My new blog

[yellahammer09]

I am currently attending school online at Ashford University. In September, I will have completed my Masters in education/educational technology leadership. I will walk across the stage in October and I am so excited. It has been a long road and I have worked very hard to get this far. I have 2 1/2 classes left and I cant wait!

[golotomer]

I am currently attending school online at Ashford University. In September, I will have completed my Masters in education/educational technology leadership. I will walk across the stage in October and I am so excited. It has been a long road and I have worked very hard to get this far. I have 2 1/2 classes left and I cant wait!

Good for you yellahammer09.  You should be proud and excited.  Good luck in the future!

[jcribb16]

I am currently attending school online at Ashford University. In September, I will have completed my Masters in education/educational technology leadership. I will walk across the stage in October and I am so excited. It has been a long road and I have worked very hard to get this far. I have 2 1/2 classes left and I cant wait!

That is excellent!!  I'm proud for you!  It's definitely not easy getting there and wish the best for you in your new endeavor after you complete those last 2 1/2 classes! 

[jcribb16]

Hi Kim,

You mentioned the baby being there.  Are you both having the company for awhile?  That would definitely be different with the quiet time, lol. 

Not much here today.  I'm trying to get this written and posted, along with the paid stuff before the electricity goes out again.  We've got new fires in neighboring counties that are spreading.  The smoke is horrific now.  We had a bad electrical storm in the wee hours this morning with hardly any rain but major winds which has increased the smoke levels here.  There are several fires in north FL, too, and it is bad between down there and up here.

They have evacuated a couple of counties at this point (one town is only about 18 miles away from us.)  So right now, all eyes are kind of on what's going on. I'll try to get on later.  The electricity has gone off twice (during the storm) and then today as well.  Talk to you soon.

Julie 

[golotomer]

Sorry to hear about the fires.  That can't be helping your breathing. I wish I could send you some of the rain we are having. 

To explain the baby in the house...Bob's step-daughter has left her husband and moved in with us.  I'm glad we can help her but things have changed in our daily living arrangement drastically.  There isn't the amount of quiet and solitude we used to have and I'm being asked to babysit far more than I was/am willing to do.  With the "other" situation we have going on here, which is not known to any family members on his side, it is difficult to discuss our feelings or what is occurring with counseling.  I love the little girl and have had no quarrels with the mother but there are behavior factors that are a little overwhelming and other living courtesies that I don't feel are being met.  For instance, I can no longer keep any of my personal toiletry items in the bathroom because their personal items have overtaken mine and every day items, such as hair brushes, combs and toothbrushes are no longer being found in their rightful spot so that I've found it necessary to pack an overnight bag with what I need so I can get ready for school in the mornings.  I'm not talking moved to the living room or kitchen...I mean in their room where I can hardly barge in at 6 in the morning to retrieve.  My choleas, flowers and other garden plants are being stripped of their blossom and leaves because the child is not corrected.  When I tell her, nicely, not to do that (or other things) I'm the culprit and she is very verbal and backtalks to me. 

Details, details...I've basically made myself become invisible and have merely adapted to the situation by taking care of my needs in whatever way I'm able without being confrontational.  I realize there are always adjustments to be made when two families come together but with everything else going on in my life with school, the counseling, etc and the fact that this isn't my house and he and I are not married and this is not only not my step-child but his....I'm feeling way overwhelmed.     I'm trying my best to conform but somehow I feel as though I'm giving more than what I'm receiving and that will only lead to resentment in the end. 

Enough of me and my waa, waa, wass. off to study. 

[jcribb16]

Kim,

After I sent my last post, the electricity, did indeed, go out again.  It's just come back on but not sure for how long.  We also have a major electrical storm coming in so I think we're going to have to shut the computers down in a few.

I'm sorry you are having to go through this interruption and distraction right now.  I really do feel for you and understand, to a point, of what you are dealing with.  I hope some changes are made to ease the discomfort or it's really going to mess up what you and Bob have tried lately to do.  I hate hearing about your poor flowers after the effort you've put into them.

