Im not happy

[lparker5]

yes way to long but all easier said then done.....

[work778]

What a jerk.  Noone deserves to be treated that way.  Leave now and one day you will look back and realize what a great decision you made.  YOu are the only one who can control what you do.

[loulizlee]

Why are you still there?  I have seen countless times (in my family, too) where women MUST have a boyfriend, no matter how they are treated.  You don't need an abusive man to make yourself feel whole.

[HuffmanFamilyof4]

I have been very unhappy for the last 3 years.   I have an abusive boyfriend as to whom I dislike very much and he has turned me against him and when he starts his I give a piece of my mind, but here lately it's his daughter too.  I just want to take and whoop her little behind 11 years old in 5th grade and is very defiant all the time.  She has repeated 3 grade twice and failed, 4th grade she failed and 5th grade end of 1st semester and she is failing again.   I can't do anymore if her father doesn't step up and do what it right and make her do her homework and respect me and her teachers.  Who am I kidding he doesn't respect me so why would she? I don't know what to do anymore....Help me

the key here is boyfriend, not husband, you better get out, and as far away as you can, in the future its going to get worse, leave and dont look back, and if he tries to be nice dont go back, if its abuse, it'll only end bad put yofeelingsngs on the side and get away.

I have to agree with sara18. it won't get better if he promises it will if you take him back, if anything it'll get worse, A LOT WORSE. maybe even to the point of beating you up. when you post this kind of stuff in a forum you wind up with a lot of people supporting you, all your new friwouldn'tld'nt steer you into the wrong direction. The are just looking out for your well being now that you have us all worried. I was in your shoes 30 years ago only the roles were reversed it was  my wife the was very abuverballyrbaly. finally after I caught her in bed with someone I didn't know I decided to end it right then and there, then after 1 year after I left and got a divorce my best friend introduced me to who is now my wife 1988 and this coJune june it will be our 25th anniversary. so my point is, there is that one person that is suited for everyone. Good luck, and best wishes

[mrisha]

Why are you taking abuse from your boyfriend or his daughter.  Are you a masochist or something?  You don't need the drama and you deserve better.  I say get out now while you can.  It's not going to get better, it's going to get worse.

[Lindaroof]

You must learn to RESPECT yourself and get the heck out of that situation, no one will be able to respect you if you don't know how to respect yourself. Once you have learned to do so, you will awaken to a whole new world for yourself! Be strong, get some help if you can, but just do it!! Life is too short to remain unhappy.

[bobes915]

I know (at least academically) that it is often difficult to leave an abusive relationship.  That being said, I agree with many of the other people posting here, if your boyfriend is abusive, you MUST get out now. 

[lackeyk]

Every thing should be fine for you. it's a romantic entanglement that takes a turn into this dangerous territory, You can attempt to show your partner how damaging these behaviors are and how they are affecting you, and hope your partner will agree that you are being badly damaged. You can hope your partner will then make the decision to change. However, ultimately, you cannot force change. Realize that the abusiveness in your partner is rooted in multiple layers of their emotions and perspectives. Trying to change them through arguing or persuasion translates to them as the complete denial and devaluation of their experiences and realities. He will feel an immediate instinct to protect the intricacies of their own thought patterns and push your logic away in the process. Remember that you cannot argue logically with an unreasonable person. Also remember that abusive behavior is only a manifestation of abusive thought patterns. The only thing that can change a him thought patterns is the introduction of a different set of them created by a deeply impacting set of healthy new experiences. Afterwards, your partner will recognize the old patters and gladly decide to end the behavior on his or her own. Just remember after he decide to end the behavior he will then help your daughter get on track in school. The only reason she is failing grades is because the behavior your partner is showing she picks that up. Good Luck!