas and has been planning her wedding for January 2021. It is amazing what the end cost will be for approximately 200 people. Of course she doesn’t want the typical banquet hall or restaurant but instead went with a old warehouse loft. This means that everything has to be brought in except the tables and chairs. Many of the vendors that she has been looking at fortunately offer a discount if you get married between January and March which is why the January wedding. I never thought about this before but she is saving half on her venue. Bar bill and catering both offered a 15% discount. But still have to look at décor, flowers, DJ, photographer etc. Of course after you add up everything it is wonder that anyone that gets married now days doesn’t have some debt after getting married. So glad I got married 37 years ago.
You do not need all this to get married. Have a small wedding at your church or a local park or some place that does not charge to be there. If you do not have a church you can usually use one of a family member for less than $200 depending on the church. You do not need an open bar. Most people are trying to outdo somebody else. A girl at my church got married a few months ago. The church was free to use and her reception was on the grounds of the church and a lady in the church catered so she probably just had to pay for the food. Nothing elaborate. You can also find photographers for a reasonable price. I know people who have used family and the pictures turned out great.
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Next door neighbors grandkid got married....kind of a princess....everything had to be just right...Bridezilla…$13,000 wedding plus gifted a trip a to the Bahamas...…... ::)
You are alive!!! Had not heard from you in a while. A $13,000 wedding does not seem like a bridezilla.
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Next door neighbors grandkid got married....kind of a princess....everything had to be just right...Bridezilla…$13,000 wedding plus gifted a trip a to the Bahamas...…... ::)
You are alive!!! Had not heard from you in a while. A $13,000 wedding does not seem like a bridezilla.
His last comment was April 28th. Wonder what’s wrong. He posted a lot once.
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Yes weddings can be very expensive; I use to do wedding planning apart from my full time job before I retired and the first thing I would have the couple to do was a budget and then take a look at that and see where cuts could be made but still have a nice wedding. Some items and vendors are expensive; that's why it's important to start early and shop around.
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I have always said weddings and funerals are a waste of money.
Hahaha! That sounds about right!
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I agree the pries are outrageous, my brother's best friend got married on a Sunday, a wedding on Sunday was 35% cheaper than on a Saturday so. The look at the calendar and chose to marry the weekend of the Columbus Day Holiday, a Sunday and since Monday was off because of the Holiday it worked out good for them and they safe 35% of the cost
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Hopefully she will only get married once and if she have been saving for it why not. Wedding do cost but this is what she wants. Maybe they alright have some place to live.
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I got married long enough ago, that the cost was not outrageous. I like a big, flashy extravagant wedding as long as I don't pay for it.
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Next door neighbors grandkid got married....kind of a princess....everything had to be just right...Bridezilla…$13,000 wedding plus gifted a trip a to the Bahamas...…... ::)
You are alive!!! Had not heard from you in a while. A $13,000 wedding does not seem like a bridezilla.
His last comment was April 28th. Wonder what’s wrong. He posted a lot once.
Wait, I did not notice that. I thought this was a new thread. I did not even look at the dates. :(
Idk. He was on here a lot then just gone. May be something as simple as computer tore up.
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Next door neighbors grandkid got married....kind of a princess....everything had to be just right...Bridezilla…$13,000 wedding plus gifted a trip a to the Bahamas...…... ::)
You are alive!!! Had not heard from you in a while. A $13,000 wedding does not seem like a bridezilla.
His last comment was April 28th. Wonder what’s wrong. He posted a lot once.
Wait, I did not notice that. I thought this was a new thread. I did not even look at the dates. :(
Idk. He was on here a lot then just gone. May be something as simple as computer tore up.
Hope it’s something like that, I enjoyed his comments. Who was the person people teased that they were boyfriend/girlfriend? I can’t remember who.
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Yikes! I am not married, but I hope to be in the next couple of years. This is one of the reasons I want to pay off most of my debts as soon as possible. In the meantime, reading this thread seriously makes me want to brainstorm how I can save some money.
