Husband spends more time with friends than family

[tgreen20]

I suggest focusing on yourself, do everything without including him this way you won't get upset......Pray for him and let God do the rest.

[slacomb]

You do all that you can do, and then he has to make the decision and take matters into his own hands. He has to be a grown up.

  Well he is 24 and I talked to him last night. Have to wait and see if it makes any difference. Will let y'all know.

[plennis]

You guys should just go and do what you want and don't bother letting him know, maybe that will make him realize what he is doing.  Probably not.  Let him know that he has a family, they are first, then let him choose.  Make your decision on that....friends then he can go live with them.  They can feed him, do his laundry and you DO NOT HAVE to take care of him.

[ghunter]

You need to check and see what FRIENDS he is spending time with.  Make sure he is not steping out on you.  A husband would want to spend time with his family and on New Years Eve??  Come on don't be stupid, the wife is never the last to know...she is the first.

[gaylasue]

It sounds like he needs an attitude adjustment!  My husband tried pulling that on me when we were first married.  It kind of broke him when I started going out with my friends....

[jenniferhoder]

I feel your pain.... I lived that life for many years but finally got out! Good luck!

[debidoo]

This is sad to hear and I agree with those who said this isn't right.  A man or woman's family should be their first priority.  It doesn't mean he can't meet up with friends and have a good time on occasion but it should be that he spends quality time with his family.  I am sorry this is happening to you and I really don't know what to suggest you do.

[Penwoir]

I note that you have added that your husband is 24 years old, and admittedly that is young. But once you have children, there is no room for immaturity or selfishness. He needs to grow up and realize he has commitments. You can't force someone to stay in and you can't change someone's personality. But you can't continue to be on the receiving end without speaking out about your feelings. You sound like a strong person so I wish you the best of luck. Even if his parental skills are a little lacking, you owe it to your child to be the grown up and set a good example! Good luck!

[slacomb]

Well I have talked to him about it and he said he is going to work on it and that Sunday we will go to the park and get out doing family stuff but let's wait and see.

[camellia0]

Just come out and talk to him. If you don't it could probably become worse and when he's out with the 'guys' who's to say that he's not cheating? Don't put it off or he can slip farther away.

[dreamyxo]

He's grown and he's going to do what he's going to do.  You can't control or change another person even if you are married to them.  Accept this is who he is and how he chooses to live and do your own thing and do things that are going to make you happy or leave.