As of last night, we are going through a similar situation with our dtr-in-law.  Our son is due back from deployment in Nov. and he and I are supposed to discuss me signing the deed (of my mom's house, since she died) over to them with he and I together.  Since he left, she and her mom have been "bullying" me into going ahead and signing it over to her now.  I won't do it.  She got mad at that.  Then she and her mom went behind my back and tried to have the homeowner's insurance changed to her name but since I'm the executor of the estate (and the agent is a long time family friend) they wouldn't do it.  She found out that my daughter's name is on the insurance with mine.   I told her it was for 2 years ago when she was living there for a period of time so it wouldn't be left empty.  I also told her I would add her and my son's name to the insurance and to let me know.  Instead she and her mom went behind my back.  So now she deleted all of us off of FB - she knows it will hurt me because that's how I keep up with my granddaughters, including their pictures.  

I sent her a private message letting her know that if she doesn't want to work with me until our son gets back (as per their agreement when he left) that maybe he and I should discuss other options about the house.  She informed me that my mom's dining room furniture was hers now, not mine since they are going to buy the house.  I had told her that we were coming to pick up that and some other things to bring up here since I had let the previous renters use them while renting.  She's given some other things of my daughter's to her mom and denies they were ever there.  My son told his sister that the boxes could stay on one side of the garage until either he gets back or we get down there to get them.  When I went the other day, she wasn't there and the boxes are gone.  I passed by her mom's house - their garage is always open and guess what's all out on there half opened and sitting out?

Her mom, years ago, tried to get my son and my hubby both fired from their jobs,  It didn't work.  She threatened me and told me to watch my back if I'm ever alone in public and she sees me.  Our dtr-in-law had restraining orders against both parents and was living with us at that time when our son was on a different deployment.  That's when our first granddaughter was born.  We protected her and did a lot for her during that time and now this.  I'm at a loss right now about what exactly to do. We always get the girls for 3 weeks during the summer and I have an uneasy feeling she won't let them now because of all of this going on.  I don't want my son being burdened with this while he is out and dealing with his own problems during this unstable time over there where he's at.  I will be glad when he's back - he'll also be on shore duty for 3 years.  I'm thankful for that.

So, in return, thanks for letting me also give my waa, waaas, too.  You're in my heart thoughts and my prayers, Kim.  Hang in there, okay?

Thankful for our friendship,

Julie

[golotomer]

Julie, 

I'm on a limited time frame this morning but wanted to get my daily post in and let you know I had read your message.  You and I need another forum where we can post anonomously so we vent more!   

Friends can be so important in helping you through the hard times of your life!  Thank you for being a friend. 

I will send you an email over the weekend...I promise! 

[jcribb16]

Kim,

You have a great point.    Friends do help you make it through some rough times.  Sometimes I feel there are some closer, more caring friends I've never even met in person!!  I've noticed that true "online" friends stick through the thick and the thin, no matter what the situation/s.  Some "in-person" friends suddenly change when the going gets rough and they don't really want to get bogged down.  I can understand that totally.  But my heart  gets involved with family or friends (whether in person or online) and I want to help or encourage or comfort in any way I can.  I know that feeling of helplessness, frustration, fear, etc. of going through situations myself and how much it helps for someone to actually listen and stand by my side when things happen.  I'm thankful that we have met, through your blog, and on FB, and gotten to know each other.  It would be wonderful if we could actually meet, in person, one day down the road!    There are about 3 or 4 in this forum I would love to meet in person, including you!!

Here's to you having a great school day and maybe a surprisingly good night - Sounds like you two should try and head out on another date night this weekend! 

(((hugs))),

Julie     



 

[golotomer]

Julie, 

Again I'm on limited time this morning but hope to get an email out to you later.  As to the situation with your DIL...how dare her!  I'm all about keeping relationships together but if she was married to my son I'd really feel for his situation.  She sounds really controlling, disrespectful and unethical especially in light of what you have done to help them and the fact that you are her husband's mother.  I wouldn't treat a stranger the way she has treated you! 

