Maybe I'm Jealous

[ULuvCeCe]

So I have an acquaintance, someone I once called a friend. Great gal when she is herself but unfortunately she is someone that morphs into who she is with. She now has 2 children, yet I feel like she is rarely around them. We are friends on facebook and either she is out to eat, she's at a hockey game, on vacation etc etc etc. Now maybe I am jealous that we are not financial off to pick up and go whenever we want but in my mind I'm thinking you call yourself a mom and want more? You're kids are at daycare M-F at least 8 hours a day and what you feed them, put them to bed or obviously take them to a sitter all while you work for the family farm and could easily afford to stay home and care for them yourself. Thoughts?

[supersassyjlb]

Maybe you two have grown out of your friendship. My friends the very few that I have are very close and talk almost everyday, but we have separate lives away from each other. And we're very happy with the way it is. I would just be happy for her and be there for her. And if it bothers you that this is happening with her children, ezpress your concerns, maybe it'll make you better friends. You never know. 

[dreamyxo]

Unless you know this person in real life (you said you are FB friends) you don't know what really happens behind closed doors.  All you know is what she is posting on FB you don't know everything that's going on in her life.  To me it sound like you are judging her and criticizing her skills as a mother when you might not even know the whole truth.  How's the view from that glass house?

[batmobile]

So I have an acquaintance, someone I once called a friend. Great gal when she is herself but unfortunately she is someone that morphs into who she is with. She now has 2 children, yet I feel like she is rarely around them. We are friends on facebook and either she is out to eat, she's at a hockey game, on vacation etc etc etc. Now maybe I am jealous that we are not financial off to pick up and go whenever we want but in my mind I'm thinking you call yourself a mom and want more? You're kids are at daycare M-F at least 8 hours a day and what you feed them, put them to bed or obviously take them to a sitter all while you work for the family farm and could easily afford to stay home and care for them yourself. Thoughts?

she sounds stupid

[ULuvCeCe]

Maybe you two have grown out of your friendship.

We grew out of a real friendship years ago, like I said she is someone who morphs into who she is with and I just cannot support someone that doesn't have their own personality. With that said though....

Unless you know this person in real life (you said you are FB friends)

I do know this person in real life, I've known her for 5+ years, we used to work together. I now see her at various functions as a mutual friend brought us back into touch so we are very cordial. I do not see this as judging her, it's my opinion of the fact that she is never around her children and professes how she would love more. I just don't understand people like that.

[loulizlee]

I don't understand people like that, either.  Don't waste another minute thinking about it.  As you said, she may have been a friend once, but now she is a mere acquaintance.  Real friends are the same - no matter who they are with or what they are doing.

[diala84]

Not everyone is cut out to be a certain role some people would go crazy without leaving the house. I can understand when people want to keep working when they have children and I can also see why they might want to stay at home and take care of the kids. There is no right way and each person must decide for themselves. Perhaps by working more she plans to provide more for her child and to be able to give them luxuries they otherwise wouldn't have. You also said that you don't have much communication anymore and are seeing her FB updates. IMO people aren't always completely truthful on FB and there may be more to the story than meets the eye. If her actions and opinions bother you then maybe you aren't really meant to keep this friendship.

[mh874892]

I know many people who act differently depending on who they are around, and it is really annoying. I completely understanding your friendship fading because of this, even if it isn't the only reason. As for the mom issues, I don't think it is right to not spend time with your children when you can. However, like others have said you may not know the whole story.