Getting married. What changed?

[jtwillie1]

After being married for 2 years, the biggest change was determining how to spend our money. She wants one thing and I want other items.

[csomma]

I have been married for 14 years and we have two kids. Money will always be an issue. Best thing I can say is for both of you to sit down and honestly discuss your priorities, both short term and long term. Discuss what is important to you and where you want to be financially in the future.

[queensurvey]

everything changes it's not just "me" anymore it's "us" and that means you have to think for two most of the time!

[Azanne07]

i moved in with my husband a week after i met him dec 16th 2006 we got married june 23rd 2012.   

Ive actually been more involved in where our money goes. I try my hardest to save us money althou it doesnt always work. For the most part we do agree about where the money needs to be spenti disagree about the $24 he spends EVERY week on lottery tickets. believe me it does add up. 24 X 52 weeks = what is spent every year. and we have certainly lost more than what we have gained.

I think the biggest change is that after spending all this time together. for me its the little things that annoy me that just keep getting worst but i am working on that

[TimCookAppleCEO]

I am not married.  I get along very well with women (I guess).  Money has always been a problem for my relationships as well.

[gazikas]

No matter where things go and how tough a day may be --- always remember you are on the same team!!!  My first marriage you would have thought I was the enemy.  And he treated strangers better than me.  How many times I said if he would just give me the common curtesy of a stranger on the street.  Of course, that is a big clue to why I say "first" marriage. 

This time around is completely different.  I have someone that loves me for me!  Loves me enough that my annoying habits don't seem like any big deal - in fact some of them he finds humorous.  And same for me, if somethings is annoying I balance it out by thinking about the good and then decide if it just annoys me because it is my quirk.  If it is bigger than that then we talk about it for either of us.  We are in this together. 

All the time I see couples that treat each other like they are the enemy.  IF it ever starts down that road, nip it in the bud and remember why you are together, that you love each other and want the best for each other.  My best moments of arguments are when he reminds me he loves me and wants the best for me and then he gets mad because I am smiling and says don't laugh at me and I say I am not laughing at you. I am just so glad that you love me enough to care.  How can I not smile?  He says we are not arguing, we are growing.  And it is true, it feels so terrible in those few moments but we are stronger for it.

Best wishes and good luck!!

[charmaine56]

I dont hang around those kind of people for long, I believe in LOVE, creating your life, and leaving out 3D concepts.

[LaKecias]

I think money is always an issue in a marriage. My husband and I are different he a spender and i'm not. I like to spend but i just prioritize more. It ok so far because if times get tuff he has to worry about getting the money we need. I'm not.

[elysee24]

Seems like everything changed. Money is an issue in my relationship but since I don't have a job so I really can't say too much about how he wanna spend money or he would say it's his money and he can do whatever he wants!!

[BaudLight]

When you are single, you can do what you want, whenever you want, and you don't really have to worry about working out the details with another person.  When you get married, that changes big time.  You have to take into consideration how just about anything you do, affects your partner.

[davidh121]

Before you're married you want someone to spend the rest of your life with and if there isn't anyone at the time you feel lonely. However, when you do get married you feel like you're missing your freedom. When having someone there on an ongoing basis your goals and priorities seem to change. Having children make things even more complicated.

[plennis]

MONEY is always a problem.  So we put it all together in an account and then take out a bit for each of us to spend on whatever we want.  No questions asked. 

[mrisha]

Often couples make the biggest mistake when they plan to spend the rest of their lives together-They do not or will not talk about finances which should be the first thing they should talk about.  The next thing is Credit Scores.  If you have a horrible credit score then that will affect if you can buy any major items such as a car, house, getting a job these days.  Finding out after you are married that your spouse has a lot of debt, low credit scores and not paying bills is a nightmare you do not want to a part of in this world.

[Paulinha]

money is a HUGE problem always has and will always be sad but true