spanking vs. time out

[chrissyd1509]

I believe that you should try time outs first. if that doesn't work then a smack on the butt or hand. I have a 2 yr old niece that is spoiled rotten. She thinks she can do what ever when ever. but when I'm watching her or around she listens most the time cause she knows I will spank her butt or give her a time out. I love her to death but she needs to learn right from wrong and her parents wont teach her so I do. I try telling her no first or not to do something and if she doesn't listen then I try the time out. She throws a fit at first but after about 5 min shes fine. Then when she gets up if she does the same thing or something else after being told not to do it I spank her on the butt. That works most of the time. I do not believe in beating children. I have been through that and WOULD NEVER EVER in my life put a child through what I've been through. It doesn't help anything. Only makes matters worse

[girlswin2]

I think that there is difference in a spanking and a beating.  Spankings are sometimes necessary to get attention and realize that
what they are doing is not going to get it.  Its a lot better that halloring and screaming at them that causes more harm.  Once the spanking is finished its over and once tears are gone its  usually better.    

[paintballhound]

I think that a good healthy combination of both is really the best way to go depending on what the child did. If I put my daughter in a time out for something horrible than she would just shrug it off like I'm mad at her and not realize that what she did was wrong but it I smacked her on the butt she would realize that I was serious and that she really messed up. I think time outs teach the child that you are angry with them and not that they really did something wrong whereas a spanking is reserved for not when you are angry but when you need them to understand. If you use just one or the other then they grow to either accept that it should be the only form of punishment or resent the fact that it is being done.

For most people that got spanked as a child and never had a time out, they almost always go to the extreme side of things. Either completely for it or completely against it, and the same goes for people who only had time outs.

[Tonaybelle]

I use time out but my husband tends to give our lil girl a tiny pop on the diaper ( and only when she is doing something dangerous.) I think the time out way takes more patients but works best in the long run. I hate to to see children being hit..

[surveydad]

I use time out but my husband tends to give our lil girl a tiny pop on the diaper ( and only when she is doing something dangerous.) I think the time out way takes more patients but works best in the long run. I hate to to see children being hit..

I agree, You need patients to do Time Outs.  My parents used to hit me and my (6) brothers and sisters with what ever was at arms reach and it just made me afraid of my dad and I did not want my kids to feel that way about me.

however I do feel that a little spank on the hand or butt to get your major point across is effective

[mommagoes]

my parents never spanked me, i was just forced to stand in the corner when i got in trouble. but that didn't really work because i usually ended up in the corner the next day, too.
i know my husband's dad used to spank, and that must have worked because if he got spanked for seomthing he wouldn't do it again.
with our kids, the sound of my voice is usually enough. if my 9 year old son is misbehaving all i have to say "do it again and no call of duty" and he stops immediately. my daughter is almost 2 so its a little bit harder with her so if she is getting into something she's not suppoed to i just call her and if she doesn't come to me i say i'm going to play with her elmo can she comes running.
this works for now so  while i can't say i will never spank, i know i will not spank while this still works.

[tjshorty]

depends on the situation.  sometimes they need a pop quiz

[donbond13]

I think it depends also. Timeouts always seemed to make a bigger impression on me because my parents never spanked me very hard, which made me take the punishment less seriously.

[Rexyrexerton]

Spanking is for when they do something really bad and time-outs are for the less extreme.

[hensleyll]

time outs if handled properly are the best ,how do you teach them it is not ok to hit if you hit them,spanking very last resort only when they are indangering theirselves or someone else

[moonangel]

lol i always had a happy chair for my kids.  when they were bad they had to sit on it untill momma was happy.  Never more than 5 to 10 minutes.

[littlemissjbird]

Depends on the offense, age, and attitude of a child.
Some kids get spanked and laugh. And some kids are perfectly entertained staring at a wall.

[noelea]

 I think it depends on the child and what the child has done. I mean don't go all mommy dearest on them.  but i believe in both. it also depends on the parent. can you live with your self. befor you spank think about what you are about to do. alot of times time out or taking something away realy does work. and when you choose whatever you choose stick to your guns don't let them see you sweat.

[2briding]

I prefer a time out when ever possible although I do believe that more serious behavior requires a more serious punishment.  So I spank and I use time outs and take things away.  A goos example is my son he hates to be alone and away from mommy so he gets a time out in the other room if you spank him he laughs.  My daughter enjoys being alone and on time out where she doesn't get bothered i make her help her little brother do something nice because it drives her nuts and if it is the sort of infringement that could cause bodily they will most likely get a spanking and timeout.

[acurtsinger2]

Depends on if the kid knows how to use the phone.  Kids have way to many rights now.  If i had rights as kid my parents would be up  for parole right about now.   

LOL... my dad would be in jail for life/ his wife would have gotten the dead penalty....lol... I have a 7years old tht drives me nuts but i would rather take his games, make him stnd in a corner, send him to bed without diner or something like tht rather than putting my hands on hom I love him way too much to hurt him  

I do not beleive that corporal punishment does any good but to teach a child that it's ok to resolve issues with violence.   I would rather give my kids the cold shoulder, tell them I'm disappointed then to strike them and they turned out just fine.