I guess Im just old fashion

[BK_Adores_Chase]

Well for me, and I know this is bad, but I have a 3 1/2 year old and a 7 month old and sometimes at the end of the day I am so exhausted that it's easier for me to look the other way than dicipline because it's such a struggle, but the reason it's a struggle is MOST LIKELY because I'm not consistant (because I'mexhausted) but I know this is wrong and as parents sometimes we need to do what's best for our kids not what's convenient for myself.

[sommap]

I am also old-fashioned.  I heard a four year old neighbor brat (boy) tell another older neighbor that if she called the cops on him, they wouldn't do anything as he ws too  young to go to juvie.  A family with four bratty kids moved in behind me with their grandmother for about a year.  When they finally moved and the house was foreclosed, they had carpets that were destroyed and even holes in some of the walls, etc. 

[briannajeanxo]

i grew up in the nineties and its ridiculous how many people tell me im way too polite. i was always a quiet child and would NEVER disrespect my parents and they werent that strict..i always just hated getting yelled at..it made me feel embarrassed and degraded..but my sister, who is older..complete OPPOSITE..and her kids are HORRIBLE!

[charmaine56]

The ones in the military are different. But those who go to public schools and do not see their parents a lot seem to follow peer pressure easily now.

[mh874892]

While I agree that many kids are out of control, everyone acts like this never happened 20 or 40 years ago, give me a break, it just wasnt all over tv or in your face everyday.

That is a great point. Technology can make situations seem so much worse than they really are by exploitation. Because news travels so fast these days, people hear about things within minutes when it would have taken months in the past. Technology can make out of control kids seem more prevalent, when in all actuality it has been happening for decades. Again, great point!

[donnitab]

Why is that the children of the nineties seem mostly disrespectful and have a lack of goals and morals. I for one blame the parents...to a certain extent. My growing up consisted of strict rules and discipline but it seems like the parents now-a-day are afraid of their own children. I look at the adults now and talk to them and they would not have dared do some of the things that kids now have no hesitation about doing or saying. What is the world coming to? I say get the switches out and save our children's lives because if we don't life will do much worse. -spare the rod, spoil the child-

I completely agree with you. It is definitely a lack of respect and I believe the kids today have no fear of anything. I believe it is a combination of things but parenting, or lack of it, contributes greatly. These days are far different from when I was a teenager thats for sure.

[nancy661]

Why is that the children of the nineties seem mostly disrespectful and have a lack of goals and morals. I for one blame the parents...to a certain extent. My growing up consisted of strict rules and discipline but it seems like the parents now-a-day are afraid of their own children. I look at the adults now and talk to them and they would not have dared do some of the things that kids now have no hesitation about doing or saying. What is the world coming to? I say get the switches out and save our children's lives because if we don't life will do much worse. -spare the rod, spoil the child-

I still say every kid needs a good spanking

[squirrelgirl44]

I teach my child manners. She is often complimented on how polite she is. I also blame parents for not doing a better job of teaching their kids to respect others. It's annoying!!!

[mrisha]

I am old school also.  I would never stand for disrepect from my child.  I can't see accepting BS from a child that I gave birth to and being afraid of them.  It just doesn't compute.  So many parents are afraid to discipline their children because most are so spoiled and they call 911.  If mine did that I would tell 911 to keep him/her and let the child get a taste of what its like not to have your own bed, toys, TV, food and clothes.  When parents allow the child to take over then all is lost. 

[queenofnines]

"Children of the 90s"?  Um, most of them are teenagers or older; are you sure you mean 90s?

And every generation says the next is getting worse and worse.  I'm sure they said it about your generation, too.   

[Relarra]

My children are 7, 5 and 3 years old. And honestly my kids know what is right and what is wrong. They wouldn't dare hit me (or any other adult for that matter) just because I said no to something at the store. At home my youngest two try the "I can get what I want if I just hit mommy/daddy" but they then get into HUGE trouble for it. As for the "switches" and "rods" or yesturedays gone by...it's because it is no illegal to spank a child other then just a single "swat" on the bum..and ONLY if the child is between the ages of 2 and 12. If they are older, or younger, you can be charged as a child abuser. At least that's the way it is in Canada now. I found that out when my family was called into Social Services by one of our old next door neighbours, not because we were actually doing anything wrong but because I refused to keep my kids locked up inside my house all day so that they could have a quiet peaceful day EVERY DAY! They didn't like it that young kids were living next door to them and called us in saying we were leaving our young kids home alone all the time and that we were hitting them and making them bleed. All of which was total BS! I wouldn't hurt my kids EVER! My kids were 4, 2 and 6 months at the time.

[africanclaudie]

It seems there are no boundaries anymore. It is a pain to continue enforcing the "rules" when a child is young, but that sets the tune for when they grow older and it makes life so much easier and pleasant.

[lindist]

I believe the children of today are as the children's of always. Laws are stricter to keep children safe, I acknowledge children needs constructive discipline. its one thing to spank a child its horrible to beat them. Our children our humans and if its not justifiable to beat an dog, spouse etc...then a trouble child needs help not beaten. I would give love taps to my toddler, my older childrens received the same discipline, now their older I punish them with removal of their technology, or grounded them for weeks. It works!

[springsgardner]

My kids were taught to say please and thank you, not to interrupt adults, etc. They're 11 and younger. I used to work in a middle school. Shortly after Columbine, a kid said something about wishing he could blow us all up. He simply had to apologize to me, his dad came in, and that was the end of it. I also think that our society complains that our kids are not polite and respectful, but they'll turn around and remove our kids from our homes when we discipline them. I don't want kids to be abused, but I do think that the government puts its nose into our personal and family business too often.

This may be a little off topic: I had a neighbor who was cooking dinner one night. While doing so, her toddler climbed into the bathroom sink and turned the hot water on and was scalded because she trapped herself. Social services, police, etc promptly investigated. Her child wasn't removed and she was told how to adjust her water heater to a safer temperature. However, there are cases like this where people jump the gun and remove the child. Then the child is abused in foster care. I also read an article about it in Reader's Digest about a kid who had brittle bone disease and was removed from their home due to bones breaking during a diaper change only to end up in the hospital multiple times due to starvation, dehydration, and other abuse by the foster family. It took the child's biological family over a year to get the child back at home.

My point is, our system is corrupt and some people are afraid of the system.

[marz32]

I am a child of the 80s.  I love my parents.  I am a military brat, so I believe in corporal punishment, since that is what I grew up with.  I have had multiple people criticize my discipline style and tell me that my kids are just babies and that they don't deserve to be spanked for kicking another child.  I WILL NOT have a bully in my house, but I will have kids that listen and understand what is right.  I get so upset when people tell me not to spank or that my child doesn't even deserve timeout for a certain offense.  especially when I see how their children are. 

I totally agree, kids need to be corrected and I wish my parents had corrected me more, then I would have been more humble and made less mistakes in my 20s