why cheat in a relationship?

[nelisa20]

Why do people cheat in a relationship instead of just breaking up?

[mh874892]

Speaking from high school experience (does that count?)... Cheating was more fun because it was like rebelling against what you were supposed to do. I was always like the good All-American girl, so that was kind of my rebellion. I thought it would be easier than dumping than guy and breaking his heart. Of course that is really stupid because it just ends up hurting them worse. I think it's an immaturity thing as well. If you aren't happy, then face the confrontation and get it over with. Looking back now, I see how stupid it was. I can't imagine cheating anymore. My husband gives me a hard time about my past (jokingly) just because he knows I feel so bad about it. But I say it got me to him, so it's worth it!

[mrstina08]

I just never understood this. I think people dont have to cheat. Im not a cheat by all means necessary. Cheating is a choice regardless of your circumstances.  Some folks put themselves in situations to jeopardize and humiliate themselves. I dont know  why  it is so hard for people to just let go of the relationship if you know you have fallen out of love, you no longer want to be with your partner, lack of trust etc.

[healthfreedom]

It makes no sense to cheat in you're in a relationship. The purpose of establishing a relationship is to avoid cheating, and to have a source of strength to resist temptation.

[EAngels]

Can't understand how you'll cheat to a person you love. It's like trusting easily to others, I don't want to understand what kind a human being that would be? A person that never grow up. What a shame....feel sorry for that kind of person.

[edugie]

There's no excuse whatsoever capable of justifying the act of cheating. A guy might claim testosterone but still, it doesn't justify the action.

[angelhome]

It makes no sense to cheat in you're in a relationship. The purpose of establishing a relationship is to avoid cheating, and to have a source of strength to resist temptation.

well said... I am with you.  cheating is likened to standing before a large silent smooth lake - the cheat throws a large rock into the middle and it begins to make the water wave in all directions. likened to hurting every one who is near as it rolls waves over hearts that are broken. Friends that are disappointed, trust that is broken, integrity that is tarnished. When someone begins cheating early in life, it carries over into life until they fall on their face. than all those they have walked over on the way up, they will have to face on their way down.

[ULuvCeCe]

There's no excuse whatsoever capable of justifying the act of cheating.

Can't understand how you'll cheat to a person you love.

I'm not using this as an excuse because it wasn't, it was a reason. When I did cheat on someone it was because I was bored or I wasn't satisfied in an area of my relationship or that other person gave me the attention I felt I deserved. I take full responsibility for my cheating. EAngels not all cheaters are in love with the person they are with, I've only been in love twice and have had a number of relationships. Some people may cheat a month into dating someone and well, if they were already in love with the person that early on there may have been bigger issues in the future for them anyway.

[marieelissa]

Cause you want someone new but don't want to lose the one you're with.

[travislang]

first i want to say cheating is both male and female roles.....now that is said, i dont agree with cheating at all. it makes things so much better for all involved to just tell the person you dont love them anymore or they just not satisfing you anymore or whatever the case is. yes it hurts but hurts less then to catch someone cheating. i promise it does hurt way more to catch them cheat. i myself confess i done it one time. there is no exuse but my ex uccused me of cheating for 6 years even though i hadnt done it..one day i saw a chance and fiqured im getting blamed so why not...i regret it everyday....but no we did not divorce for that,other issues...

[nelisa20]

Cause you want someone new but don't want to lose the one you're with.

and I think that is just plain selfish and hurtful to everyone involved.

[nelisa20]

There's no excuse whatsoever capable of justifying the act of cheating. A guy might claim testosterone but still, it doesn't justify the action.

guys say that all the time, but I completly agree with your statement.

[dell9031]

Are we talking in marriage or dating?

[nelisa20]

Are we talking in marriage or dating?

both

[charmaine56]

If men are conditioned or mind controlled which is highly likely that they had a patriarchal dominated father who taught them this was the way to go.

these men dont have their soul with them. ask the next man that cheats on you. do you have a soul.  soul cleansing is important to growth. and men have chosen to not care about this.

my x cheated on me while I was in the hospital after having his son.  he was young and it was the testosterone thing.  however it ruined the rest of the time I tried to be 2 people in love to raise my son in love and until he was 4 that was fine but after that I could not do it so lightly anymore. pay for my education. do all the work and then work for pay to support us. My son ended up with a mean spirit just like most upper level masons have.

They just dont respect a woman as a person. It must be the *bleep* thing. that just cause you got one you can be this rude person who insults even the woman you love.

oh well. i just think they are mind controlled.