That whole thing with their family and the facebook pages is so immature.  I hate it when people take their fights online.  There is nothing classy about mouthing off in an online format. 

Question...what would you think of me setting up an anonymous blog site where we could chat more openly but it would also be out there for others to join in and vent and discuss whatever topic comes to mind?  I don't want to do that on facebook for sure and on here is okay for daily howdy dos but there are just somethings you don't go into details about. 

I can set something up pretty quickly if you are interested. 

Kim

[jcribb16]

Kim,

I would most definitely be interested in an anonymous blog!  Let me know when it's ready!

My DIL still hasn't responded to my note - basically ignoring me.  What she doesn't know is on Tuesday I have to go back to the doctor down there and either my MIL or my FIL is going to go with me and just show up at my mom's house.  We are going to ask to pick up our/their/Veronica's items from the garage.  If she is at her mom's we'll stop there, instead, and ask the same thing.  I can't imagine how she's going to explain herself out of this one with those items either in her mom's garage.  They may have sold them by now for all I know.  They have been known to do that.  Her mom once worked at a consignment shop (during the time we were "protecting" our DIL) and was caught stealing and re-selling store items.

My MIL and FIL just don't want me to go alone, and our DIL is kind of afraid of them - so just their presence, they are hoping, will maybe put her in her place.  They're thinking if she knows they are involved, that our son is going to find out what she's doing.  He'll be furious when he finds out what's going on.

Hoping your situation is bearable today since you are off.  Thanks for the email!  TTYL, my friend!

Julie  

[golotomer]

I'm glad they are going with you.  Surely she won't show her butt with an audience. 

Here is the site.  I only had time for one post and haven't had time to rearrange the site the way I want but this will get us started.  I'm going to see if I can add you as an administrator so you can help run it.  For now it's good enough to get us started but we could offer it to other people if we decide to open it up in the future. 

http://sisterhoodofthewaawaas.blogspot.com/2011/06/let-blogging-begin.html

[golotomer]

Just a quick note to wish everyone a happy father's day.  Although my dad died in 1985 I still miss him.

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[jka861]

I'm always looking for a place to blog and discuss things on my mind or that of my friends.  What better place than here! 

A little about myself, I'm 56 years old, currently unemployed and trying to stay afloat in today's economy.  I always was very frugal minded and have been participating in and honing my skills in voluntary simplicity for many years. 

I'm planning on going back to school as of February for Medical Assistant in hopes that a job in the medical field will be easier to find that one in IT where I used to work. 

I knit, crochet, work on genealogy, raise three fur babies and spend a lot of time on the computer playing games or chatting with friends on social networks. 

I'm also looking for a new friend or new project to keep me busy. 

Tell me a little about yourself and let's chat.

I enjoy this post. I discovered this forum yesterday and I think it is a great community. I love working on my blogs, helping people sharpen their skills. I enjoy learning new things. I especially love anything about finances, now to make money, save money, etc.

I just came back from a trip to Germany, to attend my daughter's graduation.  I had a great time. I like reading Forbes, Fortune, USA Today, Newsweek. I spend time on Facebook, Twitter and I like meeting new people. I just wanted to say hello and wish everyone a Happy Father's Day!

[jcribb16]

I want to wish all of your families a Happy Father's Day. 

[golotomer]

Good Monday morning. 

Monday's are a bad way to spend 1/7 of your life!   

Hope everyone had a good Father's day.  I spent mine with my son.  He never sees his Dad so he called and asked to take me to dinner.  We spent the day shopping and getting some things ready for him to move to his new apartment.  He and his fiance will be moving July 1st and this apartment will be some better than the last.  It's one the first floor instead of the second and is on a level street instead of one on a steep hill.  The kitchen is larger with more cabinets and they will have a basement for their washer and dryer.  The only drawback to the new apartment is the 70's carpeting.   

Till later.

Kim