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Title: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: blondie71 on June 07, 2012, 03:20:12 pm
Been depressed and my husband not very understanding. I really don't have anyone to talk to I tried seen those doctors for it and medications and it seems like nothing works.  So I thought I would write all you.  I read a lot of everyones posts and some of you are very encouraging  I try not to get into the battles that are on here sometimes because I am depressed enough.
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: marcee30 on June 07, 2012, 03:37:48 pm
Dear fellow Fusion Cash member, I too know how it feels to be depressed. I have struggle with issues that I don't have any control over. I have putting my faith in God and not in man and it has seemed to work for me. If you ever need to talk or just fell like venting I am only a few keys away. I enjoy meeting new people and talking to them, and would welcome any conversation you are willing to have with me.

Sincerely

Marcee
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: ptfunds on June 07, 2012, 03:43:23 pm
Hello blondie71: Just wanted to give you some encouraging words.  I've been having a tough time lately and am not feeling great myself. What I am finding is getting me through each day is to have faith that things will get better. Even if it is identifying one thing I can change - it helps.  The rest I just give over to a power greater than myself and ask for help.  I hope your low days pass soon!
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: Cuppycake on June 07, 2012, 05:32:46 pm
You might just need to change up your daily routine a bit to get you out of that funk. Maybe go for a walk or just put some happy music on. I don't know what has you feeling down but these things can help a bit.
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: ninajay on June 07, 2012, 06:25:22 pm
I understand. I've felt depressed lately, but refuse to take any medication...afraid I would get those side effects. I've actually done what Cuppycake suggested..change up my routine.  The beach is 10 minutes away, so I just walk on the beach and get some fresh air. Sometimes I just sit at a coffee shop and read a magazine. I think the worst thing you can do is sit at home around negativity and worry about things you can't change.  Getting out may actually inspire you :)
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: Cuppycake on June 07, 2012, 06:51:48 pm
I understand. I've felt depressed lately, but refuse to take any medication...afraid I would get those side effects. I've actually done what Cuppycake suggested..change up my routine.  The beach is 10 minutes away, so I just walk on the beach and get some fresh air. Sometimes I just sit at a coffee shop and read a magazine. I think the worst thing you can do is sit at home around negativity and worry about things you can't change.  Getting out may actually inspire you :)

I use the same things as well as doing for others as a way to keep my spirits up. Having Lupus can really get me down at times but I don't let it keep me down.
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: tashamjoy on June 07, 2012, 10:56:58 pm
I am sorry I do know how you feel but u just gotta try to avoid things that make u feel that way and think positive i know it sounds cleishea but u just have to because i realized i spent do much time being sad on what i cant change just try to take joy wherever u can in this world and try to block out all that doesnt
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: mstevenson2 on June 07, 2012, 11:08:52 pm
i know how you feel i waited for this guy for 2 years he has been here a week and i found out he recentitley joined dateing sights ive been doing all i can to make him happy so i understand depressed
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: mrisha on June 08, 2012, 07:33:37 am
Blondie71, I do empathize with you.  I suffer from depression, panic and anxiety attacks.  Some days are better than others.  I just put my faith in the Lord and give it all to Jesus Christ because for the most part its a heavy load to carry on my shoulders.  Just take it one day at a time, do something that makes you happy.
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: Azanne07 on June 08, 2012, 09:17:17 am
medications have never worked for me either. Its mainly trying to push through the depression day in and day out. most days
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: angsilva2000 on June 08, 2012, 12:23:23 pm
ive been depressed too, i have some medical prob and doc dont know whats causing my problem so im on beta blockers,an i still have no job, things will get better for us
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: tantricia44 on June 08, 2012, 02:45:16 pm
Hey,blondie71 I'm just coming out of my depression frm half of May,I've been hiding in my batcave only stirring when my cats need feeding!I've notice bc I've tracked my depression & it's worse during the monthly cycles.There's a chemical imbalance in my brain+hormonal chemical imbalance;It's like an atomic bomb exploding through all my senses.Only thing 2do is 2shutdown completely 4a while.I'm taking medication;it helps a lot but during the monthly cycle,I'm instructed to take double the amount.I don't understand why
your partner can't understand what you're going through.My husband (RIP2009)could always tell when I've stopped taking my meds.He told me my personality changes which I don't understand b/c I feel the same. I've been this way since my late teens I went through all types of depression meds until I found what work w/little to no side affects.My 1st depression drug was prozaic,I felt like I was on my period 24/7;I wanted to climb the walls!Depression runs in my family,nothing 2be ashamed of just a chemical imbalance in your brain.Suggestions that may help you. 1. You need your husband's support whether he understands or not what you're going through.He's your partner in life & should at least stretch his arms out to catch you when you fall.2. See a therapist to help both of you get on the same page.3. Start tracking you moods, when are you happy,angry,sad,frustrated.....4. During your time of depression keep a diary of your feelings daily.5. Check w/your Dr. not for depression but for other possible health problems that may have triggered the depression.6.Check your family history in this area.7.check w/other health professionals,a nutritist may find that you're lacking in some important vitamins or minerals that w/o enough of them in your system, breakdown of chemicals in your brain maybe the cause of this depression.8. Go join site that supports depressed people. You may find good friends esp. those who literally know your true pain Anyway, I hope this helped you. Don't give up hope! :thumbsup:  :wave: :peace:
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: shepherdchik on June 11, 2012, 06:02:33 am
It can be hard I know, I've been there. I try to just step back and look for positives in my life, even though it is not easy to do when you feel that way. My family tries to help too and sometimes they understand and sometimes it's better to be alone. My boyfriend has been through a lot dealing with it too so we try to support each other but it's hard some days to get through to one another. Take time for yourself. take deep breaths to relax if you're upset. Go for a walk and get fresh air and that can clear your mind sometimes. I think keeping your mind active and life busy it makes the days so by faster and easier. I hope this helps. i try to do these things too.
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: mildreddavis1 on June 11, 2012, 06:21:02 am
Been depressed and my husband not very understanding. I really don't have anyone to talk to I tried seen those doctors for it and medications and it seems like nothing works.  So I thought I would write all you.  I read a lot of everyones posts and some of you are very encouraging  I try not to get into the battles that are on here sometimes because I am depressed enough.

