Friends w/ your EX-HUSBAND OR EXBF?

[ashamkhi]

Should you stay friends with your ex partner? Having children should make the exception? What do you think?

I personally say NO! Can't and won't do it...

[angie828]

I do not have an ex but my fiancee does and he is not friends with her.  I would not allow it because she is so mean to him.  They just do not see eye to eye and yet she still likes to think she has power over him.

[syntheticbeauty]

I think it depends on how everything failed... For example my husbands mom and dad still speak perfectly. I think you can even consider them best friends.
They divorced mutually because they felt that it was wrong to just stay married for the kids.
They fell out of love on both sides and they drug along with their days as if they were just roommates.
10 years has passed since they decided to divorce and they are both very close.
Both are remarried and have separate lives, they don't see each other alone or do anything to make the others spouse feel uncomfortable.
What they do is if the other needs help in anyway they provide support as one big family. It was weird for me to watch at first, but I have grown to understand it.

They were friends since they were 8 years old and the got married really young. They mistook their love and care for each other as a romantic kind and with the pressure of parents pushing it upon them they got married. It failed after 20 years, it was sad but they realized they weren't really happy together. I admire their choice and like that for 10 years now they have had no issues with being friends still.

[briannajeanxo]

if you have kids together, then i can see why. my parents hated each other for so long after their divorce, but now they stay friends for us even though we've all grown up. i still say they love eachother though. =(

if there are no kids together,  i dont see why they would. i think itd be painful to watch them when they love someone else.

[anguyen21]

I don't see why not.  They broke up for a reason and breaking up usually entitles not wanting to be together.  The fact that the current partner doesn't like them being friends just means that there are some insecurities in the relationship that need to be dealt with.  Also, for the guy or gal to be friends with their previous partner is the best way to test his love.  Will he stay devoted or will he go back into the arms of his former lover?

[wischmeyersn]

Personally I think it depends on the situation. I wouldn't say that my exbf and I are good friends, but we are civil to eachother when we are around eachother. we still talk every now and then, but usually it's only for business purposes. my bf now is friends with several of his ex's and it really doesn't bother me. I also think that if there are kids involved that the people should at least be civil to eachother. it's not the kids fault that the relationship didn't work out.

[bigfoot951]

Generally i feel its a no.  I have turned more women than i care to remember because they were ex girlfriends of my friends.  I do think it's a no but a siuation could come up where its ok.

[alexisjanel]

I agree, it depends on how it ended. Also, if you are able to still be friends with this person.

[Azanne07]

we arent very close but i did stay friends with one of my ex-boyfriends.

[Tresbn00]

I moved out of the state that all of my ex's lived in.  There were only two that I would keep in contact with...my first went a wacky direction in religion but I still love her and my 2nd stopped talking to me after 7 years of dating (never consummated the relationship) and she was like a best friend. I opened a facebook account to see what they looked like 20 years later but they hadn't opened accounts.  The state, and generation, I came from wasn't very tecnologically saavy.