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ceevstee

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« on: January 27, 2013, 06:31:32 am »
In this time we are living in do you think its better to be alone, married, testing the waters, or be in a steady relationship? I would like to know your opinions all are welcome to post!!!

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« Reply #1 on: January 27, 2013, 07:20:12 am »
I'd like to be with someone i love to share life.

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« Reply #2 on: January 27, 2013, 07:26:16 am »
Life is not easy when the right person is hard to find.  If you can manage on your own, then keep it simple.  To married is an honor.   I would say keep looking until you find your soul mate.

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« Reply #3 on: January 27, 2013, 07:58:12 am »
Im not going to lie to you, marriage is hard. BUt if it is with the right person it is worth it.  :heart:

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« Reply #4 on: January 27, 2013, 11:48:30 am »
I'm in a relationship and it's nice to have someone to hold you at night, and chit chat when you go out. And I really love that someone.

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« Reply #5 on: January 27, 2013, 12:50:50 pm »
It's different for everybody.

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« Reply #6 on: January 27, 2013, 01:24:04 pm »
relationships are hard--i dont trust easily and after my divorce its even harder--i have done real good on my own raising my kids without someone but as i get older it would be nice to share again to be able to trust again to grow old together--but its so hard to find true love any more--

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« Reply #7 on: January 27, 2013, 01:40:47 pm »
I agree with "Falconer02", every person is different. It depends on what you are looking for in a relationship.....? Whatever you decide, don't put yourself down or become a doormat for another just to have companionship - rather then, go it alone. Good luck with your decision!

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« Reply #8 on: January 27, 2013, 01:44:03 pm »
Life is always better when you have company.

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« Reply #9 on: January 27, 2013, 02:12:27 pm »
In this time we are living in do you think its better to be alone, married, testing the waters, or be in a steady relationship? I would like to know your opinions all are welcome to post!!!

Good question, I like to be alone sometimes but, I also wish I could have someone in my life. I don't see myself getting married anytime soon because I would hate to get a divorce.
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« Reply #10 on: January 27, 2013, 03:29:45 pm »
In this time we're living in I would like to have someone with me. You need  support from someone.

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« Reply #11 on: January 27, 2013, 03:31:48 pm »
Well I guess there tried again. I say get married I've been made to most wonderful woman the last 40 years we are working on forever not this world only in this but in the world's to come we will be together with our family which is very good

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« Reply #12 on: January 27, 2013, 05:39:23 pm »
Right now I really don't care for finding a relationship.  Sometimes they are more trouble than they are worth and I just don't want to be bothered.  I'm just fine by myself.

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« Reply #13 on: January 27, 2013, 06:45:31 pm »
I was (and am) married for 28 yrs. My husband has behavioral problems that made life harder than it needs to be. He has many unresolved issues from his past regarding his parents and an old lover that jilted him. He is unable to move on from these things. In effect, he has voluntarily given over his whole life to those who wronged him, by emulating them and not letting go of hurt. His behavior caused a lot of mental anguish to me. He can be controlling and verbally abusive..all the same things that were done to him in his past, he now chooses to do to others. He has trouble with intimacy and so cannot be relied upon for any type of emotional support. In 2007, having had enough, I bought myself a cute little house and packed my stuff and moved in.

As part of his behavioral problems, he was devastated. The person (me) who he gave no value to while we were together, was suddenly now important.  He is still in my life at arms length. I will never allow him to live with me, and the relationship is totally on my terms now. He knows that if he does not treat me the way he is supposed to, I will divorce him and take him for everything hes got.  He treats me better than ever before and there are financial benefits. He pays my health and dental, gives me money and buys me things. We travel and he foots the bill. When he passes on, I will retain his sizeable pension and his property, as his spouse. Along with my own two pensions I will be extremely comfortable I am younger than he so I will probably outlive him.

I love him because I know there is a good person in there. I see his kindness and his generosity and his compassion. He is just unable to demonstrate those qualities in a day to day domestic live in situation. But I honestly cannot say I am "in love" with him. I also know if I lived with him, he would revert back to the ugly spouse he was before.  I live my own life and do whatever I want. I often travel alone, and I don't rely on him for day to day stuff. I am not looking, but if I ever ran into someone that I clicked with, I know I would explore that and see where it went.

I often wonder why I waited so long to leave, perhaps I would be living with someone who is able to be a normal loving partner by now. Oh well it is what it is.
I guess the point I really want to make here is that when you are in a relationship, and it carries any kind of emotional pain..that is not normal. Do not let it go on and on. If the other person is damaged, it is not your responsibility to help him or her get right. Each adult has a responsibility to bring their healthiest mental and physical self to their partner. If that is not DEMONSTRATED ( forget about verbal promises and words!) Get out, and dont let that person victimize you endlessly.

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« Reply #14 on: January 27, 2013, 07:02:58 pm »
I have been with my husband for 23 years now. Ever since we were kids. We have 2 boys that are 16 and 6 and 2 Jack Russell Terriers that we love very much. (I treat the dogs like they are my kids too) I love my family and would not want to be alone. I do however enjoy my alone time from now and then.  ;)

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