I am a female that has felt very lonely in a crowded room even I was married I felt alone but I had to realize that I GIVE too much to others and not enough for myself. I figured out that I need to find out what makes me happy then I was able to lift my spirits. I found out that I do not like large crowds and prefer a quiet movie night at home vs going to the movies.

If you need someone to talk to send me a message and we can exchange emails and maybe phone numbers if you feel comfortable. :angel12:
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: bretay on June 11, 2012, 06:23:52 am
Hey that's we are here for.We are all friends.Feel free to vent anytime.
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: vmcutshall on June 11, 2012, 07:42:43 am
I feel depressed in the summer months because I can't get out in the sun the way I use to. I have had skin cancer and can't afford to go out unless it is in long sleeves and a big rimmed hat. I just stay busy and go out in the evenings when the sun isn't so bright. I have tried medicine but thankfully I don't need it any more. I just stay busy running a home based business and staying in touch with all the fushion cash buddies.
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: joyroos18 on June 11, 2012, 10:26:00 am
it is hard not to get depressed now , with money, family, jobs, things falling apart. always seems to be something getting in the way of just plain relaxing, do you have a pet ? sometimes just spending time with a pet , that listens and doesnt try to actually tell you what you are doing wrong will help. going for a longggggg walk, or drive, leaving nonunderstanding hubby at home of course.
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: bbazemore on June 11, 2012, 08:53:07 pm
Honey who hasn't BEEN THERE & DONE THAT. I find it easy for me to release alot of tension by READING THE BIBLE. I began with Pslams 1 ( Happiness of the Godly; Misery of the Wicked) and continue to Pslams 150
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: pattersondebra on June 11, 2012, 08:57:42 pm
I am sorry. I am the mother, the shrink, the peace keeper, and the reliable one for all the coworkers. Sometimes it would be nice to get it back.
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: lorettahknox on June 12, 2012, 03:06:21 am
I hope that you can find joy in your life and that your cycle of depression ends. It's so heartbreaking to go through that. I wish I could give you a beautiful flower everyday so for at least a moment you wouldn't feel that sorrow. I 've known what it feels like and it hurt's a lot. I hope that soon you will find that thing that pulls you out of it. Many blessings to you. :angel11:
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: cateyes1 on June 12, 2012, 03:23:14 am
Hi Blondie, omg I have been down myself for 1 reason or another, I would so love to chat with some of you 1 on 1 but I dont think there is a way privately on here...if there is please let me know..and Blondie i'm here for you too!!
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: brenspencer on June 12, 2012, 04:03:05 am
Hey Blondie,
     Life sucks sometimes...I let the way my life goes effect me tooo much I have suffered from depression and all that for yrs and when you don't have the money to get help it makes it worse I used to see a shrink all the time and it helped just having someone who has gone through what you go through helps too because they know the feeling. My depression got so bad that i used to take meds to end the misery I don't keep any pills any more due to the impact of my last bout of depression did on my kids. I have not figured out how to end it and spend lots of time crying and wishing it would end but i make it through each day so i know what u and others are going through
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: cateyes1 on June 12, 2012, 04:12:49 am
Hey Blondie,
     Life sucks sometimes...I let the way my life goes effect me tooo much I have suffered from depression and all that for yrs and when you don't have the money to get help it makes it worse I used to see a shrink all the time and it helped just having someone who has gone through what you go through helps too because they know the feeling. My depression got so bad that i used to take meds to end the misery I don't keep any pills any more due to the impact of my last bout of depression did on my kids. I have not figured out how to end it and spend lots of time crying and wishing it would end but i make it through each day so i know what u and others are going through


Awww Bren, believe me some days I just want to end it all, but I know that's not the solution....but I cant stand when I get that way and sometimes it's sooo hard to snap out oit...we will ALL get through it...I hope!!
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: LovelyxOdd on June 12, 2012, 05:43:13 am
I am very sorry to hear that you are struggling with this. I, too, have depression and even anxiety really bad. I am on disability for it. My husband doesn't understand, but he is very supportive and tries his best to help and be patient. But there is always hope in feeling better at times. I'm surprised to hear you say that the doctor and medication doesn't help much though. I usually do a little better when I am in therapy and taking medicine. Maybe they can try a different medication and see if it can't take the edge off.

