Discipline and slacking parents.....

[tzs]

Me and my husband went to the park with our daughter Zorah last week, and all of the children that played with her were subdued and normal for the most part, but there was this one little girl....Long story short, my daughter went to pet her dog, and this little girl kicked the dog!!!!! NOT JUST ONCE, OVER AND OVER! Her mother just sat idly on a swing, reading her  book, and ignoring her childs behavior completely. To top it off, she was never told by her mother or anyone,( except myself and my husband to "cool it" and to stop kicking the dog) that this was not the way to behave to animals. So, I walked away for a moment while my husband stayed with Zorah to keep an eye on this situation, Come to find out later that this strange little girl hauled off and punched my daughter in the FACE! UNPROVOKED! Even the other children refused to play with this little girl untill she apologized to my daughter for what she did,and her mother continued to sit on the swing, reading her book and talking to other parents, completely oblivious. All of these children are aged 2-4yrs old!!!!  My husband got so angry, he swooped Zorah up and we headed home.  PERSONALLY, I wanted to kick some slacker-mom *bleep*. This MF mom let her child abuse animals, scream and yell at other children, and punch people-she didn't do a thing about it!  Very disturbing behaviour-CAN YOU SAY "FUTURE LITTLE SERIAL KILLERS OF AMERICA ?!?!?!?!"

I say that, to pose this question-what do you do when your child is getting picked on by another child when both parents are there? Do you take it upon yourself to step in and lay down the law, or do you approach the parent and inquire as to why their child is so violent?

[mlhnceh]

If another child is hurting one of my children, I would not hesitate to talk to that child as I am removing my child from harm.  Depending on the level of violence, I would then talk to the parent.  Like do you realize that your child is punching people in the face?  My son goes to speech, and it amazes me the number of parents that ignore their children while they text or play games. 

[freepcmoney]

Me and my husband went to the park with our daughter Zorah last week, and all of the children that played with her were subdued and normal for the most part, but there was this one little girl....Long story short, my daughter went to pet her dog, and this little girl kicked the dog!!!!! NOT JUST ONCE, OVER AND OVER! Her mother just sat idly on a swing, reading her  book, and ignoring her childs behavior completely. To top it off, she was never told by her mother or anyone,( except myself and my husband to "cool it" and to stop kicking the dog) that this was not the way to behave to animals. So, I walked away for a moment while my husband stayed with Zorah to keep an eye on this situation, Come to find out later that this strange little girl hauled off and punched my daughter in the FACE! UNPROVOKED! Even the other children refused to play with this little girl untill she apologized to my daughter for what she did,and her mother continued to sit on the swing, reading her book and talking to other parents, completely oblivious. All of these children are aged 2-4yrs old!!!!  My husband got so angry, he swooped Zorah up and we headed home.  PERSONALLY, I wanted to kick some slacker-mom *bleep*. This MF mom let her child abuse animals, scream and yell at other children, and punch people-she didn't do a thing about it!  Very disturbing behaviour-CAN YOU SAY "FUTURE LITTLE SERIAL KILLERS OF AMERICA ?!?!?!?!"

I say that, to pose this question-what do you do when your child is getting picked on by another child when both parents are there? Do you take it upon yourself to step in and lay down the law, or do you approach the parent and inquire as to why their child is so violent?

I too have seen children totally ignored by their parents. In my case it has been Mexican parents. I have spoken up on several occasions. Made on parent mad, but I didn't care. I really think it is your responsiability to speak up when you see children BEING ABUSED by the parent.

It is CHILD ABUSE when the child is ignored by the parent. In fact I think that the stupid *bleep* laws that put parents in jail for whipping their kid's *bleep* should be REVERSED and punish parents for IGNORING THEIR KIDS and REFUSING to discipline the kids.

[ULuvCeCe]

Oh you better believe if that kid was hitting my child I would be saying something to that parent. People need to take responsibility for how their children act it really is amazing how out of hand kids are these days. I'm only 26 and it makes me old to talk like this but when I was a kid you better believe if I did something like that I was getting a swat. I also grew up in a town where other parents could scold me and my family knew the other parent was in the right. It's just pure laziness on the part of parents who don't teach their kids wrong from right.