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Next door neighbors grandkid got married....kind of a princess....everything had to be just right...Bridezilla…$13,000 wedding plus gifted a trip a to the Bahamas...…... ::)
You are alive!!! Had not heard from you in a while. A $13,000 wedding does not seem like a bridezilla.
His last comment was April 28th. Wonder what’s wrong. He posted a lot once.
Wait, I did not notice that. I thought this was a new thread. I did not even look at the dates. :(
Idk. He was on here a lot then just gone. May be something as simple as computer tore up.
Hope it’s something like that, I enjoyed his comments. Who was the person people teased that they were boyfriend/girlfriend? I can’t remember who.
I think it was him and a woman who has not been on here in a long time. I talked to her off this site. And she said they had talked off the site. OR I think it was him. She has not been on in a long time but I don't think anything happened to her. She was trying to move and some other stuff.
I think a lot of people that have quit fooling with this site because of the lack of being able to make money just don't get on here. They are not going to cruise the forums if they are not making money on the site. These forums use to be more of a fun place to be. But lately are more of a hostile episode of a jr high mean girls movie.
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Next door neighbors grandkid got married....kind of a princess....everything had to be just right...Bridezilla…$13,000 wedding plus gifted a trip a to the Bahamas...…... ::)
You are alive!!! Had not heard from you in a while. A $13,000 wedding does not seem like a bridezilla.
His last comment was April 28th. Wonder what’s wrong. He posted a lot once.
Wait, I did not notice that. I thought this was a new thread. I did not even look at the dates. :(
Idk. He was on here a lot then just gone. May be something as simple as computer tore up.
Hope it’s something like that, I enjoyed his comments. Who was the person people teased that they were boyfriend/girlfriend? I can’t remember who.
I think it was him and a woman who has not been on here in a long time. I talked to her off this site. And she said they had talked off the site. OR I think it was him. She has not been on in a long time but I don't think anything happened to her. She was trying to move and some other stuff.
I think a lot of people that have quit fooling with this site because of the lack of being able to make money just don't get on here. They are not going to cruise the forums if they are not making money on the site. These forums use to be more of a fun place to be. But lately are more of a hostile episode of a jr high mean girls movie.
Many have moved on cos of your controversial BS.If U got banned the forum would peak up in a hurry.
You are a busy body that talks and lies TOO much.You remind people of the real world.Many dont wanna see that here.Take a Hike!!
So leave and go to UR phony unknown religeous headquarters and pass out candy to your unsuspecting children of Satan.Id be embarrassed to not mention it as you do myself.
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Just came across another CG whopper.
She said she hasnt responded to Hitch or any of his aliases in 2 yrs.
LOL,it was only a yr ago Hitch got banned and her and JJ were buddies until the support staff of Hitch buried them.
2 yrs!!!!!LOL!!!!!!!
And then she makes like she didnt take part.
Ill tell U,this girl could lie like no one i ever met before.The thing about her lies is she hasnt a clue how to cover her butt.Its so obvious.But U know what causes that?She is SICK!!!
Be happy she isnt ur neighbor in a so called Eden....LOL!!!
And it is JJ who likes to debate and she says it is us.Id love to see the copy and paste for her lies.
Be careful FC members.Unless U enjoy controversy stand clear.
Yes i admit i have it for her.They were mean and creeps and im not done.
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wedding costs have spiralled out of control
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Yikes! I am not married, but I hope to be in the next couple of years. This is one of the reasons I want to pay off most of my debts as soon as possible. In the meantime, reading this thread seriously makes me want to brainstorm how I can save some money.
I would honestly suggest investing. Its one thing to have money accumulate over time but why not have that savings accrue some interest?
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I'm going to have a low-key wedding next year without worrying about a high cost.
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It's amazing how prices of any has increased significantly over the years. It seems that everything has a 300 percent markup.
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I'm invited to a wedding in September but will have to see how this virus is doing by then to determine if I show up. I'm not going in large crowds at this time.