talking to ex's

[gesus]

Exs aren't nothing but trouble and playing with fire ready to get burnt how I see it is their a ex for a reason ....but some people can't comprehend that so they mess up the new relationship for their self gain thinking that something cuda happen with the ex ...again their a EX for a reason...good luck and if your man isn't fullfilling your wishes maybe you need to drop him

[angelchef80]

apparently you don't trust him. If he is only talking to her then so what. as long as it is just talking. its like when bf or gf go through each others phones, i don't get it. either you trust him or you don't. some people just have a connection whether it be romantically or just as friends. maybe they were no good together but as friends they work. unless you think that something is going on between them then i say let them talk. as long as they are just talking then who cares.

[thehater92]

i dont think so

[Lala2009]

have him choose you shouldnt have to be going through all of this.

[ronie_23]

I am not sure about this... I used to be really upset about it, we would argue and instead of stopping he would talk to his exe's behind my back, now I don't let it bother me anymore and I even talked to them myself.  As time went by he stop talking to them as much because whatever they would tell him now they tell me and I just relate the story to him.. Seems to me that you may have to take different approach if you want to stay with him.  Men are like children if they feel you are trying to take something from them they will fight you.  Instead try to be more sure of yourself, know that there is a reason why they are ex's and you are not.  There is nothing more appealing to a men, than a woman that doesn't let things like that bother her.  I know its hard ( I have been there, and it still bothers me) but it was more important for me for us to work out then to worry about the past.  Hope you understand what I am trying to say to you.

[kniskern]

For the relationships that ended on good terms, I keep in touch with that ex. I expect anyone I date to respect that relationship I keep with my ex's. I spent a lot of time with that person, they are my good friend. With trust in a relationship, talking to an ex is completely healthy. I used to be jealous about things like this. I used to feel like less of a girlfriend when my boyfriend would talk to other girls, or go to the bars, or receive text messages from friends that were girls. But it wasn't that he was flirting with them, or liked them in that way. But still I was jealous. I had to tell myself that at the end of the day it's me he wants to be with, and it's me he's spending time with. It took me a long time to get over jealousy. Some days I still battle it. But with trust and open communication, it's made my relationships so much better. If I feel like I need to be sneaky and look through a guy's phone to make sure he's not doing something behind my back, then I shouldn't be with that guy.

[deathangel24]

That would make me mad but I'm with my ex

[Storm61115]

How old are you guys?  You seem really young.  He's going to do what he's going to do.   Try as hard as you might but you can't change another person.  You've told him you are upset that he talks to his ex and he still does it.  Maybe he doesn't respect you or your relationship enough to want to stop.  He's getting something out of talking to the ex otherwise he wouldn't be doing it.  Screaming and fighting isn't getting you anywhere since he's still doing it. 

i cant dump him coz that would mean i would have to move and find somewhere else to live and i love him and we plan on gettin married

   I'd think twice about marrying someone that refuses to respect your feelings.  Playing tit for tat (you also talking to your ex) isn't very mature either. 

i only do it because he is talking to his ex, like i said. i have no reason to talk to my ex. he shouldnt have a reason to talk to his ex either ( this why she is an ex). if i talk to my ex around the same time i have nothing to fight with him about. so, there is no fights. i still dont understand why he would even want to talk to her -----EWWWWWW. I MEAN THAT TOO. people say he upgraded when he started dating me. i agree but i'm not going to brag about it.

[Storm61115]

HAVE HIM CHOOSE BETWEEN YOU AND HIS EX IF THEY DON'T HAVE KIDS TOGETHER THEY DON'T NEED TO TALK ABOUT ANYTHING

they dont have kids.. and he doesnt have kids without ne one ( THAT WE KNOW OF)

[Storm61115]

" i cant dump him coz that would mean i would have to move and find somewhere else to live"   I think your more worried about this than you are about anything else. If he is talking to his ex and your talking to your ex. Obviously you both want your ex's back. And this relationship your in now from what you say  isnt gonna get better with marriage

 no i dont want my ex back... he's how u say online petifile.. thats what i think of him as even though he didnt do nething illegal illegal.. the point is u cant have a 15 yr online gf when ur 18. i catch u cheating online and u dump me??? what is the deal? with a 15 yr old no less.. she might have been in georgia but who's to say he wasnt going to go see her???