Do you believe that your family should always come first?

[hvnlydevil]

I do believe family does come first. Despite the long and sometimes thankless hours you put in-the reward is so much greater. Just be sure to savor those little moments you do get to yourself-crank the radio, dance in the mirror.

[catherinedwhite]

Family - for me, yes.  I am very grounded in family.

[desirea1987]

I think the "family" that actually act like family always come first....the other "ones" can kiss my butt lol

[sgluckadoo]

I think the "family" that actually act like family always come first....the other "ones" can kiss my butt lol

I agree. Not all families are created equal.

[sherryinutah]

No.  I believe taking good care of MYSELF is a higher priority.  Then I'll consider taking care of other people.  It's easy for me to say this now because my children are grown but when I was younger I learned....

the hard way....

that caring for other people first left me feeling drained and depleted.

[Barbaralynne]

I get up at four in the morning walk the dogs, make my meals for the day, do my point to clicks/surveys, and shower which is the extent of what I do for myself. After that I work until six PM, come home to work on a second job(if I am not carting the kids around), make dinner for the family if my wife is at sports which is three days of the week.  On the weekends I am doing my second job, yardwork, setting up the kid's activities, driving them to their parties, movies, sporting events, the mall etc.,etc. I might sneak a work-out in once per month and my body is paying for it. I have put on weight and my clothes are ill-fitted because of it.

 Talk about profiling! Until you mentioned your wife I thought you were one!  But I agree,family must come first, but you also have to take care of yourself. If you can't get in a normal work out,how about an interactive one with the kids?.

[musicaman68]

You are a very busy person. Whtat's your secret? My wife does the same things, bit sometimes she gets tired and needw help. I am only do half of what she does and I get so tired. We have two kids and one dog. I walk the dog most of the times, but she prefers to be with my wife. I help my kids with their homework and I make dinner too. My mom was the same way and I grew up watching her do most of the work at home.

[girlswin2]

Yes family should come first but not at the expense of your own health.  Trust me I have been down a long road of being pulled one way and then another and another and still trying to keep everything together.  You need to slow down and breath some.  How long has it been since you and your wife have been out together on a date night just the 2 of ya.  Sounds like you and the wife need to sit down and try to make things a little more simple for each of ya.  Sounds like your both running on empty and thats not leaving time out for anything that will keep you to close.  One way to help with the cooking is using crockpot meals.  You can put them on and they will be ready when you get home.  Walmart sells one that has 3 crockpots in one for under $50 runs on sale for 35  Would allow you to put one meat and veggies to be done when get home.  Always remember everyone needs "Me Time" and "Us Time" Don't know how old kids are but if they are old enough they could help out with things like cooking just show them and they culd at least start something before having to leave for the sport things. 

If your health goes then were will you and your family be that is the real question you need to ask yourself!  Start making time even if something else has to be stopped for a while to be able to do it.  Take care of yourself and hope things slow down for ya.  Your family is who you need to sit down with family meeting so to speak over dinner or after dinner.   

[emily01]

Family should come first to an extent, I believe.  But I also think that family shouldn't just get a free-pass for being blood related.  If someone is acting like an idiot, not taking advice, etc.... Well, there's only so much you can do before you're being taken advantage of.

[CharmedPhoenix]

Like the airlines say:  put the oxygen mask on yourself first, then on your child.  If you don't take care of yourself you might not be around to take care of your family.  If you don't take care of yourself you're setting a bad example for your kids and they'll grow up to neglect themselves too.  Please take care of yourself, it's the best thing you can do for them. 

[dodgers16]

   of course I believe that your family should always come first, if your family isn't first then who is? 

[blondie71]

Yes I believe family should come first, but I also feel we need a balance and time for ourselves.  You have to work to suport the family, I just made sure my son and I before I was married would spend time in the evening when I got off work becasue of being a single mother I had a lot to do.  I use to do in home care and my last client was to be at 5:00pm to 7:00pm so I didn't get home til 7:30pm so he ate dinner with his grandparents (which I prefered my mother babbysitting than a stranger and I paid the going rate in my area for her to take care of my son) I had Saterdays off and Sundays I worked two hours in the morning and two hours in the evening because that client was 7  days a week two hours in the morning and two hours in the evening. So we had the evenings and weekends together and we did things and I also had two week vacation every year and we would do something special.

[monnee]

Yes, that's why you have a family.

[donnitab]

Yes my family has always come first!!

[derrick12480]

For sure. family is everything to me. if you can't rely on them who can you?