Good friends or bad ones?

[ashamkhi]

Friends that only call you up when they need something or are in a jam.... Should you still be in this friendship or should you end it?

[JessieKateRose]

If you can get them to help you when you need it and that can be a mutual thing, why not? But if you don't like it, you don't have to bother.

[ninajay]

I have a friend like that and I don't have much of a problem with it because it doesn't happen too often and I don't mind helping if I can.  I just don't go out of my way to do it. If you only talk when she needs your help, she's probably not much of a friend anyways... just keep your distance if it bothers you. 

[prillycake]

I guess it depends on your history. Have you been friends since you were kids?  Did they just start acting like this or always have? Personally I think theres always one person in the friendship who cares more than the other. I have a friend who I feel that I only call when I need something. She calls me more than I call her. It doesn't mean I don't appreciate her but we are both busy with work and school and she has 2 kids now. I remember the important times when I was there for her and vice versa and I think thats what keeps the friendship together, we are there for eachother when it counts. Another friend of mine I love her to death but she is with an abusive boyfriend. I am like her big sister and need to check on her and help. I call her more than she calls me. So you would really have to explain the situations.

[lolumadd]

It really does depend on the situation or the person. In my opinion, I wouldn't really want a friend that always asks me for things. Although, if he is a nice person, and the things he/she is asking for isn't difficult such as: He/she forgot his books at school and he needs to borrow yours. But if it is a different story such as: He/she needs you to pick him up because he got caught by the police for drinking underage. That would be a different story. All in all, If you like the person, then you like him! Its your decision!

[ladydi770]

Friends that only call you up when they need something or are in a jam.... Should you still be in this friendship or should you end it?

FROM MY POINT OF VIEW AND EXPERIENCE YOU CAN DO BAD BY YOURSELF AND YOU SURELY DON'T NEED THOSE KIND OF FRIENDS! DITCH THEM WHILE YOU CAN!

[wbarth]

I have this case before, friend of mine that used to called only when she needs something.... in my case, I could never said NO... I always helped her... sometimes I was a little upset because I was thinking she was taking advantage of me... but at the end, she helped me in something very important, so now we are much closer friends.... and the good part was that she recognized how much I helped her before... happy ending! 

[luvh8tragedy87]

Do you hang out together or do they get in touch just because they need something? If you do things together then I think it's ok but if they're just calling you 'cause they want/need something then it's not.

[syntheticbeauty]

I have a lot of people I call friends... But honestly I think I have maybe 2 who would really go out of their way for me and me for them.
The rest aren't bad friends just not as close. I think I only have 3 bad friends...

[MessiahMews]

We have that happen sometimes, but it's mostly family members that call up only when they want something.   

[jcribb16]

We have that happen sometimes, but it's mostly family members that call up only when they want something.   

Bingo!  You just said something that is true!!

[ashamkhi]

THANKS EVERYBODY.. YOUR COMMENTS HELPED ALOT.

[Elizabethar]

I try to help if I can, most of the time it's family that I have not talk or seen for a long time . I always heard 2 wrong don't make a right.

[madeara]

That is a tough question.  In my opinion, it depends on who the friend is and what the circumstances are.

[NavyChic85]

End it. They obviously don't care about you enough to call to just say hi or hang out. People that only call when they have a problem aren't good friends.