What you think of people

[dexterjrh]

What do you think of people that judge or claim to you that you judge others.

[evilpixiemagic]

haha,,sounds like the pot calling the kettle black..

but really, wouldnt someone be judging me by saying that I am judgeing people?   its an endless cycle huh

[jongarton]

yes that is a rhetorical statement with irony mixed in too.... if they didn't judge you they wouldn't have something to say!

[vicogden]

“Judge not, that you be not judged." -- Matthew 7:1

This comes from the Bible, but nearly all religions have similar quotes regarding The Golden Rule, tolerance and judgment.  To have an opinion is OK, but to judge others based solely on your beliefs is not.

[jordandog]

I honestly think that all people judge others, it's human nature. Think about it, don't we all look at those around us and form some kind of opinion about them by how they dress, how they speak, their overall presence, etc.? I am not saying 'judging' them as if it is a negative thing though and I think most people think of 'judgement' in that way. I am always aware of what the people around me are doing and part of that is just self preservation and instinct. Passing judgement on someone in a negative way BEFORE you know anything about them is wrong in my opinion.

I think it depends on how you define 'judge/judgement'. I have NO idea if anything I said makes sense to anyone who reads it, but hopefully you get the gist of it.

[vicogden]

I agree with you jd... we all judge as part of our instinctual make-up.  That can't be helped.  When you see someone for the first time, you "judge" their situation based upon what you see.  You hit the nail on the head though when you said--and I'm paraphrasing--that people shouldn't judge a person negatively without knowing his or her situation.  The old phrase "don't judge a book by it's cover" is applicable.  Like you said, it's basically how you are trying to assess the situations and definitions of judgment itself.  Take care.

[jbcratchet]

I do my best not to judge people.  Those who judge people are insecure with who they are.

[DarkMistress]

I do my best not to judge people.  Those who judge people are insecure with who they are.

LMAO, I completely disagree with that. It has nothing to do with being insecure for most people. I believe it is just what people, our parents possibly, even society has TAUGHT us. Plus I agree with a few comments already made, it is just in our nature as human beings, and who we are. But seriously, come on... insecure? There are MANY forms of judgment, and not all are bad. You can look at someone and based on maybe how they talk, look, or act, you can make the snap judgment that they must have a great life, or be a good person, or be nice, or had a good upbringing and etc... BUT that too is a judgment. It does not have to be negative to "JUDGE" someone, like assuming they are poor, a criminal, stupid, or etc... just because of how they look, dress, talk, or act.

So if I am walking down the street and see someone who is smiling, and based on that I make a judgment that they must be a happy person... how is that insecure? IT IS still judging someone... OR what if I see someone, and they are yelling into his/her cell phone and I make a judgment about them thinking they must be a very angry person, how is THAT being insecure? I am ONLY judging them by their ACTS, it has nothing to do with me being insecure or not. I am not thinking about the situation, or talking to the person to find out why they are yelling or smiling, I am simply JUDGING them. Maybe that smiling person is actually a b**ch/a**hole, and was smiling because they were thinking about how they insulted some old lady earlier for walking to slow. What if that yelling person was really one of the nicest people in the world, sweet, soft spoken, but just learned that his/her wife/husband ran off with the neighbor and took all of their savings from the bank?

Anyway my point is that judging someone is NOT based on being insecure. My other point is not ALL judgment is negative, and not all judgment is done by way of gossiping or talking about someone to another person.

I also wanted to add, even if you supposedly try not to... you will fail miserably. It is in our core nature, it is who we are, positive or negative, we ALL judge others ALL the time. From the simplest kind of way, to the more complex, or even gossip kind. Here is a few more examples:

1) Lets say you are at the bank or the store, and you are given the choice between 2 open lines to get into. Lets say BOTH have the exact same amount of people, and items (if at store), but then you notice the cashier/tellers face. Lets say one is smiling, and the other looks tired, or upset. WHICH line will you get into? You KNOW you would get into the smiling one's line. And if you say you wouldn't then you are a liar. This is judging the cashier/teller just on a smile. You don't know them, for all you know the one smiling is one of the slowest ones around.

2) This happens all the time... you are out, maybe at a bar. You see two women (or men) standing by the wall. You almost ALWAYS will judge them on looks first, then maybe how they are dressed, before you decide which to approach possibly. However again it is JUDGING, and for all you know the one dressed down or not as handsome/pretty, or not as sexy etc... could have been your true love, or could have been the perfect match for you.

