Would you give your cheating spouse a second chance?

[dreamyxo]

No.  There is no way I would trust them again and there is no way I would ever want to have sex with them again.  Their cheating would always be in the back of my mind.

[bjohnson16]

Today if someone cheats it is not only about the trust issue but what if they bring something home with them.  So it is not about just trusting the person again it is that they don't care about you to protect you.  Trust is something you earn not something you are just given.  So to break that I don't know how you would repair that.  I think you would still be wondering everyday if you can turst them again.  So I know it would not work for me.  I have a family member that was married a couple of years ago and her husband told her he was leaving but later on called and told her that he had cheated on her.  It made her feel so bad about herself and then she also was worried about her health also. 

[sgluckadoo]

Wow, that is hard to answer. It would depend on the people involved, the situation, the relationship, etc. So many factors!

[Memory27]

If she slept with someone else, GTFO!
Mad kissing, GTFO!
Dirty dancing GTFO!
1 small kiss, we'll have to talk.

[irishlady1970]

Why would anyone want to be with someone who cheated on them? I don't get it. Once a cheater, always a cheater. There is no such thing as a one time event when it comes to cheating. If my husband cheated on me, he would be shown the door and there would be no second chances. I don't think I could ever get past the cheating aspect and I know I could never forgive it. I guess I'm old fashioned in the believe that marraige means one partner till death do us part.

[tammypete]

Nope!  It they do it once they will do it again!   Plus how could you ever trust them again?

[thetop31]

nope, Only I think he is cheating me,but I do not have proof. Even though, I have the proof, he is stronger. I am not able to kick him out! May till then I am the one who leave our bedroom!

[brendamyatt]

no i wouldn't because if they do it once they'll do it again...my mother went through that she took my dad back and he done it till he knocked someone up then left her for good....she was miserable

[mh874892]

No, I would not. I think after that happens, there is too much hurt and loss of trust for a good relationship to ever work. I am sure that some people could change, but overall that won't happen. I have a hard time forgiving with any situation, so this one is the absolute end for me.

[sommap]

If you haven't been in that situation, you may surprise yourself if it ever happens.  You never can be sure of what you would do. 

[jkhanson]

To be in that situation would hurt tremendously.  To have that happen from the man I trust, love and cherish would be devastating.

But I would not give him the automatic D word. 

I would go for a lot of talking and if necessary, counseling, first. 

 

[debrar]

I already did and sometimes I wish I had not. But that is that and now is now. 

[tigerlilly01]

NO!  That is why I have been divorced twice.  I can't stand a cheating, lying man.  Once a cheater always a cheater ..... until they just get too old or sick to cheat.  I am now married to a very faithful, honest man. 

[tzs]

I say you would have to look at yourself first, usually there is an issue between both of you that caused the cheating, and then go from there to figure out if its realy worth it to save the relationship.  Of course, both of you need to want this...

[lynnell20]

I would give my spouse a chance if he cheated not if he is cheating. Cheating is a process that goes on and on thats unacceptable.