What is wrong with married couples having separate rooms in the house?

[lgemini]

I have been married for 17 years and for the last eight years I have a separate room from my husband.  We are happy with this arrangement.   Since  I have been on disability any type of noise bothers me (my husband's snoring).  What is wrong with this?

[alwaysinstyle]

that's survival!!!nothing wrong with that!!!


GOD LUCK!!!

[lvstephanie]

There's nothing wrong with it. I guess some people may think separate bedrooms means that the couple doesn't want to sleep together because they have fallen out of love with each other, but that isn't always the case. I have a friend that is a bartender that works evenings and nights while her husband works in a standard day-shift. Because of their different sleep schedules, they opted to have separate bedrooms so that they wouldn't bother each other. But when they do have time, they aren't shy to "share the marriage bed" together.

[joyroos18]

nothing we do, he is always cold im always hot, better than killing each other lol

[pcoll]

never looked at the whole sharing different rooms this way...i thought it was 'falling out of love' but I guess its also a "survival" thing.....Personally, I dont want to have my own bed during marriage...Guess I'm still young and stuff

[shanster89]

I love sleeping in the same bed as my boyfriend but sometimes I just want to sleep alone! He sleeps in weird positions and he likes to cuddle that way all night and it hurts my back in the morning. I asked him once if we could not cuddle so close at night and it hurt his feelings so I deal with it. I figure I'm only 22, it's okay for now. Maybe when I'm older I'll have to have another talk though haha.

[bhm42004]

I don't think there is anything wrong with it as long as it doesn't negatively effect the relationship.    My grandparents have separate rooms, one of my sisters has a separate room from her husband. 

[wittylance]

I have been married for 17 years and for the last eight years I have a separate room from my husband.  We are happy with this arrangement.   Since  I have been on disability any type of noise bothers me (my husband's snoring).  What is wrong with this?

I would think nothing as long as it is because of the noise not being able to sleep as long as you both agree and still spend time together.  Just becasue you are married doesn't mean that you have to sleep in the same bed.  But you still have to spend time like a married couple everyone needs to sleep.

[sudeshkum]

I have been married for 17 years and for the last eight years I have a separate room from my husband.  We are happy with this arrangement.   Since  I have been on disability any type of noise bothers me (my husband's snoring).  What is wrong with this?

Lack of mutual understanding leads to separation .......

we must learn to cop-up with any kind of situation in life. Flexibility in human nature and in life leads to a healthy relationship. i got married in 2010 and not much experienced as u r but one thing i have understood ,mutual understanding and respect for each other play  a very important role in ever happly married life.  If u have any complaint with ur loved one just sit together for a while and discuss ur problems, listen smthing & say smthing. I am damm sure within few minutes you will sort out ur misunderstandings & life will be back on track. Nobody is perfect in this world ,don't hesitate to discuss ur weak points in front of ur loved one. coz 1+1 also make 11,  And last but not the least just want to say, life is too short, nobody knows what happen will in next moment,live and enjoy every moment of ur life with ur loved ones.     

[lannl]

I do not think anything is wrong with it. I snore really loud so I would not want to subject my spouse to it. I like to sleep alone anyway.

[marz32]

Marriage is about for better or worse, most people need there alone time once and a while, but I would think I would grow further away from my wife if we slept in separate rooms. I have been married 8 years and I hope this never happens.

[noirlupe]

In my house the bed is so uncomfortable and we cant get a new one because of only 1 income right now.  My husband has a demanding physical job and the bed hurts his back.  He sleeps on the couch and I have the uncomfortable bed.  It works for us but we are still happily married.

[Style2011]

I'm not getting married eveeeeeer....I love just the way my life is.

[tashamjoy]

I personally think nothing is wrong with this at all !!! If this works for you great !!!! I think this is a great idea for some couples who just dont get along but dont want to divorce i have seen this with some people who just kinda dont have feelings for one another but do not want a divorce which i think this is a lot better then getting a divorce

[fogarty815]

I don't think there is anything wrong with sleeping seperately. My husband and I have 2 small children and I catch him on the couch all the time now that our son has decided to sleep with us on occassion.  I think the important part is that you have intimacy in the relationship and spend positive time together. Whether that's cuddling while watching a movie or playing a board game together. Don't let people judge your marriage solely on the seperate bedrooms thing.