3) This is a common judgment a lot of parents make about their child's friends... lets say your child starts getting into trouble, and seems to be mimicking things he/she saw another child do and etc... now lets say before this sudden change happened, you noticed your child hanging out a lot with two different children. You have never actually met or talked to these two friends, but when you see them you make a judgment based on how they look. One is dressed nice, hair combed, and etc... the other is dressed down some, maybe wearing jeans with rips in them or etc... and hair is wild, or "slicked" back. Most parents are going to judge and assume the one dressed down is the trouble maker, teaching your child to be bad, or that your child is mimicking. Though for all you know, that one could be the one trying to STOP your child from getting into trouble after following the lead of the nice dressed one who is the real trouble maker.

[walksalone11]

I do my best not to judge people.  Those who judge people are insecure with who they are.

LMAO, I completely disagree with that. It has nothing to do with being insecure for most people. I believe it is just what people, our parents possibly, even society has TAUGHT us. Plus I agree with a few comments already made, it is just in our nature as human beings, and who we are. But seriously, come on... insecure? There are MANY forms of judgment, and not all are bad. You can look at someone and based on maybe how they talk, look, or act, you can make the snap judgment that they must have a great life, or be a good person, or be nice, or had a good upbringing and etc... BUT that too is a judgment. It does not have to be negative to "JUDGE" someone, like assuming they are poor, a criminal, stupid, or etc... just because of how they look, dress, talk, or act.

So if I am walking down the street and see someone who is smiling, and based on that I make a judgment that they must be a happy person... how is that insecure? IT IS still judging someone... OR what if I see someone, and they are yelling into his/her cell phone and I make a judgment about them thinking they must be a very angry person, how is THAT being insecure? I am ONLY judging them by their ACTS, it has nothing to do with me being insecure or not. I am not thinking about the situation, or talking to the person to find out why they are yelling or smiling, I am simply JUDGING them. Maybe that smiling person is actually a b**ch/a**hole, and was smiling because they were thinking about how they insulted some old lady earlier for walking to slow. What if that yelling person was really one of the nicest people in the world, sweet, soft spoken, but just learned that his/her wife/husband ran off with the neighbor and took all of their savings from the bank?

Anyway my point is that judging someone is NOT based on being insecure. My other point is not ALL judgment is negative, and not all judgment is done by way of gossiping or talking about someone to another person.

I also wanted to add, even if you supposedly try not to... you will fail miserably. It is in our core nature, it is who we are, positive or negative, we ALL judge others ALL the time. From the simplest kind of way, to the more complex, or even gossip kind. Here is a few more examples:

1) Lets say you are at the bank or the store, and you are given the choice between 2 open lines to get into. Lets say BOTH have the exact same amount of people, and items (if at store), but then you notice the cashier/tellers face. Lets say one is smiling, and the other looks tired, or upset. WHICH line will you get into? You KNOW you would get into the smiling one's line. And if you say you wouldn't then you are a liar. This is judging the cashier/teller just on a smile. You don't know them, for all you know the one smiling is one of the slowest ones around.

2) This happens all the time... you are out, maybe at a bar. You see two women (or men) standing by the wall. You almost ALWAYS will judge them on looks first, then maybe how they are dressed, before you decide which to approach possibly. However again it is JUDGING, and for all you know the one dressed down or not as handsome/pretty, or not as sexy etc... could have been your true love, or could have been the perfect match for you.

3) This is a common judgment a lot of parents make about their child's friends... lets say your child starts getting into trouble, and seems to be mimicking things he/she saw another child do and etc... now lets say before this sudden change happened, you noticed your child hanging out a lot with two different children. You have never actually met or talked to these two friends, but when you see them you make a judgment based on how they look. One is dressed nice, hair combed, and etc... the other is dressed down some, maybe wearing jeans with rips in them or etc... and hair is wild, or "slicked" back. Most parents are going to judge and assume the one dressed down is the trouble maker, teaching your child to be bad, or that your child is mimicking. Though for all you know, that one could be the one trying to STOP your child from getting into trouble after following the lead of the nice dressed one who is the real trouble maker.

Not meaning to judge but...... I bet you talk......alot, wow.....

[DarkMistress]

@walksalone11, actually I don't. But I do write a lot, and when I respond to forums, or other things online I do tend to type a lot. Besides if you don't want to read it, then all you have to do is scroll your page down some, and skip it.

[walksalone11]

@walksalone11, actually I don't. But I do write a lot, and when I respond to forums, or other things online I do tend to type a lot. Besides if you don't want to read it, then all you have to do is scroll your page down some, and skip it.

Please call me Walks. I didn't say there was any thing at all wrong with your post. Try not to jump to conclusions so fast. Some times we need a "new" way of looking at things.

BTW, I like seeing what people have to say when they actually put a bit of thought into what they are saying.
Welcome to the forum, I'm the guy your Mo......errrrr.....I mean some of the other members here warned you about, lol. ;o)

[jcribb16]

     DarkMistress, those were some very good examples you gave.  You have the gift of writing to the point of the reader being able to picture what you are trying to get across.