Also did you say that the dog belonged to that little girl? I would've called the humane society or something to have him taken out of their custody. No animal ever deserves to be abused and you know if he would've bit her the mom would've finally got off her butt and then had the dog put down when in reality the whole situation was her fault

[footemama]

I get accused of being a "helicopter parent" but I can assure you that if my child did that the discipline would be swift and he would be apologizing for whatever it was that he did! I have seen many many parents not pay any attention to what their child is doing at the playground. It makes me mad because not only could they be bullying someone else, they could get seriously injured by falling off the play structure or they could wander away and get hit by a car or kidnapped, or at our park drown in the duck pond. When I see other children being mean (verbally or physically) I remove my child from the situation while telling him that he doesn't need to play with kids that can't be nice. So far it has worked out well and he has never actually been punched. Pushed yes and once really close to the edge of the play structure (with a 6 foot drop). That time I told the child to please not push people up there because they could get hurt. The mom glared at me but whatever.....if she had been paying attention it may not have happened.

I would wonder about the girl though. Kicking the dog without the mom saying anything....may be some abuse going on in that house!

[sgluckadoo]

I have siad it many times... parenting is a verb, it requires action.. it does not always come naturally, despite the fact that most people can reproduce quite easily.

[tzs]

Ohhhh Believe me!!!! It took everything I had in me not to take action after I was informed about what happened to my Zorah.  I am pretty frank when I talk to people about certain things. I wanted to say this:

"HEY......so are you just going to continue to let your kid be a jerk to everyone, or what?" "She punched my kid, you should make her apologize!!!"

and if she responded in an undesireable manner......

" By the way-Cruelty to Animals, lady??? Really??? Do you kick your dog around too??? Your child is going to kick the wrong dog oneday and its gonna tear her little but apart!"


BUT....I didn't say that, because we were already driving away, but I almost made my husband take me back so I could knock that silly book out of her hand and tell her to watch her kid play and be interactive with her so she could correct her and teach her the right way to act towards  others. Maybe if she did that, her daughter wouldnt manifest such disturbing behaviour towards animals and other kids!!!!!  I hardly EVER sit down when I go to the park with our daughter, let alone have time to read a book!!!!

...Sorry guys, this lady and her kid really stabbed me in the craw!!!!!!

[careykln]

I hate when I see a child doing some dangerous things or just being mean and these parents act like it is ok and most of the time it is these women too worried about themselves to care about there kids.

[amyrouse]

I believe there is a difference between letting kids try to work conflicts out themselves, and standing back and doing nothing when they push, shove, hit, etc each other.  The kicking the dog thing should have been stopped immediately, not just for the well being of the dog, the safety of the abuser kid, but every kid at that park.  That dog could have snapped at any time and bitten any number of kids in public because of one little brat.

I've seen my two year old push people, and I stop her and make her apologize, explaining that we don't like it when other people push us, so we shouldn't do it to them.  Its one of those things that takes time, and if a parent isn't involved, then they aren't doing their job.  Its not being a helicopter parent if you're attempting to teach your child right from wrong.  I've also seen my daughter pull a dog's tail and I immediately stop her and tell her no.  When she plays with her cousins or friends (she's a little socialite), they work things out between them for the most part without my having to step in.  That's part of the development of kids. 

It just sounded like that parent was ignoring their child, though, and that is just insanity to me.

[TamRomLop]

I understand you on this matter. Although I would have had to say something to the mother. She may not watch her kids but, I watch mine and if they're in danger from bullying or whatever it is my job to protect them. I can not discipline her child for her but, if her child hurts my child she will be told about it. Whether she likes it or not. For a child that young to be that mean, I believe they see that violence somewhere to learn to be that violent.

[bschumacher]

I agree with the people who would have spoken to that negligent mother. If she gets enough peer pressure, she'll change.

[slowg8]

i have unfortunately been a close observer to one parent being completely oblivious (or maybe it was simple denial) to their child having malicious behaviiour towards other children, cats, dogs & a rabbit.  when confronted about the issue i was told to mind my own business since the child was not mine.  of course time has gladly supported me because now that parent sees the devastation their child has caused...he's progressively gotten so much worse & is headed down a bad road because of no discipline.  it's a little too late now.

[travislang]

i would and i have told my daughtr and son if you getting hit or abused in anyway,you have the right to protect yourself so kick some *bleep* back, just dont start the fight is all

[missbuckwild]

It just goes to show that some people are not cut out for the responsibility of being a parent whatsoever!!!!