What do you think of people who don't want kids?

[jkhanson]

I think it is up to each couple if they want to or do not want to have children.   I have two nieces who have chosen not to have kids.  It is a personal choice and not one that other people should have a voice in. 

[santa7]

It depends.  they have their reasons.

[santa7]

If I knew what my kids were going to suffer, I would have never had them because no one imagines sufferings and abuse when they have their children that they love.'

[santa7]

brian8713.  I read your reply and this is why I don't blame people for not wanting children.  It could be a horrible world for them.  I love my kids and grandkids but I hated seeing them suffer.

[plennis]

I have been involved with child services as a law enforcement officer, there are a lo of children who go through hell because someone has them that did not want them or who is indifferent.  I respect the person who knows that they do not want or do not want to be bothered with children.  Everyone is better off, especially the unwanted, abused and neglected children.  If you have an unwanted child, have the strength to give it up to someone who really wants children!

[nannycoe1]

If you don't want them you should not have them. It is a personal choice

[sak4kat]

I always wanted children.  I had 4.  3 born and raised.  I love my kids.  I love being a Mom.  2 of my kids are grown.  My Mom had me when she was 41.  I'm bout' that age.  I wouldn't want to have a baby now.  For those that don't want children I think it's good they recognize that and accept it rather giving in to satisfy another's dream of being a parent.   We need parents and we need people who don't want to be parents in this world. 

[UGetPaid]

I think it is up to each couple if they want to or do not want to have children.   I have two nieces who have chosen not to have kids.  It is a personal choice and not one that other people should have a voice in.

I think jkhanson has given the best reply to this question for the part that I highlighted.  Everyone has to make their own decision, but it also has to be a mutual decision with your spouse.  If one spouse wants children and the other one does not, then they do not belong married to each other!!!  I think that was one of the issues the OP mentioned.


Kids aren't optional when you have one spouse who wants them and another who does not because there will always be the chance of resentment from the one who doesn't get their way.  It's not like the decision to get this or that car, or to paint the room this or that color...


In my case, my wife had a daughter from a previous relationship when we started dating. We got married a little later in the child-bearing age spectrum (she was 39 and I was 34). She was "open" to having another child and I would have been okay without a biological child, but that didn't stop me from wanting one.


I was blessed with a second daughter (even though I never officially adopted the first, I still helped to raise her and she calls me Dad) and couldn't be happier.  My 'then girlfriend' could have said "No. I don't want to have any more children." and she could have justified that choice from a health standpoint. I am thankful that she didn't and that she let it be our choice to try to have another child.

[Kiraleen]

I don't see anything wrong with not wanting kids. The human race will keep on truckin'.

[catchow]

I dont have kids, or ever wanted any, only for the fact Im selfish, and I dont think I would be a good parent, at least I figured this out ahead of time. Its so sad to hear about parents that do harm to their children because they never wanted them

[didiinvent]

I think that it is a personal choice and really is no one else's business.

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[Mizzkizz7]

Nothing wrong with not wanting kids, but when you get old who will take care of you?

[vickysue]

I se nothing wrong with it. if they don't want them that is fine as long as they don't use abortion to keep from having them. there are other ways. Me on the other hand want a houseful of the little rug rats. But after having 2 boys and then losing 3 little girls I was not able to have any more if I wanted to live. But I  still thank the Lord for allowing me to have them for a while before he called them home.

[bigfoot951]

I believe that this world needs all types and I do respect other's opinions and point of views.  With all due respect though, I think it would be fair to call your thoughts here as selfish, but that's not necessarily the word I would use.  Some of the reasons honestly sound like excuses.  Strain on a marriage for example.  Seems like an excuse more than a reason.  After all you did refer to your ex husband.  Anything that can be a strain on a marriage can also strengthen a marriage.  I have a friend who use to say something similar to something you said.  He didn't want to have kids because he liked spending money on himself.  I told him I felt sure he may look at it differently if he did have a kid.  After his son was born he completely changed and we laughed about what I had told him before.  I am not saying that everyone who doesn't want kids changes the way they look at it after they have kids.  But I do feel there is a strong possibility that you would.  For the record, I have never been married and I don't have any kids. 

[shasha2210]

they feel that they need more space and continue their carrer