Either way, there are many people here for you to listen and support and encourage you. I know it's not quite the same as having a friend in person, but you are a valuable soul in this life and if we can brighten your day, we will!  :heart:
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: Cuppycake on June 12, 2012, 07:54:48 am
I am wondering why the person that started the topic never came back to it.
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: cateyes1 on June 12, 2012, 08:08:28 am
I am wondering why the person that started the topic never came back to it.


Hmm good question, I dont mean to be rude but they couldnt have wanted to talk that bad  :dontknow:
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: Cuppycake on June 12, 2012, 08:11:44 am
I am wondering why the person that started the topic never came back to it.


Hmm good question, I dont mean to be rude but they couldnt have wanted to talk that bad  :dontknow:
I was actually kind of concerned to be honest.
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: cateyes1 on June 12, 2012, 08:17:53 am
I am wondering why the person that started the topic never came back to it.


Hmm good question, I dont mean to be rude but they couldnt have wanted to talk that bad  :dontknow:
I was actually kind of concerned to be honest.


I'm hoping she's ok, maybe she is now..it would be nice if able, she lets us know....I hate to know anyone is suffering :(
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: pvs_19857 on June 12, 2012, 08:32:05 am
Go for a long vacation in some good calm natural place.. Go to famous state park in Colorado.. or to Alaska
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: am28slone on June 12, 2012, 08:47:50 am
I lnow exactly what you mean. It seems like the biggest majority of the time I feel depressed and sometimes for no reason at all. Life has had alot of tough times for all of us. However, the thing that has helped me, is having a great friend to confide in, who really listens and encourages me. The other thing that helps me is my relationship to my Heavenly Father. Sometimes, I find singing or writing out my feelings is also helpful. Sorry you are feeling so blah, but there are brighter days ahead.
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: blondie71 on June 12, 2012, 10:55:26 am
I want to thank everyone for responding.  I didn't relize how many people go through this.  My doctor has me on depression meds and anxiety meds, I don't take them like I am supose to and the cousoler thing didn't work.  I used to spend all day in my bedroom now I have moved out to the livingroom for part of the day.  I been told I need to leave my house other than going to the doctors or getting groceries.  I am like no money for gas even if I just go to the park I am 12 miles outside of town and I can not walk that far.
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: MEBecker53 on June 12, 2012, 11:08:40 am
Try to take just one small step.  You do need to get out.  If this has been going on for a while you will need to be very brave and believe in yourself.  Find others who have been thru what you are going thru to find guidence and inspiration.  Good luck.  Post again.
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: LenoraMinogue on June 12, 2012, 11:10:11 am
Depression can be difficult to deal with. Just remember, you are not alone. I'm not sure what exactly is troubling you, but if you can't reach out to a friend, perhaps a counselor might help. Also, changing up your routine, planning some activities that make you happy, or being around people who make you smile can also relieve depression. I wish you the best of luck. It's hard to get out of a depressing slump sometimes.
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: nickylanena on June 12, 2012, 02:47:49 pm
If you ever need to talk, just post what's been upsetting you. I'm sure there are many of us who would like to give advice and hear what you have to say. I recommend that you listen to happy songs to help cheer you up!  ;D
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: momoney555 on June 12, 2012, 05:23:22 pm
I feel so sorry for anyone who suffers fom depression.  I have never really felt depressed for any length of time although I have been through my share of depressing situations. I always tend to focus on those things in my life I can feel good about and not dwell on those things that make me feel bad.  One saying that has always gotten me out of the "dumps" is,  "I wept because I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet".  One thing you can always be certain of is that there is ALWAYS someone, somewhere who is worse off than you are.
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: hodown45 on June 13, 2012, 02:30:53 pm
i hope things get better. There are times in our lives where we hit a bump, but we have to keep moving forward. Stay strong! :D
Title: Re: Been Depressed just need to talk
Post by: Ttawnie on June 13, 2012, 04:25:11 pm
Sorry for your sadness, I suffer from it as do many members of my family and some on medication. I also refuse to take the medications , I just don't like the way they make me feel. Days can be really down and hard to pick yourself back up and definitely talking to someone helps alot, a good outlet. I tried to change my mindset when in a slump, if I can and think of all the good I have, kids, family, the beautiful sunshine and sometimes just getting out and taking a walk can help perk me up some. Life in general can be a bummer and emotions can take over, good and bad days, they are days and we are all still alive. Greatfull for listening ears and people who do care. Hang in there, chin up , brighter days are always ahead. :wave: